{"id":39540,"date":"2023-12-10T01:33:14","date_gmt":"2023-12-10T01:33:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/vi-sao-nhieu-nguoi-lai-thich-noi-xau-sau-lung-nguoi-khac.html"},"modified":"2023-12-24T21:50:01","modified_gmt":"2023-12-24T14:50:01","slug":"vi-sao-nhieu-nguoi-lai-thich-noi-xau-sau-lung-nguoi-khac","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/vi-sao-nhieu-nguoi-lai-thich-noi-xau-sau-lung-nguoi-khac.html","title":{"rendered":"V\u00ec sao nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1ea1i th\u00edch n\u00f3i x\u1ea5u sau l\u01b0ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c?"},"content":{"rendered":"
T\u1ea1i sao nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng n\u00f3i tr\u1ef1c ti\u1ebfp m\u00e0 l\u1ea1i n\u00f3i sau l\u01b0ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c? C\u00f3 ph\u1ea3i do h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ee7 t\u1ef1 tin \u0111\u1ec3 n\u00f3i ra nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u00e0 h\u1ecd mu\u1ed1n n\u00f3i hay kh\u00f4ng? H\u00e3y c\u00f9ng ch\u00fang t\u00f4i tham kh\u1ea3o trong b\u00e0i vi\u1ebft d\u01b0\u1edbi \u0111\u00e2y nh\u00e9!<\/span><\/strong> Nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong ch\u00fang ta th\u01b0\u1eddng c\u00f3 th\u00f3i quen “n\u00f3i x\u1ea5u sau l\u01b0ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c<\/em>” nh\u01b0 th\u1ec3 n\u00f3 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng th\u00f3i quen y\u00eau th\u00edch h\u00e0ng ng\u00e0y v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 n\u00e0o ch\u1ecbu \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c n\u1ebfu kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0m nh\u01b0 v\u1eady. T\u1ea1i sao ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng n\u00f3i tr\u1ef1c ti\u1ebfp v\u1edbi h\u1ecd m\u00e0 l\u1ea1i n\u00f3i sau l\u01b0ng? C\u00f3 ph\u1ea3i do ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ee7 t\u1ef1 tin \u0111\u1ec3 n\u00f3i ra nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta mu\u1ed1n n\u00f3i hay kh\u00f4ng? N\u0103m ngo\u00e1i, t\u00f4i – t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3 c\u1ee7a b\u00e0i vi\u1ebft c\u00f3 tr\u00fang tuy\u1ec3n c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c d\u1ecbch thu\u1eadt \u1edf m\u1ed9t c\u00f4ng ty m\u1ea1ng tr\u1ef1c tuy\u1ebfn. B\u1ed9 ph\u1eadn t\u00f4i l\u00e0m c\u00f3 kho\u1ea3ng 20 ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00e0 h\u1ecd \u0111\u1ebfn t\u1eeb nhi\u1ec1u n\u01a1i kh\u00e1c nhau. M\u1ed9t v\u00e0i ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong s\u1ed1 h\u1ecd \u1edf kh\u00e1 xa, c\u00f2n m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 kh\u00e1c th\u00ec c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111i b\u1ed9 \u0111i l\u00e0m. T\u00f4i nhanh ch\u00f3ng h\u00f2a nh\u1eadp v\u1edbi m\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c m\u1edbi, nh\u1eadn c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c v\u00e0 b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u l\u00e0m. Sau m\u1ed9t th\u1eddi gian, t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ecbnh. V\u00ec v\u1eady, s\u1ebfp th\u01b0\u1eddng khen ng\u1ee3i v\u00e0 khuy\u1ebfn kh\u00edch t\u00f4i c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n n\u1eefa. Th\u1ebf nh\u01b0ng cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00fac n\u00e0o c\u0169ng di\u1ec5n ra theo c\u00e1ch m\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta mu\u1ed1n. M\u1ed9t ng\u00e0y n\u1ecd, t\u00f4i ph\u00e1t hi\u1ec7n ra c\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong ph\u00f2ng th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean n\u00f3i x\u1ea5u sau l\u01b0ng t\u00f4i v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ed3ng nghi\u1ec7p kh\u00e1c. Anh ta n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng t\u00f4i li\u00ean t\u1ee5c kh\u00f4ng ho\u00e0n th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u00fang h\u1ea1n v\u00e0 ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f3 \u0111\u00f3ng g\u00f3p g\u00ec cho nh\u1eefng d\u1ef1 \u00e1n v\u1eeba r\u1ed3i c\u1ea3. Anh \u1ea5y n\u00f3i: \u201cC\u00f4 \u1ea5y lu\u00f4n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c khen ng\u1ee3i l\u00e0 nh\u1edd m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 v\u1edbi c\u00e1c s\u1ebfp<\/em>\u201d. Anh ta lan truy\u1ec1n tin n\u00e0y cho t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong c\u00f4ng ty v\u00e0 ch\u1eb3ng m\u1ea5y ch\u1ed1c, t\u00f4i b\u1ecb xem l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t k\u1ebb \u201cxu n\u1ecbnh<\/em>\u201d. May m\u1eafn r\u1eb1ng, qu\u1ea3n l\u00fd lu\u00f4n tin t\u01b0\u1edfng n\u0103ng l\u1ef1c l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i, ch\u1ecb \u1ea5y \u0111\u00e3 t\u1ed5 ch\u1ee9c m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c h\u1ecdp \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng m\u1ecdi chuy\u1ec7n. M\u1eb7c d\u00f9 ch\u1ecb kh\u00f4ng n\u00f3 r\u00f5 t\u00ean ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 lan truy\u1ec1n tin \u0111\u1ed3n ra kh\u1eafp c\u00f4ng ty nh\u01b0ng t\u00f4i ngh\u0129 th\u1ebf l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ee7. B\u1edfi sau \u0111\u00f3, m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 thay \u0111\u1ed5i c\u00e1ch suy ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 t\u00f4i. H\u1ecd t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed1i x\u1eed v\u1edbi t\u00f4i r\u1ea5t t\u1ed1t.<\/p>\n

L\u00fd do t\u1ea1i sao m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u01b0\u1eddng th\u00edch n\u00f3i x\u1ea5u sau l\u01b0ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c?<\/h2>\n

H\u1ea7u h\u1ebft ai trong s\u1ed1 ch\u00fang ta c\u0169ng t\u1eebng n\u00f3i sau l\u01b0ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c theo c\u00e1ch t\u00edch c\u1ef1c ho\u1eb7c ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c<\/strong>. Tho\u1ea1t ti\u00ean, nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 di\u1ec5n ra theo chi\u1ec1u h\u01b0\u1edbng t\u1ed1t. Ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 chia s\u1ebb v\u1ec1 gia \u0111\u00ecnh, cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n nh\u01b0ng khi \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1eadp \u0111\u1ebfn chuy\u1ec7n c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c, ch\u00fang ta th\u01b0\u1eddng d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng sa v\u00e0o vi\u1ec7c k\u1ec3 x\u1ea5u v\u1ec1 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 trong c\u00f4ng ty – ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00e0 l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n ch\u00fang ta. Ch\u00fang ta h\u00e0o h\u1ee9ng k\u1ec3 ra t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd, r\u1ed3i \u0111\u01b0a ra k\u1ebft lu\u1eadn r\u1eb1ng c\u00f3 l\u1ebd nh\u1eefng g\u00ec m\u00e0 h\u1ecd \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u01b0a ch\u1eafc \u0111\u00e3 ph\u1ea3n \u00e1nh \u0111\u00fang n\u0103ng l\u1ef1c th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. Th\u1eadm ch\u00ed, ch\u00fang ta c\u00f2n t\u1ef1 tin so s\u00e1nh nh\u1eefng m\u1eb7t x\u1ea5u c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng m\u1eb7t c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta v\u00e0 t\u1ef1 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n h\u1ecd.<\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/div>\n

C\u00f3 m\u1ed9t c\u00e2u n\u00f3i th\u1ebf n\u00e0y: \u201cTr\u00ean th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi c\u00f3 2 lo\u1ea1i ng\u01b0\u1eddi: ng\u01b0\u1eddi chia th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi l\u00e0m hai lo\u1ea1i ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0m nh\u01b0 v\u1eady<\/em>\u201d. C\u00f3 r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi thu\u1ed9c nh\u00f3m \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean, ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00e0 s\u1ebd chia m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u00ean th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi th\u00e0nh hai nh\u00f3m: \u201cnh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi ki\u1ec3u gi\u1ed1ng m\u00ecnh<\/em>\u201d v\u00e0 \u201cnh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng gi\u1ed1ng m\u00ecnh<\/em>\u201d. Tr\u00ean th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf, m\u1ed7i ch\u00fang ta th\u01b0\u1eddng t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi gi\u1ed1ng m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 lo\u1ea1i b\u1ecf \u0111i nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng gi\u1ed1ng m\u00ecnh. D\u01b0\u1edbi \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 l\u00fd do r\u1eb1ng t\u1ea1i sao m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1ea1i th\u00edch n\u00f3i x\u1ea5u ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c \u0111\u1ebfn v\u1eady<\/strong>:<\/p>\n

1. H\u1ea1 th\u1ea5p ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0a m\u00ecnh l\u00ean<\/h3>\n
Eleanor Roosevelt \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eebng n\u00f3i: \u201cNg\u01b0\u1eddi v\u0129 \u0111\u1ea1i b\u00e0n lu\u1eadn v\u1ec1 c\u00e1c \u00fd t\u01b0\u1edfng, ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng b\u00e0n lu\u1eadn v\u1ec1 c\u00e1c s\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n, ng\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u1ecf nhen b\u00e0n lu\u1eadn v\u1ec1 con ng\u01b0\u1eddi<\/em>\u201d.<\/div>\n

Nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00f3i x\u1ea5u ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c ch\u1ec9 v\u00ec h\u1ecd ghen t\u1ef5 v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng th\u00e0nh t\u00edch m\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c<\/strong>. Ch\u00ednh v\u00ec th\u1ebf, b\u1eb1ng m\u1ecdi c\u00e1ch ch\u00fang ta lu\u00f4n mu\u1ed1n gi\u1ea3m nh\u1eb9 th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch r\u00eau rao nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi \u0111\u1ed3n \u0111\u1ea1i kh\u00f4ng ch\u00ednh x\u00e1c v\u1ec1 n\u0103ng l\u1ef1c hay ti\u1ebft l\u1ed9 l\u1ed9 \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng ri\u00eang t\u01b0 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd cho c\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed3ng nghi\u1ec7p. Khi l\u00e0m nh\u01b0 v\u1eady, ch\u00fang ta c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c an \u1ee7i v\u00e0 c\u00f3 v\u1ebb nh\u01b0 t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p h\u01a1n nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. Ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ea1n, ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u v\u1edbi c\u00e1c c\u00e2u \u0111\u1ea1i lo\u1ea1i nh\u01b0: \u201cC\u1eadu ta v\u00e0o \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c tr\u01b0\u1eddng n\u00e0y nh\u01b0ng nghe n\u00f3i l\u00e0 ph\u1ea3i nh\u1edd s\u1ef1 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 c\u1ee7a b\u1ed1 m\u1eb9<\/em>\u201d, \u201cAnh \u1ea5y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t nh\u00e2n vi\u00ean xu\u1ea5t s\u1eafc nh\u01b0ng cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n kh\u00f4ng m\u1ea5y h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac<\/em>\u201d, \u201cC\u00f4 \u1ea5y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u0103ng ch\u1ee9c nh\u01b0ng ch\u01b0a ch\u1eafc l\u00e0 v\u00ec c\u00f4 \u1ea5y c\u00f3 n\u0103ng l\u1ef1c th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1<\/em>\u201d\u2026 D\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0 ch\u00fang ta th\u01b0\u1eddng c\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c nh\u01b0ng l\u1ea1i th\u00eam v\u00e0o t\u1eeb \u201cnh\u01b0ng<\/em>\u201d v\u00e0o \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1eadt ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i c\u00e1i m\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u00e3 th\u1eeba nh\u1eadn.<\/p>\n

2. Bu\u00f4n chuy\u1ec7n l\u00e0 s\u1edf th\u00edch<\/h3>\n
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Bu\u00f4n chuy\u1ec7n<\/strong> l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng th\u00f3i quen x\u1ea5u v\u00f4 c\u00f9ng ph\u1ed5 bi\u1ebfn t\u1ea1i n\u01a1i l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c. C\u00e1c cu\u1ed9c bu\u00f4n chuy\u1ec7n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 k\u00e9o d\u00e0i \u0111\u1ebfn h\u00e0ng gi\u1edd li\u1ec1n v\u1edbi v\u00f4 v\u00e0n ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 kh\u00e1c nhau, ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ea1n: gia \u0111\u00ecnh, t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7, c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c, th\u1eddi trang hay th\u1eadm ch\u00ed l\u00e0 phim \u1ea3nh. Ch\u00fang ta th\u01b0\u1eddng n\u00eau ra quan \u0111i\u1ec3m, \u00fd ki\u1ebfn c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n, ph\u00e1n x\u00e9t m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch t\u00edch c\u1ef1c ho\u1eb7c ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd h\u1ebft chuy\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ec3 bu\u00f4n c\u1ea3. N\u00f3i sau l\u01b0ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c khi bu\u00f4n chuy\u1ec7n l\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c kh\u00f3 tr\u00e1nh kh\u1ecfi. B\u1edfi khi c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n \u0111ang l\u00ean \u0111\u1ebfn cao tr\u00e0o ch\u00fang ta c\u00e0ng mu\u1ed1n n\u00eau ra quan \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh thay v\u00ec k\u00ecm n\u00e9n ch\u00fang trong l\u00f2ng, gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t qu\u00e1n t\u00ednh v\u1eady. <\/span> : N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n ch\u01b0a bi\u1ebft c\u00e1ch tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh “ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh”, h\u00e3y \u0111\u1ecdc b\u00e0i vi\u1ebft n\u00e0y!<\/span><\/p>\n

3. Kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft c\u00e1ch gi\u1eef b\u00ed m\u1eadt<\/h3>\n

\u0110\u00e3 bao gi\u1edd b\u1ea1n r\u01a1i v\u00e0o ho\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh k\u1ec3 m\u1ed9t c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n th\u1ea7m k\u00edn cho \u0111\u1ed3ng nghi\u1ec7p nghe v\u00e0 s\u00e1ng h\u00f4m sau \u0111i l\u00e0m, c\u1ea3 c\u00f4ng ty \u0111\u1ec1u bi\u1ebft hay ch\u01b0a? Ch\u1eafc h\u1eb3n l\u00fac \u0111\u00f3 b\u1ea1n th\u1ec1 r\u1eb1ng kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd chia s\u1ebb b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 n\u1eefa ph\u1ea3i kh\u00f4ng? Vi\u1ec7c chia s\u1ebb b\u00ed m\u1eadt c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t \u00fd hay \u0111\u1ec3 t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ed3ng c\u1ea3m ho\u1eb7c gi\u1ea3i t\u1ecfa c\u1ea3m x\u00fac. Tuy nhi\u00ean, h\u00e3y th\u1eadn tr\u1ecdng \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y b\u1edfi r\u1ea5t c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 khi b\u1ea1n v\u01b0\u1ee3t xa \u0111\u1ed3ng nghi\u1ec7p c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, h\u1ecd s\u1ebd s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng b\u00ed m\u1eadt \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u1ec3 h\u1ea1 th\u1ea5p b\u1ea1n tr\u01b0\u1edbc m\u1eb7t ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n

S\u1ef1 nguy hi\u1ec3m c\u1ee7a vi\u1ec7c n\u00f3i x\u1ea5u sau l\u01b0ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c<\/h2>\n

N\u00f3i x\u1ea5u sau l\u01b0ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t th\u00f3i quen c\u1ef1c k\u1ef3 nguy hi\u1ec3m. N\u1ebfu kh\u00f4ng ki\u00ean quy\u1ebft lo\u1ea1i b\u1ecf th\u00f3i quen ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c n\u00e0y, nhi\u1ec1u kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng n\u00f3 s\u1ebd bi\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi x\u1ea5u v\u00e0 h\u1ee7y ho\u1ea1i danh ti\u1ebfng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. \"N\u00f3i<\/p>\n

1. H\u1ee7y ho\u1ea1i l\u00f2ng tin<\/h3>\n

L\u00f2ng tin l\u00e0 n\u1ec1n m\u00f3ng c\u01a1 b\u1ea3n cho m\u1ecdi m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7. S\u1ef1 tin t\u01b0\u1edfng l\u1eabn nhau s\u1ebd gi\u00fap ta hi\u1ec3u nhau h\u01a1n, t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c si\u1ebft ch\u1eb7t h\u01a1n v\u00e0 l\u00fac \u0111\u00f3 s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng chia s\u1ebb v\u1edbi nhau m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9. Khi m\u1ed9t trong hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00f3i x\u1ea5u ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, l\u00f2ng tin c\u0169ng s\u1ebd b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u l\u1ecfng l\u1ebbo d\u1ea7n. S\u1edbm hay mu\u1ed9n, t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m c\u0169ng r\u1ea1n n\u1ee9t v\u00e0 s\u1ebd ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f3 ai vui v\u1ebb g\u00ec.<\/p>\n

2. Bi\u1ebfn ch\u00fang ta tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ed1 k\u1ef5<\/h3>\n

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N\u00f3i x\u1ea5u ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c m\u1ed9t khi \u0111\u00e3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh th\u00f3i quen s\u1ebd ng\u00e0y c\u00e0ng l\u00e0m t\u00ednh \u0111\u1ed1 k\u1ef5 trong l\u00f2ng c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta t\u0103ng l\u00ean, khi\u1ebfn t\u00e2m h\u1ed3n c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta tr\u1edf n\u00ean \u0111en t\u1ed1i v\u00e0 kh\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 suy ngh\u0129 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch t\u00edch c\u1ef1c. N\u1ebfu kh\u00f4ng c\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn s\u1ef1 n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c v\u00e0 t\u00e0i n\u0103ng c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, s\u1ebd c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t ng\u00e0y ch\u1eb3ng ai c\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n v\u00e0 b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 s\u1ebd r\u01a1i v\u00e0o th\u1ebf c\u00f4 l\u1eadp, d\u00f9 cho b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 gi\u1ecfi giang \u0111\u1ebfn th\u1ebf n\u00e0o \u0111i ch\u0103ng n\u1eefa.<\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/div>\n

M\u1ed9t nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u n\u0103m 2011 xu\u1ea5t b\u1ea3n tr\u00ean t\u1ea1p ch\u00ed European Journal of Social Psychology<\/em> nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ebd \u00edt \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c y\u00eau qu\u00fd v\u00e0 tin t\u01b0\u1edfng h\u01a1n khi h\u1ecd bu\u00f4n chuy\u1ec7n v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n

3. Gi\u1ea3m n\u0103ng su\u1ea5t, hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3 c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c<\/h3>\n

N\u00f3i x\u1ea5u \u0111\u1ed3ng nghi\u1ec7p s\u1ebd l\u00e0m t\u0103ng m\u00e2u thu\u1eabn, chia r\u1ebd m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong v\u0103n ph\u00f2ng, d\u1eabn t\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m nh\u1ee5t \u00fd ch\u00ed c\u1ee7a m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00e0 n\u0103ng su\u1ea5t l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c t\u1eeb \u0111\u00f3 c\u0169ng gi\u1ea3m s\u00fat. Khi d\u00e0nh nhi\u1ec1u th\u1eddi gian ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd b\u1ecb ph\u00e2n t\u00e1n \u00fd ch\u00ed, gi\u1ea3m l\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u00fd ch\u00ed d\u00e0nh cho c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0m \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1ee9 g\u00ec tr\u1ecdn v\u1eb9n c\u1ea3. : \u0110\u00e2y ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 7 sai l\u1ea7m ph\u1ed5 bi\u1ebfn ng\u0103n b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi<\/p>\n

4. V\u1ec1 l\u00e2u d\u00e0i, m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ebd gh\u00e9t b\u1ea1n<\/h3>\n

Ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f3 g\u00ec t\u1ed3i t\u1ec7 h\u01a1n khi m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ph\u01a1i b\u00e0y ra tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u00e1nh s\u00e1ng, m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ebd nh\u1eadn ra r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 k\u1ebb bu\u00f4n chuy\u1ec7n, th\u00edch n\u00f3i x\u1ea5u sau l\u01b0ng v\u00e0 h\u1ea1 th\u1ea5p ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. Ch\u1eb3ng ai th\u00edch l\u00e0m b\u1ea1n v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u01b0 v\u1eady c\u1ea3.<\/p>\n

V\u1eady l\u00e0m g\u00ec \u0111\u1ec3 lo\u1ea1i b\u1ecf th\u00f3i quen th\u00edch n\u00f3i x\u1ea5u sau l\u01b0ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c?<\/h2>\n

1. \u0110\u01b0a ra l\u1eddi nh\u1eadn x\u00e9t tr\u1ef1c ti\u1ebfp v\u00e0 l\u1ecbch s\u1ef1<\/h3>\n

N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n mu\u1ed1n g\u00f3p \u00fd hay b\u00ecnh lu\u1eadn v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec m\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c l\u00e0m, h\u00e3y d\u0169ng c\u1ea3m n\u00f3i th\u1eb3ng tr\u01b0\u1edbc m\u1eb7t h\u1ecd. Thi\u1ebft l\u1eadp cu\u1ed9c h\u1eb9n, g\u1ecdi \u0111i\u1ec7n tho\u1ea1i ho\u1eb7c g\u1eedi email v\u00e0 tr\u00ecnh b\u00e0y nh\u1eefng g\u00ec b\u1ea1n mu\u1ed1n n\u00f3i. Sau khi th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y, tuy\u1ec7t \u0111\u1ed1i kh\u00f4ng bu\u00f4n chuy\u1ec7n v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. H\u00e3y nh\u1edb ch\u1ec9 ti\u1ebft l\u1ed9 c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi li\u00ean quan m\u00e0 ch\u1ecbu tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m ho\u1eb7c s\u1ebd c\u00f9ng gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 m\u00e0 th\u00f4i.<\/p>\n

2. Luy\u1ec7n t\u1eadp th\u00f3i quen khen ng\u1ee3i m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi<\/h3>\n

N\u1ebfu tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00e2y b\u1ea1n th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean ch\u00ea bai ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, \u00edt khi khen ai v\u00e0 b\u00e2y gi\u1edd mu\u1ed1n thay \u0111\u1ed5i th\u00ec h\u00e3y b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u khen ng\u1ee3i th\u1eadt nhi\u1ec1u, m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh v\u00e0 \u0111\u00fang s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt. H\u00e3y bi\u1ebfn n\u00f3 th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t th\u00f3i quen h\u00e0ng ng\u00e0y.<\/p>\n

3. H\u1ea1n ch\u1ebf tham gia c\u00e1c nh\u00f3m bu\u00f4n chuy\u1ec7n<\/h3>\n

N\u1ebfu mu\u1ed1n t\u1eeb b\u1ecf m\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3, h\u00e3y ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 lo\u1ea1i b\u1ecf m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 li\u00ean quan<\/strong> \u0111\u1ebfn n\u00f3. Ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ea1n, mu\u1ed1n ch\u1ea5m d\u1ee9t vi\u1ec7c \u0103n \u0111\u1ed3 \u0103n v\u1eb7t th\u00ec \u0111\u1eebng mua \u0111\u1ed3 \u0103n v\u1eb7t v\u1ec1 nh\u00e0 hay \u0111\u1ebfn c\u00e1c qu\u00e1n b\u00e1n \u0111\u1ed3 \u0103n nhanh n\u1eefa. N\u1ebfu c\u00f2n ti\u1ebfp x\u00fac v\u1edbi b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 t\u00e1c nh\u00e2n n\u00e0o c\u00f3 li\u00ean quan th\u00ec kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng b\u1ea1n b\u1ecb \u201cnhi\u1ec5m<\/em>\u201d l\u1ea1i l\u00e0 r\u1ea5t l\u1edbn. Trong tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p n\u00e0y, n\u1ebfu mu\u1ed1n t\u1eeb b\u1ecf th\u00f3i quen n\u00f3i x\u1ea5u, ch\u1ec9 tr\u00edch sau l\u01b0ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, h\u00e3y h\u1ea1n ch\u1ebf tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00edch bu\u00f4n chuy\u1ec7n, ngo\u1ea1i tr\u1eeb l\u00fd do c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c. Thay v\u00ec g\u1eb7p m\u1eb7t, b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 g\u1eedi email ho\u1eb7c b\u00e0n giao c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c qua c\u00e1c \u1ee9ng d\u1ee5ng l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c nh\u00f3m, qu\u1ea3n l\u00fd d\u1ef1 \u00e1n. L\u00e2u d\u1ea7n b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd th\u1ea5y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng thay \u0111\u1ed5i h\u1ebft s\u1ee9c t\u00edch c\u1ef1c. N\u00f3i x\u1ea5u sau l\u01b0ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c s\u1ebd h\u1ee7y ho\u1ea1i m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7, danh ti\u1ebfng v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 nghi\u1ec7p c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. V\u1eady n\u00ean, h\u00e3y ch\u1ea5m d\u1ee9t ngay th\u00f3i quen x\u1ea5u \u0111\u00f3 t\u1eeb h\u00f4m nay \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u1eef g\u00ecn nh\u1eefng g\u00ec m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n \u0111ang c\u00f3.<\/strong> : H\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac ch\u00e2n ch\u00ednh kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i \u1edf ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c m\u00e0 \u1edf ch\u00ednh b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n ch\u00fang ta! Ch\u00fac c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n vui v\u1ebb!<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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