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David Foster Wallace<\/strong> \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eebng n\u00f3i:<\/p>\n

“The most obvious, important realities are often the ones that are hardest to see and talk about.<\/em>“<\/p>\n

“Nh\u1eefng s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng nh\u1ea5t, quan tr\u1ecdng nh\u1ea5t th\u01b0\u1eddng kh\u00f3 nh\u00ecn th\u1ea5y v\u00e0 kh\u00f3 n\u00f3i \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1ea5t<\/em>“.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

\u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 sai l\u1ea7m \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean m\u00e0 h\u1ea7u h\u1ebft ch\u00fang ta th\u01b0\u1eddng m\u1eafc ph\u1ea3i khi th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n c\u00e1c m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi<\/strong>. N\u00f3i v\u1eady kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u00fd t\u01b0\u1edfng chung hay th\u1eadm ch\u00ed l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t t\u1ea7m nh\u00ecn l\u1edbn v\u1ec1 c\u00e1ch cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi b\u1ea1n m\u1edf ra nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o. Nh\u01b0ng nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong s\u1ed1 ch\u00fang ta th\u01b0\u1eddng c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng l\u1ea1c v\u00e0o trong nh\u1eefng x\u00e1o tr\u1ed9n h\u00e0ng ng\u00e0y c\u1ee7a cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng, ch\u1edd \u0111\u1ee3i v\u00e0 hy v\u1ecdng m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 s\u1ebd tr\u1edf n\u00ean t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p h\u01a1n. Ch\u00fang ta ch\u1ecdn c\u00e1ch ngh\u1ec9 ng\u01a1i trong vinh quang thay v\u00ec h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng \u0111\u1ec3 nh\u1eadn ra v\u00e0 h\u1ecdc h\u1ecfi t\u1eeb nh\u1eefng sai l\u1ea7m m\u00e0 b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u1eafc ph\u1ea3i.<\/p>\n

\"7<\/p>\n

D\u01b0\u1edbi \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 7 sai l\u1ea7m ph\u1ed5 bi\u1ebfn c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ng\u0103n b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau c\u1ee7a cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi.<\/strong> V\u00e0 quan tr\u1ecdng h\u01a1n, l\u00e0m th\u1ebf n\u00e0o \u0111\u1ec3 s\u1eeda ch\u1eefa nh\u1eefng sai l\u1ea7m \u0111\u00f3 n\u1ebfu nh\u1eadn ra b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n \u0111ang ph\u1ea1m ph\u1ea3i.<\/p>\n

Theo \u0111u\u1ed5i qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau c\u00f9ng m\u1ed9t l\u00fac<\/h2>\n

Trong h\u1ea7u h\u1ebft c\u00e1c tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p, vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u1eb7t t\u1ea7m nh\u00ecn cao l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u1ed1t nh\u01b0ng khi l\u1eadp m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi th\u00ec c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 g\u1ecdi l\u00e0 “qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u<\/em>“. Vi\u1ec7c c\u00f3 qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau<\/strong> c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m b\u1ea1n m\u1ea5t t\u1eadp trung v\u00e0 ng\u0103n b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng th\u00e0nh t\u1ef1u m\u00e0 b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n mu\u1ed1n. L\u1eddi khuy\u00ean d\u00e0nh cho b\u1ea1n: H\u00e3y gi\u1eef cho m\u1ecdi vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n. \u0110\u1eb7t m\u1ed9t ho\u1eb7c hai m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi cho m\u1ed7i ph\u1ea7n c\u1ee7a cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 quan tr\u1ecdng nh\u1ea5t (gia \u0111\u00ecnh, s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe, ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p,…)<\/p>\n

\u0110\u1eb7t ra nh\u1eefng m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau kh\u00f4ng th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c<\/h2>\n

\"7<\/p>\n

\u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t sai l\u1ea7m ph\u1ed5 bi\u1ebfn m\u00e0 m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u01b0\u1eddng hay m\u1eafc ph\u1ea3i: \u0111\u1eb7t nh\u1eefng m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n kh\u00f4ng th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf<\/strong>. T\u1ea5t nhi\u00ean, kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng n\u00ean \u0111\u1eb7t nh\u1eefng m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau cao v\u00e0 nhi\u1ec1u tham v\u1ecdng, nh\u01b0ng h\u00e3y t\u00ednh to\u00e1n th\u1eadt h\u1ee3p l\u00fd. Vi\u1ec7c n\u00f3i “T\u00f4i mu\u1ed1n tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh t\u1ef7 ph\u00fa<\/em>” ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn s\u1ebd l\u00e0m b\u1ea1n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng. H\u00e3y \u0111\u1eb7t nh\u1eefng m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 tin r\u1eb1ng m\u00ecnh c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c trong \u0111\u1eddi. \u0110\u1eebng t\u1eadp trung qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u v\u00e0o chuy\u1ec7n v\u1eadt ch\u1ea5t. B\u1ea1n th\u00edch c\u00f3: m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3\/ch\u1ed3ng l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n th\u00e2n v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ee9a con l\u1edbn l\u00ean, g\u00f3p ph\u1ea7n x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng \u0111\u1ea5t n\u01b0\u1edbc gi\u00e0u \u0111\u1eb9p h\u01a1n… hay l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t tri\u1ec7u ph\u00fa kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 v\u00e0 gia \u0111\u00ecnh? H\u00e3y \u0111\u1eb7t m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau d\u1ef1a tr\u00ean nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 cao trong cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi.<\/p>\n

: T\u1ea1i sao c\u1ea7n bi\u1ebft l\u00fac n\u00e0o n\u00ean im l\u1eb7ng v\u00e0 l\u00fac n\u00e0o n\u00ean n\u00f3i ra?<\/p>\n

Ch\u1ec9 ngh\u0129 \u0111\u1ebfn k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng<\/h2>\n

\"7<\/p>\n

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N\u1ebfu ch\u1ec9 t\u1eadp trung ngh\u0129 \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng g\u00ec ch\u1edd \u0111\u1ee3i \u1edf cu\u1ed1i con \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd b\u1ecf l\u1ee1 nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 th\u00fa v\u1ecb x\u1ea3y ra \u1edf d\u1ecdc \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng. Hay n\u00f3i c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c, con \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t h\u00e0nh tr\u00ecnh tuy\u1ec7t \u0111\u1eb9p. V\u00e0 th\u01b0\u1eddng th\u00ec h\u00e0nh tr\u00ecnh \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 ph\u1ea7n tr\u1ecdn v\u1eb9n nh\u1ea5t. Ch\u1ec9 trong ch\u1edbp m\u1eaft l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u1ecf l\u1ee1 n\u00f3. V\u00ec v\u1eady, \u0111\u1eebng n\u00ean t\u1eadp trung qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u v\u00e0o k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 sau c\u00f9ng<\/strong>. Thay v\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3, h\u00e3y t\u1ec9nh t\u00e1o nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c r\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng kho\u1ea3nh kh\u1eafc nh\u1ecf tr\u00ean cu\u1ed9c h\u00e0nh tr\u00ecnh m\u1edbi khi\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n t\u01b0\u01a1i c\u01b0\u1eddi.<\/p>\n

T\u1eadp trung qu\u00e1 m\u1ee9c v\u00e0o qu\u00e1 kh\u1ee9<\/h2>\n

\"7<\/p>\n

M\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong ch\u00fang ta th\u01b0\u1eddng b\u1ecb m\u1eafc k\u1eb9t tinh th\u1ea7n v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng chuy\u1ec7n \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eebng x\u1ea3y ra trong qu\u00e1 kh\u1ee9. V\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 \u1edf \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ebd tr\u1edf n\u00ean th\u00fa v\u1ecb h\u01a1n khi b\u1ea1n nh\u1eadn ra b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng m\u01a1 \u01b0\u1edbc, th\u1eafc m\u1eafc, s\u00e1ng t\u1ea1o, x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng, bi\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ed5i v\u00e0 y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng… ngay l\u00fac n\u00e0y. H\u00e3y \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1ea1i qu\u00e1 kh\u1ee9 \u1edf sau l\u01b0ng v\u00e0 t\u1eadp trung cho hi\u1ec7n t\u1ea1i. Vi\u1ec7c b\u1ea1n \u0111ang s\u1ed1ng v\u00e0 \u0111ang h\u00edt th\u1edf c\u0169ng l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ph\u00e9p m\u00e0u r\u1ed3i. V\u00cc v\u1eady, h\u00e3y ph\u1ea5n ch\u1ea5n l\u00ean v\u00e0 b\u1ecf l\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng g\u00ec x\u1ea3y ra trong qu\u00e1 kh\u1ee9 l\u1ea1i ph\u00eda sau. B\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i ngh\u0129 \u0111\u1ebfn n\u00f3 n\u1eefa.<\/p>\n

Nu\u00f4i d\u01b0\u1ee1ng nh\u1eefng suy ngh\u0129 ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c thay v\u00ec t\u00edch c\u1ef1c<\/h2>\n

\"7<\/p>\n

S\u1ed1 ph\u1eadn kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i m\u00e0 n\u00f3 l\u00e0 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn. M\u1ed7i th\u00e0nh t\u1ef1u v\u00e0 th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i trong \u0111\u1eddi l\u00e0 k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 tr\u1ef1c ti\u1ebfp \u0111\u1ebfn t\u1eeb suy ngh\u0129 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. Tin t\u01b0\u1edfng v\u00e0o b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n l\u00e0 y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 quan tr\u1ecdng nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau v\u00e0 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1. V\u00ec v\u1eady, h\u00e3y nh\u00ecn l\u00ean c\u00e1c v\u00ec sao tr\u00ean tr\u1eddi thay v\u00ec nh\u00ecn xu\u1ed1ng d\u01b0\u1edbi ch\u00e2n b\u1ea1n.<\/p>\n

L\u00e0m \u0111i l\u00e0m l\u1ea1i c\u00f9ng m\u1ed9t vi\u1ec7c<\/h2>\n
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\"7<\/p>\n

Thay \u0111\u1ed5i l\u00e0 th\u1ee9 duy nh\u1ea5t kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ed5i trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n b\u1ecb k\u1eb9t trong m\u1ed9t h\u1ed1 b\u00f9n, cho d\u00f9 b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c th\u00ec c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3. \u0110\u00fang v\u1eady, c\u00f3 l\u1ebd b\u1ea1n \u0111ang ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c “nh\u01b0 \u0111i\u00ean<\/em>“. Nh\u01b0ng h\u00e3y t\u1ef1 h\u1ecfi b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u1ed9t c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi kh\u00f3: n\u00f3 c\u00f3 \u0111em l\u1ea1i k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 m\u00e0 t\u00f4i \u0111ang t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm hay kh\u00f4ng? N\u1ebfu kh\u00f4ng, c\u00f3 l\u1ebd \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1ebfn l\u00fac \u0111i m\u1ed9t h\u01b0\u1edbng kh\u00e1c. Con \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng ti\u1ebfn t\u1edbi nh\u1eefng m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau \u0111\u1ec1 ra lu\u00f4n l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng, th\u00edch nghi v\u00e0 thay \u0111\u1ed5i cho \u0111\u1ebfn khi t\u00ecm ra con \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ec3 x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p h\u01a1n.<\/p>\n

Kh\u00f4ng l\u00ean k\u1ebf ho\u1ea1ch h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau<\/h2>\n

\"7<\/p>\n

Nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong ch\u00fang ta th\u01b0\u1eddng t\u1eadp trung v\u00e0o chi\u1ebfn thu\u1eadt v\u00e0 m\u00e1nh kh\u00f3e h\u01a1n l\u00e0 t\u1ea1o ra k\u1ebf ho\u1ea1ch h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3<\/strong>. S\u1ef1 th\u1eadt l\u00e0 ch\u00fang t\u00f4i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 cung c\u1ea5p cho b\u1ea1n m\u1ed9t danh s\u00e1ch sai l\u1ea7m v\u00e0 l\u1eddi khuy\u00ean, nh\u01b0ng tr\u1eeb khi b\u1ea1n l\u00ean k\u1ebf ho\u1ea1ch h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau, c\u00f2n kh\u00f4ng b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd th\u1ea5y m\u00ecnh h\u1ebft l\u1ea7n n\u00e0y \u0111\u1ebfn l\u1ea7n kh\u00e1c c\u00f9ng m\u1eafc chung m\u1ed9t sai l\u1ea7m. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 c\u00e1ch b\u1ea1n n\u00ean l\u00e0m: chia m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau th\u00e0nh t\u1eebng m\u1ed1c \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 qu\u1ea3n l\u00fd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng, nh\u1eefng m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau b\u1ea1n mu\u1ed1n \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ed7i n\u0103m, m\u1ed7i th\u00e1ng v\u00e0 m\u1ed7i tu\u1ea7n. N\u1ebfu c\u00e1ch n\u00e0y c\u00f3 v\u1ebb qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u vi\u1ec7c ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m, th\u00ec b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00fang r\u1ed3i \u0111\u1ea5y.<\/p>\n

Theo l\u1eddi c\u1ee7a Antoine de Saint-Exupery, “m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 k\u1ebf ho\u1ea1ch th\u00ec ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 mong \u01b0\u1edbc<\/em>“. Do \u0111\u00f3 ngay t\u1eeb h\u00f4m nay h\u00e3y \u0111\u1eb7t m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau v\u00e0 b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u l\u00ean k\u1ebf ho\u1ea1ch h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng \u0111\u1ec3 th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n. Sau \u0111\u00f3 h\u00e3y ng\u1ed3i l\u1ea1i v\u00e0 t\u1eadn h\u01b0\u1edfng h\u00e0nh tr\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n

: N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac v\u00e0 th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng, \u0111\u1eebng bao gi\u1edd n\u00f3i 10 c\u00e2u n\u00e0y!<\/p>\n

Ch\u00fac c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n vui v\u1ebb!<\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

David Foster Wallace<\/strong> \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eebng n\u00f3i:<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[452],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/39567"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=39567"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/39567\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=39567"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=39567"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=39567"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}