{"id":39709,"date":"2023-12-10T01:39:42","date_gmt":"2023-12-10T01:39:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/17-bai-hoc-vo-gia-ma-tinh-yeu-da-day-cho-chung-ta.html"},"modified":"2023-12-13T09:22:15","modified_gmt":"2023-12-13T09:22:15","slug":"17-bai-hoc-vo-gia-ma-tinh-yeu-da-day-cho-chung-ta","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/17-bai-hoc-vo-gia-ma-tinh-yeu-da-day-cho-chung-ta.html","title":{"rendered":"17 b\u00e0i h\u1ecdc v\u00f4 gi\u00e1 m\u00e0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau \u0111\u00e3 d\u1ea1y cho ch\u00fang ta"},"content":{"rendered":"
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T\u00ecnh y\u00eau<\/strong>. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau l\u00e0m cho Tr\u00e1i \u0110\u1ea5t quay tr\u00f2n \u0111\u00fang kh\u00f4ng? \u00cdt nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eebng c\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00f3i nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf. Nh\u01b0ng li\u1ec7u r\u1eb1ng \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 \u0111\u00fang v\u1edbi t\u00ecnh y\u00eau trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng hi\u1ec7n nay hay kh\u00f4ng? T\u00ecnh y\u00eau c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u00fang nh\u01b0 v\u1eady, tuy nhi\u00ean c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1ea1i nh\u1ea7m l\u1eabn gi\u1eefa t\u00ecnh y\u00eau v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 kh\u00e1c nh\u01b0 s\u1ef1 ghen tu\u00f4ng hay s\u1ef1 chi\u1ebfm h\u1eefu ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ea1n. V\u1ed1n d\u0129 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau \u0111\u00edch th\u1ef1c<\/strong> kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 \u0111\u00f3, m\u00e0 l\u00e0 17 \u0111i\u1ec1u d\u01b0\u1edbi \u0111\u00e2y – nh\u1eefng b\u00e0i h\u1ecdc v\u00f4 gi\u00e1 m\u00e0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau d\u1ea1y cho ta.<\/p>\n

\"T\u00ecnh<\/p>\n

1. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 b\u1ecf qua nh\u1eefng k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ec1u mu\u1ed1n m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u01b0 x\u1eed theo c\u00e1ch m\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta mu\u1ed1n. Ta mu\u1ed1n h\u1ecd ph\u1ea3i tr\u00ecu m\u1ebfn, th\u00e2n thi\u1ec7n, th\u00f4ng minh ho\u1eb7c tham v\u1ecdng h\u01a1n. T\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 n\u00e0y \u0111\u1ec1u l\u00e0 k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n. K\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng \u0111\u00f3 ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng y\u00eau c\u1ea7u \u0111\u1ec3 “c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn”<\/em> y\u00eau ai \u0111\u00f3. Tuy nhi\u00ean, t\u00ecnh y\u00eau \u0111\u00edch th\u1ef1c kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng, ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n l\u00e0 “c\u00f3 sao y\u00eau v\u1eady<\/em>“.<\/p>\n

2. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u00f3ng vai n\u1ea1n nh\u00e2n hay \u0111\u1ed5 l\u1ed7i cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c<\/strong><\/p>\n

T\u00ecnh y\u00eau kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a r\u1eb1ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c mu\u1ed1n \u0111o\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c n\u00f3 v\u00ec nh\u1eefng l\u00fd do \u00edch k\u1ef7 v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd sai. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau l\u00e0 th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n c\u00f9ng nhau. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau nh\u1eadn h\u1ebft tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m: tha th\u1ee9 v\u00e0 cho ph\u00e9p nh\u1eefng h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c c\u00f3 m\u1eb7t tr\u00ean h\u00e0nh tr\u00ecnh c\u1ee7a cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi m\u00ecnh. \u0110\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t, t\u00ecnh y\u00eau kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ec3 b\u1ee5ng b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 chuy\u1ec7n g\u00ec.<\/p>\n

\"T\u00ecnh<\/p>\n

3. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau bao g\u1ed3m c\u1ea3 s\u1ef1 bu\u00f4ng tay<\/strong><\/p>\n

T\u00ecnh y\u00eau kh\u00f4ng ngang b\u1eb1ng v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 chi\u1ebfm h\u1eefu. Gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t c\u00e2u ch\u00e2m ng\u00f4n: “N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n y\u00eau qu\u00fd m\u1ed9t th\u1ee9 g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3, h\u00e3y trao cho n\u00f3 s\u1ef1 t\u1ef1 do. N\u1ebfu n\u00f3 quay tr\u1edf l\u1ea1i, n\u00f3 l\u00e0 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. N\u1ebfu kh\u00f4ng tr\u1edf l\u1ea1i, n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd thu\u1ed9c v\u1ec1 b\u1ea1n<\/em>“. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y th\u1eadt s\u1ef1 r\u1ea5t \u0111\u00fang. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta s\u1ef1 t\u1ef1 do c\u1ee7a ri\u00eang h\u1ecd. N\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng \u00f4m ch\u1eb7t v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e8 n\u00e1t \u0111\u00f4i c\u00e1nh \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u1eef h\u1ecd l\u1ea1i. B\u1edfi t\u00ecnh y\u00eau ch\u00e2n ch\u00ednh kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n chi\u1ebfm h\u1eefu m\u00e0 n\u00f3 s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng tr\u1ea3 cho b\u1ea1n s\u1ef1 t\u1ef1 do n\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n mu\u1ed1n th\u1ebf.<\/p>\n

4. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau kh\u00f4ng y\u00eau c\u1ea7u b\u1ea1n ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c duy tr\u00ec m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7<\/strong><\/p>\n

C\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u1ea1n y\u00eau ai \u0111\u00f3 r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u nh\u01b0ng l\u1ea1i kh\u00f4ng ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p v\u1edbi h\u1ecd ho\u1eb7c h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m b\u1ea1n ph\u00e1t \u0111i\u00ean l\u00ean khi li\u00ean t\u1ee5c xem nh\u1eb9 nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. Hay c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u1ea1n v\u1eabn c\u00f2n y\u00eau h\u1ecd, nh\u01b0ng \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i \u1edf b\u00ean c\u1ea1nh h\u1ecd. B\u1edfi y\u00eau kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i \u1edf l\u1ea1i, \u1edf l\u1ea1i v\u00e0 \u1edf l\u1ea1i. B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 k\u1ebft th\u00fac m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 m\u00e0 v\u1eabn ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c y\u00eau h\u1ecd. H\u00e3y lu\u00f4n nh\u1edb r\u1eb1ng, t\u00ecnh y\u00eau l\u00e0 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac, bi\u1ebft \u01a1n v\u00e0 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c y\u00eau.<\/p>\n

\"T\u00ecnh<\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/div>\n

5. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ch\u1ed7 cho s\u1ef1 ghen tu\u00f4ng<\/strong><\/p>\n

C\u0169ng gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 s\u1ef1 chi\u1ebfm h\u1eefu, ghen tu\u00f4ng kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 s\u00e1nh ngang v\u1edbi t\u00ecnh y\u00eau \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. Ch\u00fang ta th\u01b0\u1eddng ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng n\u1ebfu ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft ghen v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00ecnh y\u00eau ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng y\u00eau h\u1ecd. Tuy nhi\u00ean, tr\u00ean th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf, t\u00ecnh y\u00eau \u0111\u00edch th\u1ef1c l\u00e0 c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 tin t\u01b0\u1edfng v\u00e0o ch\u1ea5t l\u01b0\u1ee3ng c\u1ee7a m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7. \u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 cho b\u1ea1n bi\u1ebft r\u1eb1ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ea5y \u0111ang h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac, h\u00e0i l\u00f2ng v\u00e0 s\u1ebd quay l\u1ea1i v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n, v\u00e0 ch\u1ec9 b\u1ea1n m\u00e0 th\u00f4i.<\/p>\n

6. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ch\u1ed7 cho s\u1ef1 s\u1ee3 h\u00e3i<\/strong><\/p>\n

B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1eb7t t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 c\u1ea3m x\u00fac c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n l\u00ean m\u1ed9t tr\u1ee5c \u0111\u1ed3 th\u1ecb ch\u1ea1y li\u00ean t\u1ee5c. \u1ede m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ea7u, b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau. Ti\u1ebfp theo l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 tri \u00e2n, ni\u1ec1m vui, h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac, s\u1ef1 h\u00e0i l\u00f2ng v\u00e0 th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n. C\u00f2n \u1edf chi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i c\u1ee7a t\u00ecnh y\u00eau l\u00e0 s\u1ee3 h\u00e3i, bao g\u1ed3m nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac nh\u01b0 l\u00f2ng th\u00f9 h\u1eadn, s\u1ef1 b\u1ea5t an, s\u1ef1 ghen tu\u00f4ng ho\u1eb7c l\u00f2ng tham.<\/p>\n

\"T\u00ecnh<\/p>\n

7. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i c\u1ea7n v\u00e0 mu\u1ed1n<\/strong><\/p>\n

M\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u ch\u00fang ta th\u01b0\u1eddng d\u1ea1y tr\u1ebb con c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng gi\u1eefa th\u1ee9 mu\u1ed1n c\u00f3<\/strong> v\u00e0 th\u1ee9 c\u1ea7n c\u00f3<\/strong>. C\u1ea7n c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t ai \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 c\u1ea3m x\u00fac d\u1ef1a tr\u00ean s\u1ef1 s\u1ee3 h\u00e3i, b\u1ea1n s\u1ee3 r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 s\u1ed1ng thi\u1ebfu h\u1ecd, v\u00ec th\u1ebf b\u1ea1n c\u1ea7n h\u1ecd. Nh\u01b0ng h\u00e3y nh\u1edb r\u1eb1ng, s\u1ee3 h\u00e3i \u0111\u1ed1i ngh\u1ecbch v\u1edbi t\u00ecnh y\u00eau. Mu\u1ed1n m\u1ed9t ai \u0111\u00f3 trong cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi b\u1ea1n, h\u00e3y cho h\u1ecd s\u1ef1 t\u1ef1 do \u0111\u1ec3 ra \u0111i nh\u01b0ng v\u1eabn cho h\u1ecd th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n y\u00eau h\u1ecd.<\/p>\n

8. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau l\u00e0 h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng, ch\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c<\/strong><\/p>\n

Con ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u00fang ta th\u01b0\u1eddng c\u00f3 khuynh h\u01b0\u1edbng b\u1ecb nghi\u1ec7n nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac m\u00e3nh li\u1ec7t \u2013 \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t l\u00e0 khi n\u00f3 mang l\u1ea1i c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c d\u1ec5 ch\u1ecbu. V\u00ec th\u1ebf khi ch\u00fang ta \u0111ang y\u00eau, ch\u00fang ta mu\u1ed1n c\u1ea3m nh\u1eadn theo c\u00e1ch \u0111\u00f3 m\u00e3i m\u00e3i. Nh\u01b0ng b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 tin c\u00e1i c\u1ea3m x\u00fac cao h\u01a1n “9 t\u1ea7ng m\u00e2y<\/em>” \u0111\u00f3 ch\u1ec9 m\u1ed9t tho\u00e1ng l\u00e0 s\u1ebd bi\u1ebfn m\u1ea5t hay kh\u00f4ng? \u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng y\u00eau ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ea5y, n\u00f3 ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n m\u1edbi nh\u01b0 l\u00fac ban \u0111\u1ea7u m\u00e0 th\u00f4i. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 l\u00fac ch\u00fang ta c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng, th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ea5y bi\u1ebft b\u1ea1n y\u00eau h\u1ecd. \u0110\u1eebng ch\u1ec9 gi\u1ea3 \u0111\u1ecbnh r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd bi\u1ebft \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3.<\/p>\n

\"T\u00ecnh<\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/div>\n

9. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau l\u00e0 v\u00f4 \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n<\/strong><\/p>\n

C\u1ee5m t\u1eeb “v\u00f4 \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n<\/em>” c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng hay gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n n\u00e0o \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1eb7t ra. Y\u00eau kh\u00f4ng \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t vi\u1ec7c r\u1ea5t kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n v\u00e0 h\u1ea7u h\u1ebft m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u kh\u00f4ng gi\u1ecfi \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y. Nh\u01b0ng th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf, t\u00ecnh y\u00eau ch\u00e2n ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng thay \u0111\u1ed5i ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00ecnh y\u00eau.[7 c\u00e1ch luy\u1ec7n t\u1eadp y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u00f4 \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n b\u1ea1n c\u1ea7n bi\u1ebft]<\/p>\n

10. \u0110\u1eb7t nhu c\u1ea7u c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c l\u00ean ngang b\u1eb1ng ho\u1eb7c tr\u01b0\u1edbc nhu c\u1ea7u c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n<\/strong><\/p>\n

Trong khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u00edch k\u1ef7 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch c\u1ed1 h\u1eefu v\u00ec nh\u1eefng m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch sinh t\u1ed3n, th\u00ec \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y l\u1ea1i kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 l\u1ee3i cho ta trong nh\u1eefng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1eb7t nhu c\u1ea7u c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c \u00edt nh\u1ea5t b\u1eb1ng v\u1edbi nhu c\u1ea7u c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n, h\u1ecd s\u1ebd o\u00e1n gi\u1eadn. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau ch\u00e2n ch\u00ednh quan t\u00e2m t\u1edbi h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch t\u1ef1 nguy\u1ec7n v\u00e0 s\u1ebd l\u00e0m nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c qu\u00fd tr\u1ecdng.<\/p>\n

\"T\u00ecnh<\/p>\n

11. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau l\u00e0 c\u1ea3m x\u00fac rung \u0111\u1ed9ng cao nh\u1ea5t<\/strong><\/p>\n

Khoa h\u1ecdc \u0111\u00e3 ch\u1ee9ng minh r\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng x\u00fac c\u1ea3m nh\u01b0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 s\u1ee3 h\u00e3i c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 rung \u0111\u1ed9ng kh\u00e1c nhau. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 \u0111o \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u00fang. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau rung \u0111\u1ed9ng r\u1ea5t nhanh, trong khi nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac s\u1ee3 h\u00e3i (ghen t\u1ef5, o\u00e1n h\u1eadn, \u00edch k\u1ef7, tham lam…<\/em>) l\u1ea1i rung \u0111\u1ed9ng r\u1ea5t ch\u1eadm. Khi b\u1ea1n y\u00eau ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh v\u00e0 v\u00f4 \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n, kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 s\u1ee3 h\u00e3i n\u00e0o d\u00ednh d\u00e1ng th\u00ec s\u1ef1 rung \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u1ee7a t\u00ecnh y\u00eau lu\u00f4n l\u00e0m cho b\u1ea1n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y d\u1ec5 ch\u1ecbu.<\/p>\n

12. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau t\u1eadp trung v\u00e0o ch\u1ea5t l\u01b0\u1ee3ng, ch\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i s\u1ed1 l\u01b0\u1ee3ng<\/strong><\/p>\n

T\u00ecnh y\u00eau t\u1eadp trung v\u00e0o ch\u1ea5t l\u01b0\u1ee3ng c\u1ee7a m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7, ch\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i tu\u1ed5i th\u1ecd c\u1ee7a n\u00f3. Ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eebng nghe c\u00e2u: “Th\u00e0 y\u00eau m\u1ed9t l\u1ea7n r\u1ed3i chia tay, c\u00f2n h\u01a1n l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c y\u00eau” r\u1ed3i ch\u1ee9!<\/em> Ch\u1ec9 v\u00ec m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n k\u00e9o d\u00e0i kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau \u0111\u00edch th\u1ef1c. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau \u0111\u00edch th\u1ef1c c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 r\u1ea5t ng\u1eafn. B\u1edfi v\u1eady, trong t\u00ecnh y\u00eau ch\u1ea5t l\u01b0\u1ee3ng v\u00e0 s\u1ed1 l\u01b0\u1ee3ng kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 nh\u01b0 nhau. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau ch\u00e2n ch\u00ednh quan t\u00e2m t\u1edbi h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n

\"T\u00ecnh<\/p>\n

13. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau c\u1ea7n s\u1ef1 quan t\u00e2m l\u1eabn nhau<\/strong><\/p>\n

T\u00ecnh y\u00eau kh\u00f4ng ph\u1edbt l\u1edd, kh\u00f4ng nh\u00ecn v\u1ec1 h\u01b0\u1edbng kh\u00e1c mu\u1ed1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n v\u00e0 t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i c\u00f9ng nhau. Khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta y\u00eau, \u0111\u00f4i khi h\u1ecd ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i “l\u00e0m th\u00eam b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec<\/em>“. Nh\u01b0ng t\u00ecnh y\u00eau \u0111\u00edch th\u1ef1c th\u1eadt s\u1ef1 c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i quan t\u00e2m t\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ea5y, c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng xem vi\u1ec7c quan t\u00e2m t\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ea5y l\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c v\u1eb7t.<\/p>\n

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14. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau l\u00e0 th\u1ea5u hi\u1ec3u v\u00e0 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn s\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t<\/strong><\/p>\n

H\u00e3y \u0111\u1ed1i m\u1eb7t v\u1edbi \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3. T\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ec1u kh\u00e1c nhau. Ngay c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng c\u1eb7p song sinh c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n gi\u1ed1ng nhau. H\u1ecd c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m v\u00e0 c\u00e1ch nh\u00ecn kh\u00e1c nhau v\u1ec1 th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau ch\u00e2n ch\u00ednh kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0m cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ea5y c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y sai v\u00ec s\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t \u0111\u00f3. Khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 y\u00eau m\u1ed9t ai \u0111\u00f3, h\u1ecd s\u1ebd ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn m\u1ecdi s\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t.<\/p>\n

15. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau ph\u00e2n bi\u1ec7t b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n v\u00e0 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 l\u00e0m cho ch\u00fang ta “c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c y\u00eau<\/em>” \u0111\u1ec1u kh\u00e1c nhau. Trong cu\u1ed1n s\u00e1ch “The Five Love Languages<\/em>” (t\u1ea1m d\u1ecbch: “N\u0103m ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef t\u00ecnh y\u00eau<\/em>“) c\u1ee7a t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3 Gary Chapman, \u00f4ng gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch nh\u1eefng c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c nhau v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c cho \u0111i v\u00e0 nh\u1eadn l\u1ea1i trong t\u00ecnh y\u00eau: (1) Ng\u00f4n t\u1eeb, (2) H\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng ph\u1ee5c v\u1ee5, (3) T\u1eb7ng qu\u00e0, (4) D\u00e0nh th\u1eddi gian c\u00f9ng nhau, v\u00e0 (5) Ti\u1ebfp x\u00fac. Kh\u00e1m ph\u00e1 ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef t\u00ecnh y\u00eau c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ea5y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t vi\u1ec7c r\u1ea5t quan tr\u1ecdng \u0111\u1ec3 b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u v\u00e0 trao t\u00ecnh y\u00eau theo c\u00e1ch m\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ea5y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 nh\u1eadn ra.<\/p>\n

\"T\u00ecnh<\/p>\n

16. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau l\u00e0m b\u1ea1n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y d\u1ec5 ch\u1ecbu, ch\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i t\u1ec7 h\u1ea1i<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u1ea7m l\u1eabn gi\u1eefa m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 v\u1edbi t\u00ecnh y\u00eau. Ch\u1ec9 v\u00ec b\u1ea1n \u0111ang trong m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t t\u00ecnh y\u00eau \u0111\u00edch th\u1ef1c. N\u1ebfu c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 ghen tu\u00f4ng, s\u1ef1 chi\u1ebfm h\u1eefu, nh\u1eefng c\u00e3i v\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng ng\u1edbt, s\u1ef1 l\u0103ng m\u1ea1 (b\u1eb1ng l\u1eddi n\u00f3i, c\u1ea3m x\u00fac ho\u1eb7c th\u1ec3 ch\u1ea5t<\/em>), th\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau. H\u00e3y quay tr\u1edf l\u1ea1i b\u00e0i h\u1ecdc s\u1ed1 6 – T\u00ecnh y\u00eau kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ch\u1ed7 cho s\u1ef1 s\u1ee3 h\u00e3i<\/strong>. Nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 c\u1ea3m x\u00fac v\u00e0 h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng mang \u00fd ngh\u0129a s\u1ee3 h\u00e3i m\u00e0 th\u00f4i.<\/p>\n

17. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 c\u1ea3m th\u00f4ng<\/strong><\/p>\n

S\u1ef1 c\u1ea3m th\u00f4ng l\u00e0 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng \u0111\u1eb7t m\u00ecnh v\u00e0o v\u1ecb tr\u00ed c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c \u0111\u1ec3 xem x\u00e9t t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng b\u1eb1ng quan \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 c\u1ea3m th\u00f4ng s\u00e2u s\u1eafc. “Khi b\u1ea1n \u0111au, t\u00f4i c\u0169ng \u0111au<\/em>“. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng nhau kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n l\u00e0m t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng nhau. H\u1ecd mu\u1ed1n ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y vui v\u1ebb. H\u1ecd quan t\u00e2m t\u1edbi c\u1ea3m x\u00fac c\u1ee7a nhau v\u00e0 c\u1ed1 l\u00e0m m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 \u0111\u1ec3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c y\u00eau qu\u00fd v\u00e0 x\u1ee9ng \u0111\u00e1ng. H\u00e3y lu\u00f4n nh\u1edb r\u1eb1ng, t\u00ecnh y\u00eau l\u00e0 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac, l\u00f2ng bi\u1ebft \u01a1n, v\u00e0 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c vui v\u1ebb. B\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 th\u1ee9 g\u00ec kh\u00e1c \u0111\u1ec1u kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau. N\u1ebfu t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ec1u y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng l\u1eabn nhau nh\u01b0 y\u00eau ch\u00ednh b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh, th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi n\u00e0y s\u1ebd l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t n\u01a1i v\u00f4 c\u00f9ng tuy\u1ec7t v\u1eddi!<\/p>\n

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Ch\u00fac c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n vui v\u1ebb!<\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

T\u00ecnh y\u00eau<\/strong>. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau l\u00e0m cho Tr\u00e1i \u0110\u1ea5t quay tr\u00f2n \u0111\u00fang kh\u00f4ng? \u00cdt nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eebng c\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00f3i nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf. Nh\u01b0ng li\u1ec7u r\u1eb1ng \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 \u0111\u00fang v\u1edbi t\u00ecnh y\u00eau trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng hi\u1ec7n nay hay kh\u00f4ng? T\u00ecnh y\u00eau c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u00fang nh\u01b0 v\u1eady, tuy nhi\u00ean c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1ea1i nh\u1ea7m l\u1eabn gi\u1eefa t\u00ecnh y\u00eau v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 kh\u00e1c nh\u01b0 s\u1ef1 ghen tu\u00f4ng hay s\u1ef1 chi\u1ebfm h\u1eefu ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ea1n. V\u1ed1n d\u0129 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau \u0111\u00edch th\u1ef1c<\/strong> kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 \u0111\u00f3, m\u00e0 l\u00e0 17 \u0111i\u1ec1u d\u01b0\u1edbi \u0111\u00e2y – nh\u1eefng b\u00e0i h\u1ecdc v\u00f4 gi\u00e1 m\u00e0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau d\u1ea1y cho ta.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[452],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/39709"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=39709"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/39709\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=39709"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=39709"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=39709"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}