T\u1eeb nh\u1ecf cho t\u1edbi khi tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh, con ng\u01b0\u1eddi ai c\u0169ng c\u1ea7n c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n tri k\u1ef7 \u1edf b\u00ean c\u1ea1nh \u0111\u1ec3 chia s\u1ebb nh\u1eefng l\u00fac vui, l\u00fac bu\u1ed3n. Tuy nhi\u00ean c\u0169ng c\u00f3 l\u00fac, m\u00e2u thu\u1eabn s\u1ebd x\u1ea3y ra v\u00ec nh\u1eefng l\u00fd do t\u1eeb nh\u1ecf cho \u0111\u1ebfn l\u1edbn\u2026 v\u00e0 khi\u1ebfn cho m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 t\u01b0\u1edfng ch\u1eebng v\u00f4 c\u00f9ng b\u1ec1n ch\u1eb7t l\u1ea1i tan v\u1ee1 ch\u1ec9 v\u00ec t\u1eeb l\u00fd do nh\u1ecf nh\u1ea5t. C\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 tha th\u1ee9, c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ch\u1ec9 v\u00ec qu\u00e1 m\u1ee9c t\u1ee9c gi\u1eadn v\u00ec \u0111i\u1ec1u nh\u1ecf nh\u1eb7t, c\u1ea3 hai \u0111\u1ec1u kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 ki\u1ec1m ch\u1ebf b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n d\u1eabn m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 \u0111i v\u00e0o b\u1ebf t\u1eafc, v\u00e0 d\u1ea7n kh\u00f4ng g\u1eb7p nhau n\u1eefa. V\u1eady l\u00e0m th\u1ebf n\u00e0o \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft nh\u1eefng m\u00e2u thu\u1eabn n\u00e0y ? Ch\u00fang ta h\u00e3y c\u0169ng tham kh\u1ea3o nh\u1eefng \u00fd ki\u1ebfn sau nh\u00e9:<\/p>\n
1. C\u00f9ng g\u1ee1 b\u1ecf c\u00e1i \u201d t\u00f4i\u201d c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n<\/strong><\/p>\n Khi b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 c\u00e3i nhau, sau \u0111\u00f3 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 c\u00f9ng r\u01a1i v\u00e0o b\u1ebf t\u1eafc th\u00ec m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u v\u00ec c\u00e1i \u201ct\u00f4i\u201d c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n c\u1ea3, kh\u00f4ng ai ch\u1ecbu gi\u1ea3ng h\u00f2a, gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch, kh\u00f4ng ai ch\u1ecbu chia s\u1ebb, nh\u1eadn l\u1ed7i d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn m\u00e2u thu\u1eabn gi\u1eefa hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 khi ch\u1ec9 v\u00ec m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 vi\u1ec7c r\u1ea5t nh\u1ecf th\u00f4i m\u00e0 d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn b\u1ebf t\u1eafc. C\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1eeb vi\u1ec7c ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y qu\u00ean kh\u00f4ng tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi tin nh\u1eafn cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia, ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eafc bao l\u1ea7n \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ed3 \u0111\u00fang ch\u1ed7 m\u00e0 qu\u00ean kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ec3, ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y \u0111i ch\u01a1i kh\u00f4ng r\u1ee7 b\u1ea1n,\u2026.<\/p>\n Ch\u00ednh v\u00ec v\u1eady ch\u00fang ta c\u1ea7n g\u1ea1t b\u1ecf c\u00e1i \u201ct\u00f4i\u201d c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh \u0111i, c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n b\u1ea1n gi\u1eadn ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 gi\u1eadn nhau m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ebfn hai ng\u00e0y, nh\u01b0ng khi \u0111\u00f3 ch\u00fang ta c\u0169ng n\u00ean ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng vi\u1ec7c n\u00e0y c\u00f3 \u0111\u00e1ng \u0111\u1ec3 khi\u1ebfn cho t\u00ecnh b\u1ea1n c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n s\u1ee9t m\u1ebb hay kh\u00f4ng, c\u00f3 \u0111\u00e1ng \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng g\u1eb7p nhau n\u1eefa hay kh\u00f4ng ? Sau \u0111\u00f3 h\u00e3y \u0111\u01b0a ra quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh, g\u1ea1t b\u1ecf c\u00e1i \u201ct\u00f4i\u201d c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3ng h\u00f2a v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n, h\u1ecdc c\u00e1ch l\u1eafng nghe, chia s\u1ebb v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft hi\u1ec3u nh\u1ea7m, gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft c\u00e1c kh\u00fac m\u1eafc m\u00e2u thu\u1eabn trong t\u00ecnh b\u1ea1n.<\/p>\n 2. Ki\u1ec1m ch\u1ebf c\u1ea3m x\u00fac<\/strong><\/p>\n Khi x\u1ea3y ra m\u00e2u thu\u1eabn, l\u00e0 l\u00fac ch\u00fang ta tr\u1ea3i qua nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac u\u1ea5t \u1ee9c, t\u1ee9c gi\u1eadn, v\u00e0 n\u1ebfu kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac \u0111\u00f3 th\u00ec ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn s\u1ebd x\u1ea3y ra nh\u1eefng v\u1ee5 c\u00e3i v\u00e3, to ti\u1ebfng v\u00e0 th\u1eadm ch\u00ed s\u1ebd d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng, l\u1eddi n\u00f3i mang h\u01b0\u1edbng ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c, s\u00e1t th\u01b0\u01a1ng k\u1ebb kh\u00e1c kh\u00f4ng mong mu\u1ed1n. V\u00ec v\u1eady ch\u00fang ta c\u1ea7n h\u1ecdc c\u00e1ch ki\u1ec1m ch\u1ebf c\u1ea3m x\u00fac c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n. Khi b\u1ea1n v\u00e0 b\u1ea1n th\u00e2n tranh lu\u1eadn hay hi\u1ec3u nh\u1ea7m v\u1ec1 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3, \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean ch\u00fang ta c\u1ea7n b\u00ecnh t\u0129nh l\u1ea1i, \u0111i ra ngo\u00e0i nh\u1eefng ch\u1ed7 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi, h\u00edt m\u1ed9t h\u01a1i th\u1eadt s\u00e2u, ho\u1eb7c t\u1ef1 gi\u1ea3i t\u1ecfa c\u1ea3m x\u00fac c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch h\u00e9t th\u1eadt to, hay nghe nh\u1ea1c\u2026 Sau \u0111\u00f3, ch\u00fang ta l\u1ea1i quay l\u1ea1i ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c tranh lu\u1eadn v\u00e0 n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n m\u00ecnh, kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 tranh lu\u1eadn m\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta c\u1ea7n h\u1ecdc c\u00e1ch l\u1eafng nghe, \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng \u00fd ki\u1ebfn h\u1ee3p l\u00fd, chia s\u1ebb v\u00e0 ph\u00e2n t\u00edch cho h\u1ecd \u00fd ki\u1ebfn c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch b\u00ecnh t\u0129nh nh\u1eb9 nh\u00e0ng. Nh\u01b0 v\u1eady, nh\u1eefng xung \u0111\u1ed9t s\u1ebd d\u1ec5 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft h\u01a1n r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u.<\/p>\n 3. Kh\u00f4ng n\u00f3i v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1ee9 ba<\/strong><\/p>\n Khi x\u1ea3y ra m\u00e2u thu\u1eabn trong t\u00ecnh b\u1ea1n, t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c ch\u00fang ta tr\u1ea3i qua nh\u01b0 t\u1ee9c gi\u1eadn, u\u1ea5t \u1ee9c\u2026 c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i gi\u1ea3i t\u1ecfa nh\u1eefng ra b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i, m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ebd c\u00f3 c\u00e1ch gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft c\u1ea3m x\u00fac \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00e1c nhau nh\u01b0ng c\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1ea1i gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac \u0111\u00f3 b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch \u0111i k\u1ec3 chuy\u1ec7n n\u00e0y cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1ee9 ba bi\u1ebft. T\u1ea5t nhi\u00ean \u0111\u00e2y kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 \u00fd hay v\u00ec khi n\u00f3i v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1ee9 ba trong c\u1ea3m x\u00fac t\u1ee9c gi\u1eadn nh\u01b0 v\u1eady \u0111\u1ed3ng ngh\u0129a v\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c b\u1ea1n \u0111ang n\u00f3i x\u1ea5u b\u1ea1n th\u00e2n c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1ee9 ba s\u1ebd c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y b\u1ea1n th\u00e2n c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng t\u1ed1t v\u00e0 k\u1ec3 c\u1ea3 b\u1ea1n c\u0169ng th\u1ebf khi n\u00f3i x\u1ea5u b\u1ea1n m\u00ecnh. H\u01a1n n\u1eefa v\u00ec c\u1ea3m x\u00fac l\u1ea5n \u00e1t n\u00ean ch\u01b0a ch\u1eafc b\u1ea1n l\u00fac \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1ee7 b\u00ecnh t\u0129nh suy ngh\u0129 ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn xem li\u1ec7u ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y c\u00f3 n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1ee9 t\u01b0, th\u1ee9 n\u0103m hay kh\u00f4ng\u2026 Nh\u01b0 v\u1eady, kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng vi\u1ec7c m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi bi\u1ebft hai b\u1ea1n x\u1ea3y ra b\u1ea5t h\u00f2a l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u d\u1ec5 x\u1ea3y ra, v\u00e0 t\u1eeb vi\u1ec7c n\u00e0y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 khi\u1ebfn r\u1ea1n n\u1ee9t t\u00ecnh b\u1ea1n gi\u1eefa c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u00e0n g\u1eafn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. Ch\u00ednh v\u00ec v\u1eady, khi x\u1ea3y ra m\u00e2u thu\u1eabn trong t\u00ecnh b\u1ea1n, h\u00e3y b\u00ecnh t\u0129nh gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft gi\u1eefa hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1edbi nhau, kh\u00f4ng n\u00ean k\u1ec3 vi\u1ec7c n\u00e0y cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1ee9 ba bi\u1ebft \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u00e1nh khi\u1ebfn t\u00ecnh b\u1ea1n gi\u1eefa hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111i \u0111\u1ebfn t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 h\u00e0n g\u1eafn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c.<\/p>\n K\u1ebft lu\u1eadn<\/strong><\/p>\n M\u00e2u thu\u1eabn trong t\u00ecnh b\u1ea1n l\u00e0 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 tr\u00e1nh trong quan h\u1ec7 b\u1ea1n b\u00e8, \u0111i\u1ec1u quan tr\u1ecdng l\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u00f3 c\u00e1ch x\u1eed l\u00fd th\u00edch h\u1ee3p, g\u1ee1 b\u1ecf c\u00e1i \u201ct\u00f4i\u201d c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n, gi\u1ea3ng h\u00f2a v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n b\u00e8. Ki\u1ec1m ch\u1ebf c\u1ea3m x\u00fac c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n, h\u1ecdc c\u00e1ch l\u1eafng nghe, chia s\u1ebb v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ec3 hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u nhau nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n. Kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd k\u1ec3 chuy\u1ec7n c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1ee9 ba v\u00ec \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 khi\u1ebfn cho m\u00e2u thu\u1eabn gi\u1eefa c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n c\u00e0ng tr\u1edf n\u00ean c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng v\u00e0 kh\u00f3 gi\u1ea3ng h\u00f2a h\u01a1n. \u0110\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng xung \u0111\u1ed9t trong quan h\u1ec7 b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 th\u00ec c\u00e1i m\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta c\u1ea7n l\u00e0 bi\u1ebft l\u1eafng nghe, th\u1ea5u hi\u1ec3u, b\u00ecnh t\u0129nh \u0111\u1ec3 ph\u00e2n t\u00edch, gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1, ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ed9ng h\u1ecdc c\u00e1ch xin l\u1ed7i, h\u1ecdc c\u00e1ch ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ed9ng tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n gi\u1ea3ng h\u00f2a v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ec3 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 t\u00ecnh b\u1ea1n c\u00e0ng l\u00fac c\u00e0ng b\u1ec1n ch\u1eb7t, l\u00e2u d\u00e0i l\u00e0m b\u1ea1n tr\u1ea3i qua m\u1ecdi chuy\u1ec7n c\u1ee7a cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" T\u1eeb nh\u1ecf cho t\u1edbi khi tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh, con ng\u01b0\u1eddi ai c\u0169ng c\u1ea7n c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n tri k\u1ef7 \u1edf b\u00ean c\u1ea1nh \u0111\u1ec3 chia s\u1ebb nh\u1eefng l\u00fac vui, l\u00fac bu\u1ed3n. Tuy nhi\u00ean c\u0169ng c\u00f3 l\u00fac, m\u00e2u thu\u1eabn s\u1ebd x\u1ea3y ra v\u00ec nh\u1eefng l\u00fd do t\u1eeb nh\u1ecf cho \u0111\u1ebfn l\u1edbn\u2026 v\u00e0 khi\u1ebfn cho m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 t\u01b0\u1edfng […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[178],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3789"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3789"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3789\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3789"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3789"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3789"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}