{"id":39825,"date":"2023-12-10T01:43:50","date_gmt":"2023-12-10T01:43:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/ly-do-nen-loai-bo-ngay-hai-tu-nhung-va-toi-phai-ra-khoi-cuoc-song-cua-ban.html"},"modified":"2023-12-13T08:56:17","modified_gmt":"2023-12-13T08:56:17","slug":"ly-do-nen-loai-bo-ngay-hai-tu-nhung-va-toi-phai-ra-khoi-cuoc-song-cua-ban","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/ly-do-nen-loai-bo-ngay-hai-tu-nhung-va-toi-phai-ra-khoi-cuoc-song-cua-ban.html","title":{"rendered":"L\u00fd do n\u00ean lo\u1ea1i b\u1ecf ngay hai t\u1eeb “Nh\u01b0ng” v\u00e0 “T\u00f4i ph\u1ea3i” ra kh\u1ecfi cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n"},"content":{"rendered":"
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“Ng\u1eebng m\u01a1 m\u1ed9ng, h\u00e3y h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng. Ph\u1ea3i c\u00f3 tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m v\u1edbi cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh!<\/em><\/strong>“. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ch\u00e2m c\u01a1 b\u1ea3n c\u1ee7a cu\u1ed1n s\u00e1ch “Th\u00f3i quen th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng – The Achievement Habit<\/em>” c\u1ee7a Gi\u00e1o s\u01b0 tr\u01b0\u1eddng \u0110\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc Stanford \u2013 Bernard Roth. Theo quan \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u1ee7a gi\u00e1o s\u01b0 Bernard Roth, m\u1ed7i ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1ec1 khi lo\u1ea1i b\u1ecf \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c hai t\u1eeb \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n nh\u01b0 “Nh\u01b0ng<\/em>” v\u00e0 “T\u00f4i ph\u1ea3i”<\/em> ra kh\u1ecfi cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng.<\/p>\n

Tr\u00ean trang Bright Side mu\u1ed1n chia s\u1ebb chi\u1ebfn l\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u1ea3i thi\u1ec7n cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng v\u1edbi m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi. D\u01b0\u1edbi \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 l\u1eddi khuy\u00ean c\u1ee7a gi\u00e1o s\u01b0 Bernard Roth v\u1ec1 c\u00e1ch s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng t\u1eeb ng\u1eef trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng h\u1eb1ng ng\u00e0y, b\u00ean c\u1ea1nh \u0111\u00f3 \u00f4ng c\u0169ng \u0111\u01b0a ra t\u1eeb ng\u1eef n\u00ean thay th\u1ebf cho hai t\u1eeb \u0111\u00f3. H\u00e3y th\u1eed, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd th\u1ea5y s\u1ef1 thay \u0111\u1ed5i c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n v\u01b0\u1ee3t xa nh\u1eefng g\u00ec t\u01b0\u1edfng t\u01b0\u1ee3ng.<\/p>\n

\"C\u1ea7n<\/p>\n

1. Thay th\u1ebf t\u1eeb “nh\u01b0ng” b\u1eb1ng t\u1eeb “v\u00e0”<\/h2>\n

H\u00e3y xem th\u1eed s\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t khi n\u00f3i: “M\u00ecnh mu\u1ed1n \u0111i xem phim v\u00e0 m\u00ecnh c\u00f3 qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u vi\u1ec7c ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m” <\/em>v\u1edbi khi n\u00f3i “M\u00ecnh mu\u1ed1n \u0111i xem phim nh\u01b0ng m\u00ecnh c\u00f3 qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u vi\u1ec7c ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m<\/em>” l\u00e0 g\u00ec nh\u00e9.<\/p>\n

Gi\u00e1o s\u01b0 Roth cho bi\u1ebft, khi d\u00f9ng t\u1eeb “nh\u01b0ng<\/em>” b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 t\u1ea1o ra s\u1ef1 m\u00e2u thu\u1eabn, xung \u0111\u1ed9t gi\u1eefa c\u00e1c h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng m\u00e0 tr\u00ean th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf ch\u00fang kh\u00f4ng h\u1ec1 m\u00e2u thu\u1eabn g\u00ec c\u1ea3. Tuy nhi\u00ean, khi d\u00f9ng t\u1eeb “v\u00e0<\/em>” th\u00ec ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i, n\u00f3 l\u00e0m cho n\u00e3o b\u1ea1n \u00fd th\u1ee9c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00e1c h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng \u0111\u1ec1u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u01b0u ti\u00ean nh\u01b0 nhau.<\/p>\n

V\u1ec1 m\u1eb7t ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef h\u1ecdc, nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c g\u1ecdi l\u00e0 c\u00e2u gh\u00e9p c\u00f3 quan h\u1ec7 \u0111\u1ed1i l\u1eadp v\u00e0 \u0111\u1eb3ng l\u1eadp gi\u1eefa c\u00e1c m\u1ec7nh \u0111\u1ec1 ngang h\u00e0ng v\u1edbi nhau. Trong tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean, li\u00ean t\u1eeb “nh\u01b0ng<\/em>“, “m\u1eb7c d\u00f9<\/em>“, “tuy nhi\u00ean<\/em>” \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng \u0111\u1ec3 di\u1ec5n t\u1ea3 s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ed1i l\u1eadp, l\u00e0m cho hai v\u1ebf c\u1ee7a c\u00e2u m\u00e2u thu\u1eabn v\u1edbi nhau. C\u00f2n li\u00ean t\u1eeb “v\u00e0<\/em>” l\u1ea1i c\u00f3 vai tr\u00f2 t\u00edch c\u1ef1c h\u01a1n, n\u00f3 l\u00e0m cho hai v\u1ebf c\u00e2u b\u00ecnh \u0111\u1eb3ng v\u1edbi nhau.<\/p>\n

B\u00e2y gi\u1edd nhi\u1ec7m v\u1ee5 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n l\u00e0 h\u00e3y thay \u0111\u1ed5i th\u00f3i quen s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng t\u1eeb ng\u1eef h\u00e0ng ng\u00e0y. S\u1ebd t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n nhi\u1ec1u n\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n r\u00e8n luy\u1ec7n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u00f3i quen n\u00f3i “M\u00ecnh mu\u1ed1n mua m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 \u0111\u1ed3 d\u00f9ng m\u1edbi v\u00e0 m\u00ecnh c\u1ea7n s\u1eeda ch\u1eefa m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 th\u1ee9 tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00e3<\/em>” thay v\u00ec n\u00f3i “M\u00ecnh mu\u1ed1n mua m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 \u0111\u1ed3 d\u00f9ng m\u1edbi nh\u01b0ng m\u00ecnh ph\u1ea3i s\u1eeda ch\u1eefa m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 th\u1ee9 tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00e3<\/em>“.<\/p>\n

\"C\u1ea7n<\/p>\n

2. Thay th\u1ebf c\u1ee5m t\u1eeb “T\u00f4i ph\u1ea3i” th\u00e0nh “T\u00f4i mu\u1ed1n”<\/h2>\n

Gi\u00e1o s\u01b0 Roth nh\u1ea5n m\u1ea1nh t\u1ea7m quan tr\u1ecdng b\u00e0i t\u1eadp n\u00e0y trong quy\u1ec3n s\u00e1ch c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. \u00d4ng cho r\u1eb1ng: “B\u00e0i t\u1eadp n\u00e0y r\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3, gi\u00fap cho m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u1eadn ra b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n h\u1ecd n\u00ean l\u00e0m g\u00ec v\u1edbi cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh \u2013 th\u1eadm ch\u00ed l\u00e0m nh\u1eefng vi\u1ec7c m\u00e0 h\u1ecd c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y kh\u00f4ng tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i – th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec m\u00e0 h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 ch\u1ecdn<\/em>“.<\/p>\n

Ch\u1ec9 m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 thay \u0111\u1ed5i nh\u1ecf c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m thay \u0111\u1ed5i c\u1ea3 cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. N\u1ebfu m\u1ed7i s\u00e1ng th\u1ee9c d\u1eady b\u1ea1n ngh\u0129 \u0111\u1ebfn vi\u1ec7c \u0111i l\u00e0m th\u1eadt bu\u1ed3n t\u1ebb v\u00e0 ch\u00e1n ng\u1eaft th\u00ec cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t m\u1edb h\u1ed7n \u0111\u1ed9n. Tuy nhi\u00ean th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf, vi\u1ec7c thay \u0111\u1ed5i \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y l\u1ea1i d\u1ec5 h\u01a1n nh\u1eefng g\u00ec b\u1ea1n ngh\u0129. V\u00ec v\u1eady, m\u1ed7i bu\u1ed5i s\u00e1ng h\u00e3y t\u1eadp trung v\u00e0o \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 h\u1ee9ng th\u00fa trong c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c.<\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/div>\n

V\u00ed d\u1ee5, b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ngh\u0129 \u0111\u1ebfn c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c nh\u1eb9 nh\u00f5m khi ho\u00e0n th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t d\u1ef1 \u00e1n kh\u00f3 ho\u1eb7c ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 kho\u1ea3nh kh\u1eafc ng\u1ed3i u\u1ed1ng tr\u00e0 v\u00e0 tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n c\u00f9ng v\u1edbi \u0111\u1ed3ng nghi\u1ec7p; hay c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u01b0\u1edfng t\u01b0\u1ee3ng ni\u1ec1m h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac khi k\u1ebft th\u00fac m\u1ed9t ng\u00e0y l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c m\u1ec7t m\u1ecfi v\u1ec1 b\u00ean gia \u0111\u00ecnh. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u01a1i kh\u00f3 tin nh\u01b0ng v\u1edbi chi\u1ebfn thu\u1eadt \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n n\u00e0y s\u1ebd l\u00e0m b\u1ea1n tr\u00e0n \u0111\u1ea7y n\u0103ng l\u01b0\u1ee3ng ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng cho c\u1ea3 ng\u00e0y.<\/p>\n

Thay v\u00ec ng\u1ed3i m\u1ed9t ch\u1ed7 \u0111\u1ee3i ng\u00e0y d\u00e0i k\u1ebft th\u00fac, h\u00e3y ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng vi\u1ec7c b\u1ea1n mu\u1ed1n \u0111\u00f3ng g\u00f3p cho c\u00f4ng ty, ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c th\u0103ng ti\u1ebfn trong s\u1ef1 nghi\u1ec7p, c\u00e1ch th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o \u0111\u1ec3 g\u00e2y \u1ea5n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng. N\u1ebfu kh\u00f4ng h\u00e0i l\u00f2ng v\u1edbi c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c, c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng hi\u1ec7n t\u1ea1i c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n nh\u01b0ng l\u1ea1i kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n thay \u0111\u1ed5i n\u00f3 th\u00ec khi \u1ea5y b\u1ea1n ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ed5 l\u1ed7i cho ch\u00ednh b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh m\u00e0 th\u00f4i.<\/p>\n

B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u1ea5y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng gi\u1eefa c\u00e2u “M\u00ecnh ph\u1ea3i v\u1ec1 th\u0103m b\u1ed1 m\u1eb9”<\/em> v\u1edbi “M\u00ecnh mu\u1ed1n v\u1ec1 th\u0103m b\u1ed1 m\u1eb9<\/em>” \u0111\u00fang kh\u00f4ng? S\u1ebd t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n khi b\u1ea1n n\u00f3i “T\u00f4i mu\u1ed1n” d\u00f9 \u0111ang n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec.<\/p>\n

\u0110\u1ec3 th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n chi\u1ebfn l\u01b0\u1ee3c n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng h\u1ec1 d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng NH\u01afNG<\/strong> n\u00f3 c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft n\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n PH\u1ea2I<\/strong> th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng. Tuy nhi\u00ean, n\u00f3 s\u1ebd d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng V\u00c0<\/strong> c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft n\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 MU\u1ed0N<\/strong> th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng. Gi\u1edd b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 th\u1ea5y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t khi thay \u0111\u1ed5i c\u00e1ch d\u00f9ng t\u1eeb ng\u1eef h\u00e0ng ng\u00e0y r\u1ed3i ch\u1ee9?<\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/p>\n

Ch\u00fac c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n vui v\u1ebb!<\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

“Ng\u1eebng m\u01a1 m\u1ed9ng, h\u00e3y h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng. Ph\u1ea3i c\u00f3 tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m v\u1edbi cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh!<\/em><\/strong>“. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ch\u00e2m c\u01a1 b\u1ea3n c\u1ee7a cu\u1ed1n s\u00e1ch “Th\u00f3i quen th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng – The Achievement Habit<\/em>” c\u1ee7a Gi\u00e1o s\u01b0 tr\u01b0\u1eddng \u0110\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc Stanford \u2013 Bernard Roth. Theo quan \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u1ee7a gi\u00e1o s\u01b0 Bernard Roth, m\u1ed7i ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1ec1 khi lo\u1ea1i b\u1ecf \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c hai t\u1eeb \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n nh\u01b0 “Nh\u01b0ng<\/em>” v\u00e0 “T\u00f4i ph\u1ea3i”<\/em> ra kh\u1ecfi cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[452],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/39825"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=39825"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/39825\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=39825"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=39825"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=39825"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}