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T\u1eed t\u1ebf v\u1edbi \u0111\u1ed3ng nghi\u1ec7p c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c xem nh\u01b0 ch\u00eca kho\u00e1 gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n m\u1edf ra c\u00e1nh c\u1eeda \u0111i \u0111\u1ebfn th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng. Nh\u01b0ng \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec “qu\u00e1<\/em>” c\u0169ng \u0111\u1ec1u kh\u00f4ng t\u1ed1t, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 t\u1eed t\u1ebf. H\u00e3y c\u00f9ng ch\u00fang t\u00f4i t\u00ecm hi\u1ec3u xem \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec s\u1ebd x\u1ea3y ra n\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi qu\u00e1 t\u1eed t\u1ebf nh\u00e9!<\/p>\n

T\u00f4i – t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3 b\u00e0i vi\u1ebft \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eebng l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1eed t\u1ebf. T\u00f4i lu\u00f4n ngh\u0129 \u0111\u1ebfn l\u1ee3i \u00edch c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c h\u01a1n ch\u00ednh b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 th\u01b0\u1eddng c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng l\u00e0m m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m h\u00e0i l\u00f2ng nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi xung quanh. Ch\u00ednh v\u00ec th\u1ebf, t\u00f4i th\u01b0\u1eddng xung phong l\u00e0m ph\u1ea7n l\u1edbn c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c cho c\u00e1c d\u1ef1 \u00e1n c\u1ee7a c\u00f4ng ty. T\u00f4i r\u00fat l\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng y\u00eau c\u1ea7u c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n n\u1ebfu nh\u01b0 ch\u00fang l\u00e0m cho b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 ai trong s\u1ed1 h\u1ecd c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y kh\u00f4ng tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i. T\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 th\u1eddi gian r\u1ea3nh c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i \u0111\u1ec1u l\u00e0 cho \u0111i, cho \u0111i v\u00e0 cho \u0111i.<\/p>\n

\"\u0110i\u1ec1u<\/p>\n

Tuy nhi\u00ean, k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i kh\u00f4ng nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec m\u00e0 t\u00f4i mong \u0111\u1ee3i. T\u00f4i c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y m\u1ec7t m\u1ecfi v\u00e0 bu\u1ed3n phi\u1ec1n v\u00ec b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe v\u00e0 tinh th\u1ea7n c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh. Khi t\u00f4i xung phong l\u00e0m c\u00e0ng nhi\u1ec1u vi\u1ec7c th\u00ec m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1ea1i c\u00e0ng hy v\u1ecdng t\u00f4i s\u1ebd l\u00e0m nhi\u1ec1u th\u1ee9 h\u01a1n cho h\u1ecd. \u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 khi\u1ebfn t\u00f4i c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y kh\u00f3 ch\u1ecbu, b\u1ea5t m\u00e3n v\u00ec kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ai th\u00e8m quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ebfn \u00fd ki\u1ebfn c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i n\u1eefa.<\/p>\n

T\u1ea5t nhi\u00ean kh\u00f4ng ai trong s\u1ed1 ch\u00fang ta mu\u1ed1n m\u00ecnh tr\u1edf n\u00ean \u00edch k\u1ef7, nh\u01b0ng nh\u1eefng vi\u1ec7c n\u1eb1m ngo\u00e0i nhu c\u1ea7u c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n th\u00ec ch\u00fang ta l\u1ea1i kh\u00f4ng d\u00e0nh h\u1ebft kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u00f3. Trong b\u00e0i blog \u201cHow Selflessness Makes Us Selfish – L\u00e0m th\u1ebf n\u00e0o m\u00e0 l\u00f2ng v\u1ecb tha bi\u1ebfn ch\u00fang ta th\u00e0nh \u00edch k\u1ef7?<\/em>\u201d, t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3 c\u00f3 n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng khi ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng nhu c\u1ea7u c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n, th\u00ec ch\u00fang ta b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u t\u00ecm nh\u1eefng c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c, v\u00e0 v\u00ec th\u1ebf m\u00e0 h\u00e0nh vi \u0111\u00f3 tr\u00f4ng th\u1eadt \u00edch k\u1ef7. N\u1ebfu ch\u00fang ta mu\u1ed1n s\u1ed1ng t\u1eed t\u1ebf h\u01a1n v\u00e0 cho \u0111i nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n, ch\u00fang ta th\u1eadt s\u1ef1 c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i \u00cdT T\u1eec T\u1ebe h\u01a1n m\u1ed9t ch\u00fat.<\/strong><\/p>\n

D\u01b0\u1edbi \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 9 \u0111i\u1ec1u kh\u00f3 ch\u1ecbu s\u1ebd x\u1ea3y ra khi b\u1ea1n qu\u00e1 “t\u1eed t\u1ebf”. M\u1eddi c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n c\u00f9ng tham kh\u1ea3o!<\/strong><\/p>\n

1. N\u1ebfu l\u00fac n\u00e0o b\u1ea1n c\u0169ng l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi “cho” th\u00ec ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta s\u1ebd lu\u00f4n t\u00ecm \u0111\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ec3 “nh\u1eadn”\u200b<\/h2>\n

\"\u0110i\u1ec1u<\/p>\n

Trong b\u00e0i b\u00e1o “5 Ways Being Too Nice Can Become Negative – 5 vi\u1ec7c qu\u00e1 t\u1eed t\u1ebf c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 s\u1ebd th\u00e0nh ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c<\/em>\u201d \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u0103ng t\u1ea3i tr\u00ean trang Power of Positivity, t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3 cho r\u1eb1ng n\u1ebfu nh\u01b0 b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1eb7t ra gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd b\u1ecb ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c xem th\u01b0\u1eddng v\u00e0 l\u1ee3i d\u1ee5ng.<\/strong><\/p>\n

H\u00e3y t\u1ef1 \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n, ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn nh\u1eefng nhu c\u1ea7u c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u00e1p \u1ee9ng v\u00e0 \u0111\u1eb7t ra gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n cho b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ed3ng ngh\u0129a v\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c b\u1ea1n ph\u1edbt l\u1edd \u0111i nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi xung quanh. \u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 ch\u1ec9 mang \u00fd ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 \u201cb\u1ea3n th\u00e2n b\u1ea1n c\u0169ng r\u1ea5t quan tr\u1ecdng<\/em>\u201d m\u00e0 th\u00f4i.<\/p>\n

Tr\u01b0\u1edbc kia, t\u00f4i t\u1eebng ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ebd th\u00edch t\u00f4i h\u01a1n v\u00e0 th\u1ea5y t\u00f4i quan tr\u1ecdng h\u01a1n n\u1ebfu t\u00f4i cho \u0111i nhi\u1ec1u nh\u1ea5t c\u00f3 th\u1ec3. Nh\u01b0ng thay v\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3, t\u00f4i th\u1ea5y h\u1ecd c\u00f2n \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 t\u00f4i th\u1ea5p h\u01a1n. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c s\u1ebd \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 ch\u00fang ta theo c\u00e1ch ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh<\/strong>. Ch\u00ednh v\u00ec th\u1ebf, khi t\u00f4i b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u \u0111\u1eb7t ra gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n v\u00e0 nh\u1edd gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 khi c\u1ea7n th\u00ec m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u ch\u00fa \u00fd v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 cao nh\u1eefng \u0111\u00f3ng g\u00f3p c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i.<\/p>\n

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2. \u0110\u1eb7t k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u v\u00e0o ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c<\/h2>\n

\"\u0110i\u1ec1u<\/p>\n

Theo trang Power of Positivity cho bi\u1ebft, khi b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ed1i x\u1eed qu\u00e1 t\u1eed t\u1ebf v\u1edbi m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd n\u1ea3y sinh k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng vi\u1ec3n v\u00f4ng r\u1eb1ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta s\u1ebd \u0111\u1ed1i x\u1eed l\u1ea1i v\u1edbi m\u00ecnh y nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf. Nh\u01b0ng th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf, khi h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng nh\u01b0 s\u1ef1 k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n th\u00ec b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd n\u1ed5i gi\u1eadn v\u00e0 b\u1ef1c b\u1ed9i v\u1edbi ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n

T\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eebng nh\u1eadn ra \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3. T\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1ed1i x\u1eed r\u1ea5t t\u1ed1t v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 th\u1eadm ch\u00ed v\u01b0\u1ee3t ngo\u00e0i mong \u0111\u1ee3i c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd nh\u01b0ng t\u00f4i c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y b\u1ecb x\u00fac ph\u1ea1m khi b\u1ea1n t\u00f4i l\u1ea1i kh\u00f4ng h\u1ec1 \u0111\u1ed1i x\u1eed v\u1edbi t\u00f4i nh\u01b0 v\u1eady. T\u00f4i nhi\u1ec7t t\u00ecnh gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n khi b\u1ea1n c\u1ea7n nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u1ebfn khi t\u00f4i c\u1ea7n th\u00ec b\u1ea1n l\u1ea1i ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ec1 b\u1eadn t\u00e2m. \u0110i\u1ec1u m\u00e0 t\u00f4i b\u0103n kho\u0103n l\u00e0 t\u1ea1i sao h\u1ecd ch\u1ec9 bi\u1ebft lo cho b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 lo cho t\u00f4i m\u00e0 l\u1ea1i l\u00e0 lo cho h\u1ecd.<\/p>\n

: 10 s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt kh\u00f3 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn v\u1ec1 cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh h\u01a1n<\/p>\n

3. M\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ebd ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u1ebfn b\u00ean b\u1ea1n khi c\u1ea7n m\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3<\/h2>\n

\"\u0110i\u1ec1u<\/p>\n

Trang Power of Positivity cho r\u1eb1ng, khi b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ed1i x\u1eed qu\u00e1 t\u1ed1t v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, h\u1ecd s\u1ebd coi b\u1ea1n nh\u01b0 gi\u1ea3i ph\u00e1p cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng. M\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ebd ch\u1ec9 t\u00ecm \u0111\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n khi h\u1ecd ngh\u0129 b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 gi\u00fap h\u1ecd gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 b\u1edfi h\u1ecd ch\u1ec9 coi b\u1ea1n nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t c\u00f4ng c\u1ee5 gi\u00fap h\u1ecd \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n. V\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ecbu \u0111\u1eb7t ra gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ec3 ng\u0103n l\u1ea1i th\u00ec c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u1ecd s\u1ebd c\u00e0ng ng\u00e0y c\u00e0ng qu\u00e1 \u0111\u00e1ng v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n.<\/p>\n

T\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eebng g\u1eb7p ph\u1ea3i v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y v\u00e0 n\u00f3 nhanh ch\u00f3ng v\u01b0\u1ee3t ngo\u00e0i t\u1ea7m ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n. H\u00e3y l\u1ecbch s\u1ef1 n\u00f3i “Kh\u00f4ng<\/em>” \u0111\u1ec3 t\u1eeb ch\u1ed1i m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n \u0111\u01b0a ra qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u l\u00fd do \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch ho\u1eb7c ph\u00e2n bua<\/strong>. L\u00fac \u0111\u00f3, b\u1ea1n ch\u1ec9 n\u00ean \u0111\u1ec1 ngh\u1ecb nh\u1eefng c\u00e1ch gi\u00fap ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3 h\u1ecd t\u1ef1 l\u00e0m, ho\u1eb7c \u0111\u1ec1 ngh\u1ecb h\u1ecd t\u00ecm \u0111\u1ebfn ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1ch th\u00edch h\u1ee3p h\u01a1n.<\/p>\n

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4. B\u1ea1n qu\u00ean \u0111i vi\u1ec7c ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ed1i t\u1ed1t v\u1edbi ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh<\/h2>\n

\"\u0110i\u1ec1u<\/p>\n

Khi b\u1eadn quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ebfn ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd qu\u00ean \u0111\u1ed1i x\u1eed t\u1ed1t v\u1edbi ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh. \u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn vi\u1ec7c b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng nhu c\u1ea7u c\u01a1 b\u1ea3n c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n v\u00e0 d\u1ea7n khi\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n bu\u1ed3n b\u00e3, ki\u1ec7t s\u1ee9c.<\/p>\n

T\u00f4i nh\u1eadn ra r\u1eb1ng vi\u1ec7c cho \u0111i qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ec3 t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng n\u1ed7i \u0111au v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 ch\u1ecbu \u0111\u1ef1ng trong l\u00f2ng. T\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 t\u1ef1 m\u00ecnh x\u00e1c nh\u1eadn v\u00e0 t\u00f4i tin r\u1eb1ng m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng th\u1eadt s\u1ef1 coi tr\u1ecdng t\u00f4i. Khi t\u00f4i bi\u1ebft c\u00e1ch ti\u1ebft ch\u1ebf vi\u1ec7c \u201ccho \u0111i<\/em>\u201d, t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 th\u00eam th\u1eddi gian \u0111\u1ec3 nh\u00ecn l\u1ea1i v\u00e0 h\u1ecdc c\u00e1ch t\u1ef1 n\u00e2ng cao gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n. K\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 l\u00e0, t\u00f4i tr\u1edf n\u00ean r\u1ed9ng r\u00e3i v\u00e0 bi\u1ebft th\u00f4ng c\u1ea3m h\u01a1n.<\/p>\n

: 7 s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt kh\u00f3 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n c\u1ea3i thi\u1ec7n cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng<\/p>\n

5. B\u1ea1n s\u1ebd b\u1ecb coi l\u00e0 k\u1ebb y\u1ebfu<\/h2>\n

\"\u0110i\u1ec1u<\/p>\n

Trong b\u00e0i b\u00e1o \u201c5 Ways Being Too Nice Can Hurt You – 5 vi\u1ec7c qu\u00e1 t\u1eed t\u1ebf c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c<\/em>\u201d c\u1ee7a t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3 Jessica Stillman, c\u00f4 c\u00f3 n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng n\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n qu\u00e1 t\u1eed t\u1ebf s\u1ebd l\u00e0m cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u1ebfu k\u00e9m. \u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 khi\u1ebfn ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c l\u1ee3i d\u1ee5ng b\u1ea1n m\u00e0 h\u1ecd c\u00f2n kh\u00f4ng xem b\u1ea1n l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 quy\u1ec1n uy.<\/p>\n

Trong c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c, t\u00f4i nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y khi t\u00f4i l\u00e0m qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u v\u00e0 gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eb7t ra ch\u01b0a nghi\u00eam ng\u1eb7t, ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta kh\u00f4ng ghi nh\u1eadn nh\u1eefng th\u00e0nh qu\u1ea3 m\u00e0 t\u00f4i \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. B\u1edfi v\u00ec t\u00f4i c\u00f2n kh\u00f4ng t\u1ef1 \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u00ecnh th\u00ec m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u00e0m sao \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u00f4i.<\/p>\n

6. Tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh con m\u1ed3i cho nh\u1eefng k\u1ebb \u201cth\u00edch nh\u1edd v\u1ea3\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"\u0110i\u1ec1u<\/p>\n

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C\u0169ng theo Stillman, khi b\u1ea1n qu\u00e1 t\u1ed1t hay n\u00f3i c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 t\u1eeb ch\u1ed1i l\u1eddi nh\u1edd v\u1ea3 c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c th\u00ec b\u1ea1n \u0111ang t\u1ef1 bi\u1ebfn m\u00ecnh th\u00e0nh con m\u1ed3i “b\u00e9o b\u1edf<\/em>” cho nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u01b0\u1eddi bi\u1ebfng v\u00e0 th\u00edch nh\u1edd v\u1ea3. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 lu\u00f4n t\u00ecm c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1ee3i d\u1ee5ng b\u1ea1n b\u1edfi b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft \u0111\u1eb7t ra gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n d\u00e0nh cho h\u1ecd.<\/p>\n

T\u00f4i c\u0169ng t\u1eebng tr\u1ea3i qua \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y. T\u00f4i d\u00e0nh h\u00e0ng gi\u1edd \u0111\u1ed3ng h\u1ed3 \u0111\u1ec3 \u201ch\u1ed7 tr\u1ee3<\/em>\u201d b\u1ea1n t\u00f4i tr\u00ean Facebook v\u00e0 d\u0129 nhi\u00ean t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 ng\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ee7 gi\u1ea5c r\u1ed3i. Do \u0111\u00f3, t\u00f4i r\u00fat ra \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c b\u00e0i h\u1ecdc l\u00e0 l\u00e0m m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n t\u1ed1t v\u00e0 s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 khi h\u1ecd c\u1ea7n th\u00ec \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c, nh\u01b0ng c\u0169ng n\u00ean cho h\u1ecd bi\u1ebft th\u1eddi gian r\u1ea3nh c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n c\u0169ng h\u1ea1n h\u1eb9p v\u00e0 b\u1ea1n ch\u1ec9 r\u1ea3nh v\u00e0o m\u1ed9t ng\u00e0y nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ecbnh n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 m\u00e0 th\u00f4i.<\/p>\n

: 13 s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n v\u1ec1 c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u1ea1n ch\u01b0a bi\u1ebft<\/p>\n

7. M\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng tin b\u1ea1n<\/h2>\n

\"\u0110i\u1ec1u<\/p>\n

Th\u1eadt ra, trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng s\u1ebd ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 \u00edt ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u00e0 th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 t\u1ed1t b\u1ee5ng m\u00e0 th\u00f4i. Do \u0111\u00f3, Stillman cho bi\u1ebft n\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n c\u01b0 x\u1eed qu\u00e1 t\u1eed t\u1ebf v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c th\u00ec h\u1ecd c\u0169ng s\u1ebd \u0111\u1eb7t ra nghi v\u1ea5n li\u1ec7u r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u01a1 g\u00ec kh\u00e1c kh\u00f4ng. Th\u1eadm ch\u00ed, ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta s\u1ebd ngh\u0129 b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u00e1ng tin c\u1eady v\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y khi\u1ebfn cho vi\u1ec7c x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u0169ng tr\u1edf n\u00ean kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n h\u01a1n.<\/p>\n

Tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00e2y, khi t\u00f4i ch\u01b0a bi\u1ebft c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1eb7t ra gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd th\u1eadt s\u1ef1 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn trong m\u1ed9t t\u1ed5 ch\u1ee9c, c\u1ea3 v\u1ec1 c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c l\u1eabn c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i li\u00ean h\u1ec7 c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n. Cho \u0111\u1ebfn khi t\u00f4i \u0111\u1ecbnh ra \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n v\u00e0 coi tr\u1ecdng b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n h\u01a1n th\u00ec m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u0169ng b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u coi tr\u1ecdng t\u00f4i.<\/p>\n

8. B\u1ea1n s\u1ebd c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y \u201cthi\u1ebfu\u201d\u200b<\/h2>\n

\"\u0110i\u1ec1u<\/p>\n

Khi kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng nhu c\u1ea7u m\u00ecnh mong mu\u1ed1n th\u00ec hi\u1ec3n nhi\u00ean b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 t\u1eeb nhi\u1ec1u n\u01a1i kh\u00e1c. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y khi\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n tr\u1edf n\u00ean thi\u1ebfu ki\u00ean nh\u1eabn, c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y thi\u1ebfu th\u1ed1n trong c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7, c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 li\u00ean t\u1ee5c t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm s\u1ef1 c\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn.<\/p>\n

\u0110\u00e1ng ng\u1ea1c nhi\u00ean h\u01a1n, b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n t\u00f4i l\u1ea1i c\u00f3 t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 c\u00e1c d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u \u0111\u00f3 khi ch\u01b0a bi\u1ebft d\u00e0nh s\u1ef1 \u01b0u ti\u00ean cho b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh. T\u00f4i c\u1ee9 m\u00e3i cho \u0111i v\u00e0 t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm s\u1ef1 tr\u00e2n tr\u1ecdng gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i t\u1eeb ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. Cho \u0111\u1ebfn khi t\u00f4i bi\u1ebft th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n, th\u00ec c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c \u201cthi\u1ebfu<\/em>\u201d \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n n\u1eefa.<\/p>\n

9. D\u1ec5 d\u00ednh v\u00e0o th\u00f3i quen x\u1ea5u<\/h2>\n

\"\u0110i\u1ec1u<\/p>\n

Khi kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 nh\u00ecn th\u1ea5y gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd d\u1ec5 sa v\u00e0o c\u00e1c th\u00f3i quen kh\u00f4ng t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i t\u1ecfa c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng. Khi c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n b\u1ecb qu\u00e1 t\u1ea3i, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd t\u00ecm l\u1ed1i tho\u00e1t t\u1eeb vi\u1ec7c ti\u00eau x\u00e0i, mua s\u1eafm, \u0103n u\u1ed1ng ho\u1eb7c c\u00e1c ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng d\u1ec5 g\u00e2y nghi\u1ec7n kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n

T\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eebng d\u00ednh v\u00e0o r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u th\u00f3i quen ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf. T\u00f4i lu\u00f4n chi ti\u00eau qu\u00e1 tay v\u00e0 th\u1eadm ch\u00ed nghi\u1ec7n \u0103n v\u1eb7t khi b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y qu\u00e1 \u00e1p l\u1ef1c b\u1edfi ho\u00e0n th\u00e0nh c\u00e1c nhi\u1ec7m v\u1ee5 m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c c\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn. Ng\u00e0y m\u00e0 t\u00f4i bi\u1ebft y\u00eau b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n, th\u00f3i x\u1ea5u c\u0169ng d\u1ea7n bi\u1ebfn m\u1ea5t.<\/p>\n

M\u1eb7c d\u00f9 t\u1ed1t b\u1ee5ng l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch s\u1ed1ng t\u1ed1t, nh\u01b0ng n\u1ebfu cho qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1eb7t ra gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n s\u1ebd l\u00e0m \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1ebfn vi\u1ec7c ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c nh\u00ecn nh\u1eadn b\u1ea1n c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 kh\u00f4ng gi\u00fap \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c cho nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u1ea7n gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 theo \u00fd b\u1ea1n. H\u00e3y c\u1ee9 y\u00eau qu\u00fd v\u00e0 t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111i, r\u1ed3i b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd bi\u1ebft c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ed1i x\u1eed t\u1ed1t v\u1edbi m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi xung quanh v\u00e0 h\u1ecd c\u0169ng s\u1ebd \u0111\u1ed1i \u0111\u00e3i v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n nh\u01b0 c\u00e1ch b\u1ea1n mu\u1ed1n.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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: 6 h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng t\u1ea1o s\u1ee9c h\u00fat m\u00e3nh li\u1ec7t nh\u1ea5t trong m\u1eaft \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng<\/p>\n

Ch\u00fac c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n vui v\u1ebb!<\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

T\u1eed t\u1ebf v\u1edbi \u0111\u1ed3ng nghi\u1ec7p c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c xem nh\u01b0 ch\u00eca kho\u00e1 gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n m\u1edf ra c\u00e1nh c\u1eeda \u0111i \u0111\u1ebfn th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng. Nh\u01b0ng \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec “qu\u00e1” c\u0169ng \u0111\u1ec1u kh\u00f4ng t\u1ed1t, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 t\u1eed t\u1ebf. H\u00e3y c\u00f9ng ch\u00fang t\u00f4i t\u00ecm hi\u1ec3u xem \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec s\u1ebd x\u1ea3y ra n\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi qu\u00e1 t\u1eed t\u1ebf […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[452],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/39421"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=39421"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/39421\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=39421"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=39421"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=39421"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}