{"id":19214,"date":"2023-12-05T12:59:52","date_gmt":"2023-12-05T12:59:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/khi-khinh-ghet-tro-thanh-dong-luc-phai-thanh-cong-du-de-cuoi-nguoi-hom-truoc-hom-sau-nguoi-cuoi.html"},"modified":"2023-12-22T04:49:20","modified_gmt":"2023-12-21T21:49:20","slug":"khi-khinh-ghet-tro-thanh-dong-luc-phai-thanh-cong-du-de-cuoi-nguoi-hom-truoc-hom-sau-nguoi-cuoi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/khi-khinh-ghet-tro-thanh-dong-luc-phai-thanh-cong-du-de-cuoi-nguoi-hom-truoc-hom-sau-nguoi-cuoi.html","title":{"rendered":"Khi khinh gh\u00e9t tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh \u0110\u1ed8NG L\u1ef0C: Ph\u1ea3i th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec3 “c\u01b0\u1eddi ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u00f4m tr\u01b0\u1edbc, h\u00f4m sau ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u01b0\u1eddi”"},"content":{"rendered":"
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    Ch\u1eafc h\u1eb3n 90% ch\u00fang ta t\u1eebng ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng: “N\u1ebfu m\u00ecnh ch\u0103m ch\u1ec9 h\u01a1n ch\u1eafc th\u1ea7y c\u00f4 s\u1ebd \u0111\u1ec3 \u00fd m\u00ecnh h\u01a1n”, “N\u1ebfu m\u00ecnh h\u00e0o ph\u00f3ng h\u01a1n b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 s\u1ebd th\u00e2n thi\u1ebft v\u1edbi m\u00ecnh h\u01a1n”, “N\u1ebfu m\u00ecnh l\u00e0m nh\u1eefng vi\u1ec7c n\u00e0y thay c\u1ea3 nh\u00f3m, ch\u1eafc h\u1ecd s\u1ebd y\u00eau qu\u00fd m\u00ecnh h\u01a1n”… V\u00ec m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00e2n, h\u1ecd h\u00e0ng, b\u1ea1n b\u00e8, \u0111\u1ed3ng nghi\u1ec7p, ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau ho\u1eb7c b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 ai \u0111\u00f3 xung quanh, ch\u00fang ta th\u01b0\u1eddng \u00e9p b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n s\u1ed1ng trong \u00e1nh m\u1eaft ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, giao quy\u1ec1n quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh m\u1ecdi h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh cho nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi xung quanh v\u00e0 d\u1ea7n d\u1ea7n \u0111\u00e1nh m\u1ea5t c\u1ea3m x\u00fac th\u1eadt c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n.<\/p>\n

    Khi \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng b\u1ea5t m\u00e3n kh\u00f4ng vui v\u00ec \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3, ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta l\u00e0 nh\u1eadn l\u1ed7i v\u1ec1 m\u00ecnh, c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n ch\u01b0a \u0111\u1ee7 t\u1ed1t, l\u1ee1 l\u00e0m ph\u1eadt \u00fd h\u1ecd. Ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn ra m\u00ecnh b\u1ecb \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u b\u1edfi suy ngh\u0129 v\u00e0 \u00e1p l\u1ef1c \u0111\u1ebfn t\u1eeb ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, d\u1ea7n d\u1ea7n tr\u1edf n\u00ean t\u1ef1 ti, kh\u00f4ng d\u00e1m s\u1ed1ng th\u1eadt v\u1edbi ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh. Ch\u1ec9 v\u00ec l\u1ea5y l\u00f2ng m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00e0 tr\u1ea3 gi\u00e1 nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf c\u00f3 x\u1ee9ng \u0111\u00e1ng hay kh\u00f4ng?<\/p>\n

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    C\u1ef1u Th\u1ee7 t\u01b0\u1edbng Anh Sir Winston Leonard Spencer-Churchill, m\u1ed9t ch\u00ednh tr\u1ecb gia n\u1ed5i ti\u1ebfng v\u00e0 c\u00f3 r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u c\u00e2u n\u00f3i \u0111i v\u00e0o l\u1ecbch s\u1eed, lu\u00f4n tin r\u1eb1ng: “\u0110\u1eebng bao gi\u1edd l\u00e3ng ph\u00ed cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1ea5y l\u00f2ng t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi. B\u1ea1n s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd \u0111i \u0111\u1ebfn \u0111\u00edch, n\u1ebfu c\u1ee9 d\u1eebng l\u1ea1i v\u00e0 n\u00e9m \u0111\u00e1 v\u00e0o m\u1ed7i con ch\u00f3 b\u00ean \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng, ch\u1ec9 v\u00ec ti\u1ebfng s\u1ee7a c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang”.\u00a0<\/p>\n

    Ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f3 ai t\u1eeb khi sinh ra \u0111\u00e3 b\u1ecb ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c c\u0103m th\u00f9 hay ch\u00e1n gh\u00e9t nh\u01b0ng cho d\u00f9 l\u00e0 c\u00f3, \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u00e1ng s\u1ee3 nh\u01b0 t\u1eadn th\u1ebf hay tr\u1eddi long \u0111\u1ea5t l\u1edf. C\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi gh\u00e9t, c\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00f9 c\u0169ng ch\u1ec9 ch\u1ee9ng t\u1ecf b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u00eam \u0111\u1ed9ng l\u1ef1c, th\u00eam d\u0169ng c\u1ea3m v\u00e0 th\u00eam ki\u00ean tr\u00ec ph\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ea5u v\u00ec m\u1ed9t m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau quan tr\u1ecdng h\u01a1n.\u00a0<\/p>\n

    Suy ngh\u0129 t\u1eeb m\u1ed9t g\u00f3c \u0111\u1ed9 kh\u00e1c, ngay c\u1ea3 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n xa l\u1ea1, ch\u01b0a t\u1eebng g\u1eb7p m\u1eb7t tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00e2y, v\u1eabn c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 \u0111\u1ecbnh ki\u1ebfn sai l\u1ea7m trong suy ngh\u0129, \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng kh\u00f4ng t\u1ed1t t\u1edbi m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a hai b\u00ean. Cho d\u00f9 s\u1ef1 ch\u00e1n gh\u00e9t c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta xu\u1ea5t ph\u00e1t t\u1eeb l\u00f2ng \u0111\u1ed1 k\u1ef5, ganh t\u1ef5 hay coi th\u01b0\u1eddng, mi\u1ec5n l\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta t\u1ef1 x\u00e9t th\u1ea5y l\u1ed1i c\u01b0 x\u1eed c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p v\u00e0 v\u0103n minh, th\u00ec kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n qu\u00e1 \u0111\u1ec3 \u00fd hay lo l\u1eafng t\u1edbi nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00e0m ti\u1ebfu sau l\u01b0ng.<\/p>\n

    Kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 th\u1eed th\u00e1ch, con ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd c\u00f3 c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i t\u1eadn h\u01b0\u1edfng ni\u1ec1m vui chi\u1ebfn th\u1eafng. Cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u0169ng s\u1ebd “b\u1edbt vui” \u0111i r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u n\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n ch\u1ec9 bi\u1ebft x\u00e2y nh\u1eefng b\u1ee9c t\u01b0\u1eddng r\u1ed3i t\u1ef1 nh\u1ed1t m\u00ecnh b\u00ean trong ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u1ec3 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y an to\u00e0n. V\u00ec v\u1eady, h\u00e3y bi\u1ebft \u01a1n nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ed1i x\u1eed t\u1ec7 trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n, h\u00e3y h\u1ecdc t\u1eeb h\u1ecd v\u00e0 h\u1ecd s\u1ebd ch\u1ec9 cho b\u1ea1n bi\u1ebft ch\u00ednh x\u00e1c \u0111\u00e2u l\u00e0 m\u1eabu ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh. M\u1ed7i khi b\u1ea1n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y d\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0 m\u00ecnh \u0111ang b\u1ecb bao v\u00e2y b\u1edfi s\u1ef1 ch\u00e1n gh\u00e9t, c\u00f4 l\u1eadp c\u1ea3 trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1eddi t\u01b0 l\u1eabn c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c, h\u00e3y th\u1eed t\u1ef1 h\u1ecfi b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n r\u1eb1ng, nh\u1edd h\u1ecd, b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 h\u1ecdc \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng g\u00ec?<\/p>\n

    V\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1eebng coi th\u01b0\u1eddng, ch\u00e0 \u0111\u1ea1p hay s\u1ec9 nh\u1ee5c ch\u00fang ta, thay v\u00ec th\u00f9 gh\u00e9t ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u00e0 t\u1ed1n th\u1eddi gian ph\u00e0n n\u00e0n v\u1ec1 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3, h\u00e3y bi\u1ebfn ch\u00fang tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t ngu\u1ed3n \u0111\u1ed9ng l\u1ef1c c\u1ef1c m\u1ea1nh \u0111\u1ec3 v\u01b0\u01a1n l\u00ean v\u00e0 thay \u0111\u1ed5i nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ecbnh ki\u1ebfn sai l\u1ea7m b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i. Thay v\u00ec m\u1ea5t c\u00f4ng m\u1ea5t s\u1ee9c l\u1ea5y l\u00f2ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c m\u00e0 ch\u01b0a ch\u1eafc \u0111\u00e3 nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p g\u00ec, h\u00e3y d\u00f9ng th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng v\u00e0 b\u1ea3n l\u0129nh c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n \u0111\u1ec3 chinh ph\u1ee5c t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi xung quanh, \u0111\u1ec3 h\u1ecd kh\u00e2m ph\u1ee5c v\u00e0 t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng c\u00e1i t\u00f4i c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh nh\u1ea5t.<\/p>\n

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    Bi\u1ebft m\u00ecnh l\u00e0 ai v\u00e0 hi\u1ec3u gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

    T\u1ed5ng th\u1ed1ng th\u1ee9 26 c\u1ee7a Hoa K\u1ef3 Theodore Roosevelt t\u1eebng n\u00f3i: “Gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb kh\u00f4ng n\u1eb1m \u1edf nh\u1eefng k\u1ebb th\u00edch ch\u1ec9 tr\u00edch, v\u00e0 l\u1ea1i c\u00e0ng kh\u00f4ng n\u1eb1m \u1edf nh\u1eefng k\u1ebb th\u00edch ph\u00e1n x\u00e9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. Gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb th\u1eadt s\u1ef1 n\u1eb1m \u1edf nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111ang th\u1eadt s\u1ef1 chi\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ea5u, nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111ang l\u0103n l\u1ed9n c\u00f9ng \u0111\u1ea5t c\u00e1t, m\u1ed3 h\u00f4i v\u00e0 m\u00e1u, nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111ang n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c b\u1eb1ng t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 l\u00f2ng d\u0169ng c\u1ea3m, nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi d\u00e1m v\u1ea5p ng\u00e3 nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd g\u1ee5c ng\u00e3.”<\/p>\n

    B\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch hi\u1ec3u r\u00f5 v\u00e0 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn thi\u1ebfu s\u00f3t, v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua nh\u1eefng gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n c\u0169ng \u0111\u1ed3ng ngh\u0129a v\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c m\u1edf r\u1ed9ng kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng t\u01b0 duy v\u00e0 th\u00edch nghi, ch\u00fang ta s\u1ebd h\u1ecdc \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00e1ch khai ph\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u ti\u1ec1m n\u0103ng \u1ea9n s\u00e2u b\u00ean trong c\u01a1 th\u1ec3 h\u01a1n. B\u00ean c\u1ea1nh \u0111\u00f3, h\u00e3y lu\u00f4n y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng m\u00ecnh b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1eebng l\u00e0m b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n th\u00eam t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1eeb nh\u1eefng v\u1ebft \u0111\u00e2m c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. Khi b\u1ea1n lu\u00f4n bao ph\u1ee7 tr\u00e1i tim m\u00ecnh b\u1eb1ng s\u1ef1 b\u00ecnh t\u0129nh, bao dung v\u00e0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng th\u00ec tr\u00e1i tim b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd kh\u1ecfe m\u1ea1nh v\u00e0 l\u00e0nh l\u1eb7n cho \u0111\u1ebfn khi n\u00f3 ng\u1eebng \u0111\u1eadp, nh\u1edd \u0111\u00f3 b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi y\u00ean vui.<\/p>\n

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    \n Thay v\u00ec nh\u1eabn nh\u1ecbn ch\u1ecbu \u0111\u1ef1ng hay xun xoe l\u1ea5y l\u00f2ng, h\u00e3y t\u1ef1 m\u00ecnh th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ee9ng tr\u00ean \u0111\u1ec9nh cao s\u1ef1 nghi\u1ec7p m\u00e0 nh\u00ecn xu\u1ed1ng nh\u1eefng k\u1ebb t\u1eebng coi th\u01b0\u1eddng, khinh gh\u00e9t b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n.
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