{"id":39977,"date":"2023-12-10T01:48:34","date_gmt":"2023-12-10T01:48:34","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/quy-tac-perma-va-bi-quyet-de-co-mot-cuoc-song-vien-man.html"},"modified":"2023-12-13T08:21:46","modified_gmt":"2023-12-13T08:21:46","slug":"quy-tac-perma-va-bi-quyet-de-co-mot-cuoc-song-vien-man","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/quy-tac-perma-va-bi-quyet-de-co-mot-cuoc-song-vien-man.html","title":{"rendered":"Quy t\u1eafc PERMA v\u00e0 b\u00ed quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng vi\u00ean m\u00e3n"},"content":{"rendered":"
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T\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ec1u mu\u1ed1n h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac. Khi h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac, ch\u00fang ta l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c n\u0103ng su\u1ea5t h\u01a1n, c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p h\u01a1n v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi xung quanh m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 ai c\u0169ng c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y r\u1ea5t tuy\u1ec7t v\u1eddi.<\/p>\n

Tuy nhi\u00ean, h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 th\u1ee9 mu\u1ed1n l\u00e0 c\u00f3, c\u1ea7n l\u00e0 xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n v\u00e0 d\u00f9 \u0111\u00e1nh m\u1ea5t c\u0169ng d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng l\u1ea5y l\u1ea1i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. N\u1ebfu qu\u00e1 ch\u00fa t\u00e2m v\u00e0o h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd th\u1ea5y v\u00f4 c\u00f9ng kh\u00f3 \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c n\u00f3 v\u00e0 th\u1eadm ch\u00ed l\u00e0 ph\u1ea3i s\u1ed1ng c\u1ea3 \u0111\u1eddi trong c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n.<\/p>\n

Martin Seligman<\/strong> – m\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3 n\u1ed5i ti\u1ebfng nh\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc hi\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ea1i v\u00e0 nh\u00e0 s\u00e1ng l\u1eadp c\u1ee7a ng\u00e0nh t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc t\u00edch c\u1ef1c (Positive psychology) \u0111\u00e3 ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n m\u1ed9t quy t\u1eafc c\u00f3 t\u00ean g\u1ecdi PERMA<\/strong> v\u00e0 quy t\u1eafc n\u00e0y \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00f4ng b\u1ed1 trong cu\u1ed1n s\u00e1ch Flourish xu\u1ea5t b\u1ea3n v\u00e0o n\u0103m 2011. Theo \u0111\u00f3, PERMA \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1eadp \u0111\u1ebfn 5 y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac v\u00e0 vi\u00ean m\u00e3n nh\u01b0 mong mu\u1ed1n.<\/p>\n

1. C\u1ea3m x\u00fac t\u00edch c\u1ef1c (Positive Emotion \u2013 P)<\/h2>\n

\u0110\u1ec3 c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac, ch\u00fang ta c\u1ea7n nu\u00f4i d\u01b0\u1ee1ng nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac t\u00edch c\u1ef1c m\u1ed7i ng\u00e0y.<\/p>\n

\"S\u1ed1ng<\/p>\n

B\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 m\u1ed9t c\u1ea3m x\u00fac t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p n\u00e0o, ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ea1n nh\u01b0 y\u00ean b\u00ecnh, bi\u1ebft \u01a1n, h\u00e0i l\u00f2ng, th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n, \u0111\u1ea7y c\u1ea3m h\u1ee9ng, hy v\u1ecdng, t\u00f2 m\u00f2 hay t\u00ecnh y\u00eau \u0111\u1ec1u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c x\u1ebfp v\u00e0o “th\u01b0 m\u1ee5c” t\u00edch c\u1ef1c n\u00e0y v\u00e0 th\u00f4ng \u0111i\u1ec7p \u0111\u00f3 ch\u00ednh l\u00e0: “Enjoy yourself”.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Trong \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n, c\u00e1c y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 “E”, “R”, “M” v\u00e0 “A” c\u1ee7a quy t\u1eafc PERMA l\u00e0 l\u00fd t\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00ec “enjoy yourself” ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c tr\u00e2n tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 th\u01b0\u1edfng th\u1ee9c cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng hi\u1ec7n t\u1ea1i. H\u00e3y s\u1ed1ng h\u1ebft m\u00ecnh, y\u00eau b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n, vui v\u1ebb, c\u01b0\u1eddi n\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n th\u00edch, kh\u00f3c n\u1ebfu c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y bu\u1ed3n v\u00e0 l\u00e0m b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec mi\u1ec5n l\u00e0 ch\u00fang gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c n\u1ee5 c\u01b0\u1eddi r\u1ea1ng ng\u1eddi nh\u1ea5t.<\/p>\n

2. S\u1ef1 g\u1eafn k\u1ebft (Engagement \u2013 E)<\/h2>\n

Khi th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 g\u1eafn k\u1ebft v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c, d\u1ef1 \u00e1n, ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng, s\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n ho\u1eb7c m\u1ed9t t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 th\u00ec ch\u00fang ta m\u1edbi th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c “s\u1ed1ng” trong kho\u1ea3nh kh\u1eafc \u0111\u00f3: th\u1eddi gian d\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0 d\u1eebng l\u1ea1i, kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n c\u1ea3m nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c con ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1eadt l\u00fd c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 t\u1eadp trung cao \u0111\u1ed9 v\u00e0o hi\u1ec7n t\u1ea1i.<\/p>\n

\u0110\u00e2y th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec1u v\u00f4 c\u00f9ng tuy\u1ec7t v\u1eddi! B\u1edfi l\u1ebd, c\u00e0ng g\u1eafn k\u1ebft s\u00e2u v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng g\u00ec b\u1ea1n \u0111ang l\u00e0m hay th\u1ee9 khi\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n vui v\u1ebb th\u00ec b\u1ea1n c\u00e0ng c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y y\u00eau m\u1ebfn, mu\u1ed1n c\u1ed1ng hi\u1ebfn v\u00e0 n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c cho n\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n. Hi\u1ec3n nhi\u00ean, nh\u1eefng suy ngh\u0129 ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c nh\u01b0 c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng, lo \u00e2u, phi\u1ec1n n\u00e3o… c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n ch\u1ed7 \u0111\u1ec3 xen ngang d\u00f2ng suy ngh\u0129 t\u00edch c\u1ef1c c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n n\u1eefa.<\/p>\n

V\u00ec v\u1eady, t\u1eeb b\u00e2y gi\u1edd, m\u1ed7i khi \u0111i ra ngo\u00e0i c\u00f9ng b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 u\u1ed1ng caf\u00e9, d\u1ea1o ph\u1ed1, \u0111\u1ecdc s\u00e1ch, xem phim hay nh\u1eefng l\u00fac ph\u1ea3i ho\u00e0n th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t d\u1ef1 \u00e1n n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 th\u00ec h\u00e3y t\u1eadp trung ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n v\u00e0o \u0111i\u1ec1u b\u1ea1n \u0111ang l\u00e0m. \u0110\u1eebng \u0111\u1ec3 b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 th\u1ee9 g\u00ec xen ngang v\u00e0 b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd th\u1ea5y s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 g\u1eafn k\u1ebft s\u1ebd v\u00f4 c\u00f9ng l\u1edbn \u0111\u1ea5y.<\/p>\n

3. C\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 t\u00edch c\u1ef1c (Positive Relationships \u2013 P)<\/h2>\n

L\u00e0 con ng\u01b0\u1eddi, ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ec1u th\u00edch \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ed1ng trong c\u00e1c c\u1ed9ng \u0111\u1ed3ng, \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c giao ti\u1ebfp, k\u1ebft b\u1ea1n v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 g\u00ec ng\u1ea1c nhi\u00ean khi nh\u1eefng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 c\u1ed1t l\u00f5i cho m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng vi\u00ean m\u00e3n.<\/p>\n

\"S\u1ed1ng<\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/div>\n

M\u1ed9t l\u1ea7n n\u1eefa, ch\u00fang ta l\u1ea1i th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 t\u00edch c\u1ef1c, \u00fd ngh\u0129a v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c \u0111\u1ec1u s\u1ed1ng h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac h\u01a1n so v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3.<\/p>\n

4. \u00dd ngh\u0129a (Meaning \u2013 M)<\/h2>\n

\u00dd ngh\u0129a cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng s\u1ebd \u0111\u1ebfn t\u1eeb vi\u1ec7c ph\u1ee5c v\u1ee5 nh\u1eefng m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch l\u1edbn lao h\u01a1n ch\u00ednh b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh. Cho d\u00f9 \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m nh\u1ecf hay nh\u1eefng h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng mang t\u00ednh t\u1ed5 ch\u1ee9c, ch\u1ec9 c\u1ea7n ch\u00fang mang \u0111\u1ebfn cho b\u1ea1n nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m nh\u1eadn t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p v\u1ec1 cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng th\u00ec m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 \u00fd ngh\u0129a.<\/p>\n

T\u1eeb h\u00f4m nay, h\u00e3y t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch s\u1ed1ng cho m\u00ecnh b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, cho \u0111i nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n b\u1eb1ng m\u1ed9t tr\u00e1i tim ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh, ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn, cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u \u00fd ngh\u0129a.<\/p>\n

5. Th\u00e0nh t\u00edch (Accomplishment\/Achievement \u2013 A)<\/h2>\n

\u0110a ph\u1ea7n, ai c\u0169ng mu\u1ed1n m\u00ecnh tr\u1edf n\u00ean t\u1ed1t l\u00ean theo nhi\u1ec1u c\u00e1ch, cho d\u00f9 \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 h\u1ecdc th\u00eam m\u1ed9t k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng m\u1edbi, \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ed9t m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau c\u00f3 gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb hay gi\u00e0nh chi\u1ebfn th\u1eafng trong m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c thi n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3. Ch\u00ednh v\u00ec \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y m\u00e0 th\u00e0nh t\u00edch c\u0169ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c xem l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 quan tr\u1ecdng c\u1ea5u th\u00e0nh n\u00ean cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng vi\u00ean m\u00e3n.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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