{"id":39741,"date":"2023-12-10T01:41:09","date_gmt":"2023-12-10T01:41:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/13-nguyen-tac-then-chot-de-co-mot-tinh-yeu-ben-vung-lau-dai.html"},"modified":"2023-12-13T09:15:06","modified_gmt":"2023-12-13T09:15:06","slug":"13-nguyen-tac-then-chot-de-co-mot-tinh-yeu-ben-vung-lau-dai","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/13-nguyen-tac-then-chot-de-co-mot-tinh-yeu-ben-vung-lau-dai.html","title":{"rendered":"13 nguy\u00ean t\u1eafc then ch\u1ed1t \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t t\u00ecnh y\u00eau b\u1ec1n v\u1eefng, l\u00e2u d\u00e0i"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Mark Manson, m\u1ed9t blogger – nh\u00e0 v\u0103n n\u1ed5i ti\u1ebfng, \u0111\u00e3 ti\u1ebfn h\u00e0nh th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n m\u1ed9t th\u1eed nghi\u1ec7m v\u1ec1 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 b\u1ec1n v\u1eefng trong t\u00ecnh y\u00eau v\u00f4 c\u00f9ng th\u00fa v\u1ecb. Mark Manson y\u00eau c\u1ea7u 1.500 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111ang y\u00eau chia s\u1ebb b\u00ed m\u1eadt v\u1ec1 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 b\u1ec1n v\u1eefng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. K\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 thu \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u00e0m anh c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y ng\u1ea1c nhi\u00ean. D\u1ef1a tr\u00ean k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u c\u1ee7a Mark, trang Bright Side \u0111\u00e3 r\u00fat ra 13 nguy\u00ean t\u1eafc quan tr\u1ecdng \u0111\u1ec3 t\u1ea1o n\u00ean m\u1ed9t t\u00ecnh y\u00eau b\u1ec1n v\u1eefng, d\u00e0i l\u00e2u<\/strong>. M\u1eddi c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n c\u00f9ng tham kh\u1ea3o!<\/p>\n

1. C\u00f3 nh\u1eefng mong \u0111\u1ee3i th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7<\/h2>\n

\"C\u00f3<\/p>\n

Romeo v\u00e0 Juliet kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n t\u00ecnh y\u00eau. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 cu\u1ed9c g\u1eb7p m\u1eb7t gi\u1eefa m\u1ed9t b\u00e9 g\u00e1i 13 tu\u1ed5i v\u00e0 m\u1ed9t c\u1eadu con trai 17 tu\u1ed5i, ch\u1ec9 v\u1ecfn v\u1eb9n trong v\u00f2ng 3 ng\u00e0y m\u00e0 \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 t\u1edbi 6 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ebft.<\/p>\n

\u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y cho ta th\u1ea5y t\u00ecnh y\u00eau \u0111\u00edch th\u1ef1c<\/strong> c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn v\u00e0 ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh, d\u00f9 cho c\u00f3 b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng tr\u1eafc tr\u1edf n\u00e0o x\u1ea3y ra. C\u00f2n t\u00ecnh y\u00eau l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n<\/strong> ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u1ea1m th\u1eddi, \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 l\u00fd do t\u1ea1i sao ng\u00e0y nay c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1eabn th\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u1ea7m l\u1eabn v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau. Khi s\u1ef1 nhi\u1ec7t huy\u1ebft kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n, t\u00ecnh y\u00eau s\u1ebd bi\u1ebfn m\u1ea5t m\u00e3i m\u00e3i.<\/p>\n

Trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng hi\u1ec7n nay, nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u t\u00ecnh y\u00eau \u0111\u1ec3 b\u00f9 \u0111\u1eafp nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u00e0 h\u1ecd thi\u1ebfu ho\u1eb7c h\u1ecd gh\u00e9t. Ch\u00ednh \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y s\u1ebd t\u1ea1o ra ng\u00f5 c\u1ee5t trong t\u00ecnh y\u00eau. T\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd tr\u1edf n\u00ean t\u1ea1m th\u1eddi, d\u1eadm ch\u00e2n t\u1ea1i ch\u1ed7 cho \u0111\u1ebfn khi b\u1ea1n c\u1ea7n \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 \u1edf nhau.<\/p>\n

2. \u1ede b\u00ean nhau v\u00ec l\u00fd do ch\u00ednh \u0111\u00e1ng<\/h2>\n

\"C\u00f3<\/p>\n

Mark \u0111\u1eb7t c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi cho nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi tham gia th\u1eed nghi\u1ec7m r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eebng l\u00e0m g\u00ec sai tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi k\u1ebft h\u00f4n. C\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi m\u00e0 Mark nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nhi\u1ec1u nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 “T\u00f4i \u1edf b\u00ean c\u1ea1nh c\u00f4 \u1ea5y\/anh \u1ea5y v\u00ec nh\u1eefng l\u00fd do sai l\u1ea7m<\/em>“. Ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ea1n nh\u01b0:<\/p>\n

3. M\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 b\u1ec1n v\u1eefng kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi s\u1ef1 hy sinh<\/h2>\n

\"C\u00f3<\/p>\n

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S\u1ef1 hy sinh trong t\u00ecnh y\u00eau c\u00f3 l\u1ebd l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u hi\u1ec3n nhi\u00ean. B\u1ea1n c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng gi\u1eef g\u00ecn m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch li\u00ean t\u1ee5c hy sinh b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n v\u00ec ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia. Tuy nhi\u00ean, \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u00fap m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 tr\u1edf n\u00ean l\u00e2u d\u00e0i c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i c\u00f3 hai t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch “b\u1ec1n v\u1eefng<\/em>“, ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ea3i gi\u1eef \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch c\u1ee7a ri\u00eang m\u00ecnh. Kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00fac n\u00e0o c\u0169ng ph\u1ea3i hy sinh v\u00ec n\u1eeda kia.<\/p>\n

4. C\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng l\u1eabn nhau trong khi giao ti\u1ebfp<\/h2>\n

\"C\u00f3<\/p>\n

H\u1ea7u h\u1ebft nh\u1eefng c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 ly d\u1ecb t\u1eeb 10 \u0111\u1ebfn 15 n\u0103m \u0111\u1ec1u n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng giao ti\u1ebfp l\u00e0 ch\u00eca kh\u00f3a c\u1ee7a th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng. Ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i, nh\u1eefng c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 b\u00ean nhau v\u00e0i ch\u1ee5c n\u0103m lu\u00f4n \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 cao s\u1ef1 t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng.<\/p>\n

Xung \u0111\u1ed9t l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 tr\u00e1nh kh\u1ecfi trong c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t l\u00e0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau. Ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 l\u00f2ng tin m\u1edbi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u1ee9u v\u1edbt \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. H\u01a1n n\u1eefa, b\u1ea1n c\u0169ng ph\u1ea3i t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng ch\u00ednh b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh, v\u00ec n\u1ebfu thi\u1ebfu \u0111i \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y s\u1ebd khi\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb, kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0m cho m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 gi\u1eefa hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1ed1t l\u00ean \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. D\u01b0\u1edbi \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 minh ch\u1ee9ng v\u1ec1 c\u00e1ch c\u01b0 x\u1eed \u0111\u00fang \u0111\u1eafn c\u1ee7a c\u00e1c c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac:<\/p>\n

5. C\u1ea3 hai s\u1ebd thay \u0111\u1ed5i ngo\u00e0i s\u1ef1 mong ch\u1edd, nh\u01b0ng h\u00e3y vui v\u1ebb \u0111\u00f3n nh\u1eadn<\/h2>\n

\"C\u00f3<\/p>\n

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C\u00e1c c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i b\u00ean c\u1ea1nh nhau h\u01a1n 20 n\u0103m th\u01b0\u1eddng ch\u00fa \u00fd \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ef1 thay \u0111\u1ed5i c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng theo th\u1eddi gian. Do \u0111\u00f3, b\u1ea1n n\u00ean s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn nh\u1eefng thay \u0111\u1ed5i c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi. S\u1ef1 thay \u0111\u1ed5i \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 v\u1ec1 kh\u1ea9u v\u1ecb hay nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u00e1ng k\u1ec3, m\u00e0 \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 thay \u0111\u1ed5i cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch tri\u1ec7t \u0111\u1ec3, c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 quan \u0111i\u1ec3m v\u1ec1 t\u00f4n gi\u00e1o, chuy\u1ec3n \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ea5t n\u01b0\u1edbc m\u1edbi, s\u1ef1 ra \u0111i c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00e2n, vi\u1ec7c ch\u0103m s\u00f3c c\u00e1c th\u00e0nh vi\u00ean trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh, quan \u0111i\u1ec3m ch\u00ednh tr\u1ecb, th\u1eadm ch\u00ed l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 thay \u0111\u1ed5i v\u1ec1 \u0111\u1ecbnh h\u01b0\u1edbng gi\u1edbi t\u00ednh.<\/p>\n

6. D\u00e0nh cho nhau kh\u00f4ng gian ri\u00eang<\/h2>\n

\"C\u00f3<\/p>\n

Nh\u1eefng c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c Mark ph\u1ecfng v\u1ea5n th\u01b0\u1eddng n\u00f3i kh\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c ph\u00e2n chia t\u00e0i kho\u1ea3n ng\u00e2n h\u00e0ng, b\u1ea1n b\u00e8, s\u1edf th\u00edch, k\u1ef3 ngh\u1ec9,… M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 kh\u00e1c c\u00f2n khuy\u00ean h\u1ea1n ch\u1ebf ng\u1ee7 chung ph\u00f2ng. B\u1edfi ch\u00fang ta c\u00e0ng y\u00eau, ch\u00fang ta c\u00e0ng c\u00f3 khuynh h\u01b0\u1edbng \u0111i\u1ec1u khi\u1ec3n cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng theo \u00fd m\u00ecnh. N\u1ebfu kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 cho \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng m\u1ed9t kho\u1ea3ng tr\u1eddi ri\u00eang c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft, cu\u1ed9c t\u00ecnh s\u1ebd m\u1ea5t \u0111i s\u1ef1 t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng.[Li\u1ec7u c\u00f3 ph\u1ea3i nh\u1eafn tin c\u00e0ng nhi\u1ec1u th\u00ec m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u00e0ng b\u1ec1n v\u1eefng hay kh\u00f4ng?]<\/p>\n

7. Kh\u00e9o l\u00e9o trong c\u00e1c cu\u1ed9c c\u00e3i v\u00e3<\/h2>\n

\"C\u00f3<\/p>\n

Khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta n\u00f3i \u0111\u1ebfn vi\u1ec7c “giao ti\u1ebfp gi\u1ecfi<\/em>“, \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y \u0111\u1ed3ng ngh\u0129a ch\u00fang ta ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ed1i m\u1eb7t v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng bu\u1ed5i tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n. D\u01b0\u1edbi \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t v\u00e0i g\u1ee3i \u00fd gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau c\u00f3 c\u00e1ch h\u00e0nh x\u1eed kh\u00e9o l\u00e9o trong l\u00fac c\u00e3i v\u00e3:<\/p>\n

8. H\u00e3y chia s\u1ebb m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9, nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng chuy\u1ec7n kh\u00f4ng vui<\/h2>\n

\"C\u00f3<\/p>\n

N\u1ebfu c\u00f3 vi\u1ec7c g\u00ec khi\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y kh\u00f3 ch\u1ecbu, h\u00e3y s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng chia s\u1ebb v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau\/ch\u1ed3ng c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. C\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 khi\u1ebfn n\u1eeda kia c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y \u0111au l\u00f2ng, nh\u01b0ng s\u1ebd gi\u00fap c\u1ea3 hai x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 g\u1ea7n g\u0169i, m\u1eadt thi\u1ebft h\u01a1n. H\u1ecdc c\u00e1ch ph\u00e2n bi\u1ec7t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c khi n\u00e0o ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau gi\u1ea5u b\u1ea1n m\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng g\u00ec, v\u00ec b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ed1i m\u1eb7t c\u00f9ng nhau \u0111\u1ec3 t\u00ecm ra ng\u1ecdn ng\u00e0nh g\u1ed1c r\u1ec5. Tuy nhi\u00ean, ch\u1ec9 x\u1ea3y ra khi m\u1ed9t b\u00ean ngh\u0129 m\u1ecdi vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0 b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng m\u00e0 th\u00f4i, trong khi b\u00ean c\u00f2n l\u1ea1i ngh\u0129 \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 c\u1ea3 m\u1ed9t v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1.<\/p>\n

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9. H\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u gi\u1ea3n \u0111\u01a1n<\/h2>\n

\"C\u00f3<\/p>\n

\u0110\u1eebng qu\u00ean \u0111i nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u nh\u1ecf nh\u1eb7t trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng. Kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c qu\u00ean. H\u00e3y n\u00f3i “anh y\u00eau em<\/em>” hay “em y\u00eau anh<\/em>” n\u1eafm tay, gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 nhau nh\u1eefng vi\u1ec7c v\u1eb7t v\u00e3nh xung quanh trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng. Th\u1eadt qu\u00e1 \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n ph\u1ea3i kh\u00f4ng?<\/p>\n

Nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y c\u00f2n tr\u1edf n\u00ean quan tr\u1ecdng h\u01a1n khi c\u1ea3 hai c\u00f3 con. H\u00e0ng tr\u0103m ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u ngh\u0129 v\u00e0 n\u00f3i c\u00f9ng c\u00e2u: h\u00e3y \u01b0u ti\u00ean cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n<\/strong>. H\u1ea7u h\u1ebft nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi tham gia ph\u1ecfng v\u1ea5n cho bi\u1ebft: c\u00e1c c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i n\u00ean th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean h\u1eb9n h\u00f2<\/strong> \u1edf c\u00e1c h\u00e0ng qu\u00e1n, c\u00f9ng nhau l\u1eadp k\u1ebf ho\u1ea1ch ngh\u1ec9 d\u01b0\u1ee1ng, th\u01b0 gi\u00e3n v\u00e0o cu\u1ed1i tu\u1ea7n v\u00e0 c\u00f3 kho\u1ea3ng th\u1eddi gian d\u00e0nh cho nhau.[L\u00e0m th\u1ebf n\u00e0o \u0111\u1ec3 c\u1ea3i thi\u1ec7n c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 ch\u1ec9 trong v\u00f2ng 60 gi\u00e2y?]<\/p>\n

10. H\u1ecdc c\u00e1ch tha th\u1ee9<\/h2>\n

\"C\u00f3<\/p>\n

Khi hai t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c nhau s\u1ed1ng c\u00f9ng nhau, ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn s\u1ebd x\u1ea3y ra xung \u0111\u1ed9t. \u0110\u1eebng qu\u00ean l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng n\u00ean c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng thay \u0111\u1ed5i n\u1eeda kia c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. H\u00e3y gi\u1eef l\u1ea5y s\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t v\u00e0 h\u1ecdc c\u00e1ch y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 tha th\u1ee9. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi l\u00fd t\u01b0\u1edfng kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ho\u00e0n h\u1ea3o tuy\u1ec7t \u0111\u1ed1i, m\u00e0 l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m khi\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n vui v\u1ebb \u0111i\u1ec1u ch\u1ec9nh c\u00f9ng nhau.<\/p>\n

11. V\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 “y\u00eau” \u0111\u01b0\u01a1ng<\/h2>\n

\"C\u00f3<\/p>\n

T\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c nh\u01b0 l\u00e0 “b\u00e0i ph\u00e1t bi\u1ec3u c\u1ee7a t\u1ed5ng th\u1ed1ng<\/em>” v\u1eady \u0111\u00f3. N\u1ebfu m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 gi\u1eefa c\u1ea3 hai t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p th\u00ec chuy\u1ec7n ch\u0103n g\u1ed1i c\u0169ng \u00eam xu\u00f4i: c\u1ea3 hai s\u1ebd t\u1ef1 nguy\u1ec7n v\u00e0 c\u00f9ng th\u01b0\u1edfng th\u1ee9c v\u1ecb ng\u1ecdt c\u1ee7a t\u00ecnh y\u00eau. Nhi\u1ec1u b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ecdc \u0111ang y\u00eau c\u00f3 chia s\u1ebb r\u1eb1ng t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 b\u1ed5 tr\u1ee3 cho m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a c\u1ea3 hai, m\u00e0 c\u00f2n gi\u00fap c\u1ea3 hai c\u00f3 th\u00eam s\u1ee9c s\u1ed1ng m\u1edbi.<\/p>\n

12. C\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i c\u00f3 l\u00fd khi \u0111\u1eb7t ra nh\u1eefng nguy\u00ean t\u1eafc trong t\u00ecnh y\u00eau<\/h2>\n

\"C\u00f3<\/p>\n

M\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1i nh\u00ecn ho\u00e0n h\u1ea3o v\u1ec1 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p: \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng s\u1ebd c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng nhi\u1ec7m v\u1ee5 ri\u00eang m\u00e0 h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n v\u00e0 c\u00e2n b\u1eb1ng th\u1eddi gian khi \u1edf c\u00f9ng nhau v\u00e0 khi \u1edf m\u1ed9t m\u00ecnh. Tr\u00ean th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf, \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t. B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 s\u1ebd c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y nh\u01b0 \u0111ang n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n v\u1edbi b\u1ee9c t\u01b0\u1eddng v\u1eady. \u0110\u00e2y ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 l\u00fd do kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ai ho\u00e0n h\u1ea3o c\u1ea3, c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i ph\u00e2n chia tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m cho nhau. H\u00e3y t\u00ecm ra s\u1edf tr\u01b0\u1eddng v\u00e0 s\u1edf \u0111o\u1ea3ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n, r\u1ed3i t\u1eeb \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0a ra nh\u1eefng th\u1ecfa thu\u1eadn h\u1ee3p l\u00fd.<\/p>\n

13. H\u1ecdc c\u00e1ch “l\u01b0\u1edbt s\u00f3ng<\/em>“<\/h2>\n

\"C\u00f3<\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/div>\n

C\u00f3 m\u1ed9t c\u00f4 y t\u00e1 t\u1eebng chia s\u1ebb v\u1edbi Mark c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t \u00f4ng l\u00e3o 80 tu\u1ed5i. \u00d4ng c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 l\u00e2u d\u00e0i v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef \u0111\u1ed9c th\u00e2n. Nguy\u00ean v\u0103n nh\u01b0 sau:<\/p>\n

\n

“Relationships are like waves: all ups and downs, and never a quiet moment. It’s important to understand these waves only rarely have anything to do with the quality of the relationship. People lose jobs, family members die, couples move house, change careers, earn and lose lots of money. None of these waves are forever, and, in the end, you’ll always stay together<\/em>.”<\/p>\n

T\u1ea1m d\u1ecbch:<\/p>\n

“M\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u0169ng gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng con s\u00f3ng: l\u00fac l\u00ean, l\u00fac xu\u1ed1ng v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t gi\u00e2y ph\u00fat n\u00e0o b\u00ecnh y\u00ean c\u1ea3. \u0110i\u1ec1u quan tr\u1ecdng l\u00e0 ph\u1ea3i hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng con s\u00f3ng c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb c\u1ee7a m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7. Con ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta s\u1ebd c\u00f3 l\u00fac m\u1ea5t vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m, ch\u1ee9ng ki\u1ebfn s\u1ef1 ra \u0111i c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00e2n, chuy\u1ec3n ch\u1ed7 \u1edf, thay \u0111\u1ed5i c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c, ki\u1ebfm ho\u1eb7c m\u1ea5t r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u ti\u1ec1n. Nh\u1eefng c\u01a1n s\u00f3ng n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 m\u00e3i m\u00e3i, r\u1ed3i cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng, c\u1ea3 hai s\u1ebd lu\u00f4n \u1edf c\u00f9ng nhau<\/em>.”<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

L\u1eddi b\u1ea1t cu\u1ed1i s\u00e1ch c\u1ee7a Mark v\u00e0 b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ecdc Margo:<\/strong><\/p>\n

\n

“You can work through anything as long as you’re not destroying each other. Never shame or mock each other or that which makes your partner happy. Write down why you fell in love, and read it every year on your anniversary (or more often). Write love letters to each other.<\/em><\/p>\n

When you have kids, there’s this frenzy when they become the only reason for life. Never forget the love that gave them birth. It’ll teach your children love. Your spouse is always your number one. You’ll each grow, so be the one to encourage this growth. Don’t depend on the other to maintain the relationship.<\/em><\/p>\n

Love your partner the way they are, even when you’re upset. Trust each other. Give each other the benefit of the doubt. Be honest. Take pride in each other. Be open to change, and accept the new. Print this out, and read it every day.”<\/em><\/p>\n

T\u1ea1m d\u1ecbch:<\/p>\n

“B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m m\u1ecdi vi\u1ec7c mi\u1ec5n l\u00e0 \u0111\u1eebng h\u1ee7y ho\u1ea1i n\u1eeda kia. \u0110\u1eebng bao gi\u1edd l\u00e0m x\u1ea5u h\u1ed5 hay ch\u1ebf nh\u1ea1o l\u1eabn nhau \u0111\u1ec3 khi\u1ebfn n\u1eeda kia vui. H\u00e3y vi\u1ebft ra nh\u1eefng l\u00fd do v\u00ec sao b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i l\u00f2ng n\u1eeda kia v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ecdc l\u1ea1i n\u00f3 v\u00e0o m\u1ed7i l\u1ea7n k\u1ec9 ni\u1ec7m (ho\u1eb7c th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean \u0111\u1ecdc ch\u00fang). Vi\u1ebft nh\u1eefng b\u1ee9c th\u01b0 t\u00ecnh cho nhau. <\/em><\/p>\n

Khi \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 con, s\u1ebd th\u1eadt ‘\u0111i\u00ean \u0111\u1ea7u’ khi ch\u00fang tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh l\u00fd do duy nh\u1ea5t b\u1ea1n mu\u1ed1n s\u1ed1ng. V\u00ec th\u1ebf \u0111\u1eebng bao gi\u1edd qu\u00ean t\u00ecnh y\u00eau \u0111\u00e3 mang \u0111\u1ebfn cho b\u1ea1n nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ee9a con. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y s\u1ebd gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n d\u1ea1y con tr\u1ebb c\u00e1ch th\u01b0\u01a1ng y\u00eau. B\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi lu\u00f4n l\u00e0 s\u1ed1 m\u1ed9t. C\u1ea3 hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ebd d\u1ea7n tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh, v\u00ec th\u1ebf h\u00e3y l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u1ed5 v\u0169 s\u1ef1 tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh n\u00e0y. \u0110\u1eebng ph\u1ee5 thu\u1ed9c qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u v\u00e0o ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c \u0111\u1ec3 duy tr\u00ec m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7. <\/em><\/p>\n

H\u00e3y y\u00eau khi h\u1ecd l\u00e0 ch\u00ednh h\u1ecd, th\u1eadm ch\u00ed c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng l\u00fac b\u1ea1n bu\u1ed3n \u0111au. Tin t\u01b0\u1edfng l\u1eabn nhau. H\u00e3y trao cho nhau nh\u1eefng l\u1ee3i \u00edch c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 nghi ng\u1edd. Th\u00e0nh th\u1eadt. H\u00e3nh di\u1ec7n v\u1ec1 nhau. M\u1edf r\u1ed9ng l\u00f2ng \u0111\u1ec3 thay \u0111\u1ed5i v\u00e0 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u1edbi. In \u0111o\u1ea1n n\u00e0y ra v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ecdc n\u00f3 m\u1ed7i ng\u00e0y.”<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

\u00a0<\/p>\n

Ch\u00fac c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n vui v\u1ebb!<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Mark Manson, m\u1ed9t blogger – nh\u00e0 v\u0103n n\u1ed5i ti\u1ebfng, \u0111\u00e3 ti\u1ebfn h\u00e0nh th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n m\u1ed9t th\u1eed nghi\u1ec7m v\u1ec1 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 b\u1ec1n v\u1eefng trong t\u00ecnh y\u00eau v\u00f4 c\u00f9ng th\u00fa v\u1ecb. Mark Manson y\u00eau c\u1ea7u 1.500 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111ang y\u00eau chia s\u1ebb b\u00ed m\u1eadt v\u1ec1 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 b\u1ec1n v\u1eefng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. K\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 thu \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u00e0m anh c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y ng\u1ea1c nhi\u00ean. D\u1ef1a tr\u00ean k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u c\u1ee7a Mark, trang Bright Side \u0111\u00e3 r\u00fat ra 13 nguy\u00ean t\u1eafc quan tr\u1ecdng \u0111\u1ec3 t\u1ea1o n\u00ean m\u1ed9t t\u00ecnh y\u00eau b\u1ec1n v\u1eefng, d\u00e0i l\u00e2u<\/strong>. M\u1eddi c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n c\u00f9ng tham kh\u1ea3o!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[452],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/39741"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=39741"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/39741\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=39741"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=39741"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=39741"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}