{"id":39561,"date":"2023-12-10T01:34:25","date_gmt":"2023-12-10T01:34:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/su-that-khi-dinh-menh-cho-ta-gap-dung-nguoi-nhung-sai-thoi-diem.html"},"modified":"2023-12-13T09:54:27","modified_gmt":"2023-12-13T09:54:27","slug":"su-that-khi-dinh-menh-cho-ta-gap-dung-nguoi-nhung-sai-thoi-diem","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/su-that-khi-dinh-menh-cho-ta-gap-dung-nguoi-nhung-sai-thoi-diem.html","title":{"rendered":"S\u1ef1 th\u1eadt khi \u0111\u1ecbnh m\u1ec7nh cho ta g\u1eb7p \u0111\u00fang ng\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u01b0ng sai th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m"},"content":{"rendered":"
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C\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1eebng n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng:<\/p>\n

“Th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m th\u00edch h\u1ee3p g\u1eb7p m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00edch h\u1ee3p l\u00e0 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac. <\/em><\/p>\n

Th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m th\u00edch h\u1ee3p g\u1eb7p m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng th\u00edch h\u1ee3p l\u00e0 sai l\u1ea7m. <\/em><\/p>\n

Th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m kh\u00f4ng th\u00edch h\u1ee3p g\u1eb7p m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng th\u00edch h\u1ee3p l\u00e0 vi\u1ec3n v\u00f4ng. <\/em><\/p>\n

Th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m kh\u00f4ng th\u00edch h\u1ee3p g\u1eb7p m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00edch h\u1ee3p l\u00e0 nu\u1ed1i ti\u1ebfc…<\/em>“.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

V\u1eady s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt khi \u0111\u1ecbnh m\u1ec7nh cho ta g\u1eb7p \u0111\u00fang ng\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u01b0ng sai th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m l\u00e0 g\u00ec?<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"S\u1ef1<\/strong><\/p>\n

Th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m<\/strong> l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t th\u1ee9 g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng ai trong s\u1ed1 ch\u00fang ta d\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u00ecm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u00fang ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7. S\u1ebd ra sao n\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n g\u1eb7p \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong m\u01a1 ch\u1ec9 m\u1ed9t th\u00e1ng tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi h\u1ecd r\u1eddi \u0111\u1ebfn ph\u01b0\u01a1ng tr\u1eddi xa x\u00f4i n\u00e0o kh\u00e1c? Hay nh\u01b0 l\u00fac t\u1ea1o h\u00f3a s\u1eafp x\u1ebfp \u0111i\u1ec1u ch\u00fang ta ng\u1ee1 l\u00e0 “duy\u00ean<\/em>” \u1ea5y khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 ch\u1ed1n an y\u00ean? M\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 k\u1ebft th\u00fac l\u00e0 v\u00ec m\u1ed9t b\u00ean ch\u01b0a s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng cho m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 b\u1ec1n ch\u1eb7t, c\u00f2n m\u1ed9t b\u00ean l\u1ea1i l\u00e0 n\u1ed7i nu\u1ed1i ti\u1ebfc khi ta l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ebfn sau. Th\u1eddi gian t\u01b0\u1edfng ch\u1eebng nh\u01b0 v\u00f4 h\u1ea1i nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u00f4i khi l\u1ea1i khi\u1ebfn ta loay hoay, m\u1ec7t nho\u00e0i v\u1edbi s\u1ea7u mu\u1ed9n.<\/p>\n

Ch\u00fang ta v\u1eabn c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i c\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f9a c\u00f9ng b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 v\u00e0 d\u00f5ng d\u1ea1c tuy\u00ean b\u1ed1 r\u1eb1ng: “M\u1ecdi chuy\u1ec7n r\u1ed3i s\u1ebd \u1ed5n th\u00f4i<\/em>” hay “Gi\u00e1 m\u00e0 m\u00ecnh \u0111ang \u1edf b\u1ea3y, t\u00e1m n\u0103m sau nh\u1ec9? L\u00fac \u0111\u00f3 s\u1ebd ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f2n v\u01b0\u1edbng b\u1eadn g\u00ec n\u1eefa<\/em>“. Th\u1eddi gian d\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0 l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1ee9 ba b\u1ea5t di b\u1ea5t d\u1ecbch trong t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta. Tuy nhi\u00ean, ch\u00fang ta ch\u1eb3ng bao gi\u1edd d\u1eebng l\u1ea1i \u0111\u1ec3 xem x\u00e9t l\u00fd do t\u1ea1i sao b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n l\u1ea1i \u0111\u1ec3 th\u1eddi gian \u0111\u00f3ng m\u1ed9t vai tr\u00f2 m\u1ea1nh m\u1ebd \u0111\u1ebfn v\u1eady trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. V\u00e0 cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng, c\u0169ng ch\u1eb3ng th\u1ec3 xo\u00e1 nho\u00e0 \u0111i \u0111\u00e2u \u0111\u00f3 trong ta n\u1ed7i \u00e1m \u1ea3nh v\u1edbi th\u1eddi gian.<\/p>\n

Nh\u01b0ng li\u1ec7u th\u1eddi gian c\u00f3 sai th\u1eadt kh\u00f4ng?<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"S\u1ef1<\/strong><\/p>\n

Th\u1eddi gian<\/strong> l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t th\u1ee9 “ch\u1ebft ti\u1ec7t<\/em>“. Nh\u01b0ng n\u00f3 ch\u1ec9 “ch\u1ebft ti\u1ec7t<\/em>” n\u1ebfu ch\u00fang ta khi\u1ebfn n\u00f3 nh\u01b0 v\u1eady. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n m\u00e0 t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 ai trong s\u1ed1 ch\u00fang ta c\u0169ng c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ed1i m\u1eb7t v\u1edbi n\u00f3: “Tr\u00ean th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf, sai th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 g\u1eb7p sai ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00e0 th\u00f4i<\/em>“.<\/p>\n

Hi\u1ec3n nhi\u00ean, m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ebd c\u00f3 cho ri\u00eang m\u00ecnh nh\u1eefng \u0111\u00e1p \u00e1n kh\u00e1c nhau. Nh\u01b0ng th\u01b0\u01a1ng m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1ebf n\u00e0o \u0111i n\u1eefa th\u00ec sai th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u0169ng l\u00e0 ta \u0111\u00e3 y\u00eau sai ng\u01b0\u1eddi<\/strong>. B\u1edfi l\u1ebd, \u0111\u00fang ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00ec g\u1eb7p nhau \u1edf th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m n\u00e0o c\u0169ng v\u1eady. Khi g\u1eb7p \u0111\u00fang ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng v\u1ee9t b\u1ecf m\u1ecdi d\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ecbnh ban \u0111\u1ea7u \u0111\u1ec3 s\u00e1nh vai c\u00f9ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ea5y tr\u00ean con \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u1ea7y ch\u00f4ng gai ph\u00eda tr\u01b0\u1edbc. V\u00e0 ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f3 l\u00fd do g\u00ec khi\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eafn \u0111o r\u1eb1ng li\u1ec7u m\u00ecnh c\u00f3 th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ea5y hay kh\u00f4ng. V\u1edbi b\u1ea1n, s\u1ef1 xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ea5y l\u00e0 m\u00f3n qu\u00e0 v\u00f4 gi\u00e1 v\u00e0 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac c\u1ee7a hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh \u01b0u ti\u00ean h\u00e0ng \u0111\u1ea7u trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng.<\/p>\n

Khi g\u1eb7p \u0111\u00fang ng\u01b0\u1eddi, th\u1eddi gian s\u1ebd tr\u00f4i qua nhanh ch\u00f3ng. B\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i lo l\u1eafng v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m th\u1ebf n\u00e0o \u0111\u1ec3 x\u1ebfp h\u1ecd v\u00e0o l\u1ecbch tr\u00ecnh ph\u1ee9c t\u1ea1p c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, b\u1edfi h\u1ecd tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n trong k\u1ebf ho\u1ea1ch \u0111\u00f3. H\u1ecd tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh “x\u01b0\u01a1ng s\u1ed1ng<\/em>” c\u1ee7a n\u00f3. H\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac c\u1ee7a c\u1ea3 hai s\u1ebd tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh \u01b0u ti\u00ean h\u00e0ng \u0111\u1ea7u v\u00e0 do \u0111\u00f3, mi\u1ec5n l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ea5y \u0111ang c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng g\u00f3p ph\u1ea7n x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng cho m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 n\u00e0y th\u00ec b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ti\u1ebfn h\u00e0nh nh\u1eefng c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c c\u00f2n l\u1ea1i.<\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/div>\n

: T\u1ea1i sao khi y\u00eau b\u1ea1n l\u1ea1i c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y vui v\u1ebb v\u00e0 s\u1ed1ng kh\u1ecfe m\u1ea1nh h\u01a1n?<\/p>\n

\"S\u1ef1<\/p>\n

G\u1eb7p \u0111\u00fang ng\u01b0\u1eddi, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u1ed5 v\u0169 ni\u1ec1m tin v\u00e0o s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh c\u1ee7a t\u00ecnh y\u00eau<\/strong>. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ea5y \u0111em l\u1ea1i cho b\u1ea1n c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c ng\u1ecdt ng\u00e0o ch\u01b0a t\u1eebng c\u00f3, khuy\u1ebfn kh\u00edch b\u1ea1n c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng ph\u00e1t huy s\u1edf tr\u01b0\u1eddng, kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng v\u00e0 \u0111am m\u00ea c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ea5y s\u1ebd \u0111\u1ed3ng h\u00e0nh c\u00f9ng b\u1ea1n qua nh\u1eefng cam go b\u1ea5t ch\u1ea5p s\u1ef1 ti\u00eau t\u1ed1n th\u1eddi gian c\u0169ng n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c. Khi b\u00ean c\u1ea1nh ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ea5y, th\u1eddi gian c\u0169ng \u0111\u1ee9ng v\u1ec1 ph\u00eda b\u1ea1n.\u200b<\/p>\n

S\u1ef1 th\u1eadt l\u00e0 <\/strong>khi ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ec3 vu\u1ed9t m\u1ea5t ai \u0111\u00f3 v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed5 l\u1ed7i cho s\u1ef1 s\u1eafp x\u1ebfp tr\u00eau ng\u01b0\u01a1i c\u1ee7a t\u1ea1o ho\u00e1, ch\u00ednh b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n ch\u00fang ta m\u1edbi l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft tr\u00e2n tr\u1ecdng c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i b\u00ean ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ea5y<\/strong>. V\u00ec ph\u00e9p m\u00e0u tr\u1ecdn v\u1eb9n ch\u1eb3ng bao gi\u1edd x\u1ea3y ra n\u1ebfu thi\u1ebfu \u0111i s\u1ef1 n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c v\u00e0 c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng. Tuy nhi\u00ean, c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 m\u1ed9t ng\u00e0y n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ea5y s\u1ebd l\u00e0m t\u1ed1t m\u1ecdi v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng v\u00e0o l\u00fac th\u1eddi gian th\u00edch h\u1ee3p. B\u1edfi khi m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 \u0111\u00fang ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u00fang ta c\u1ea7n t\u00ecm, ch\u00fang ta s\u1ebd bi\u1ebft c\u00e1ch l\u00e0m cho th\u1eddi gian trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh c\u00f3 th\u00eam h\u1ecd. V\u00e0 \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m m\u00e0 m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 lu\u00f4n \u0111\u00fang.<\/p>\n

: 8 d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u nh\u1eadn bi\u1ebft m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd ch\u1eb3ng \u0111i \u0111\u1ebfn \u0111\u00e2u<\/p>\n

Ch\u00fac c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n vui v\u1ebb!<\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

C\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1eebng n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng:<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[452],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/39561"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=39561"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/39561\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=39561"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=39561"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=39561"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}