{"id":39990,"date":"2023-12-10T01:48:56","date_gmt":"2023-12-10T01:48:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/8-cach-de-thu-phuc-long-nguoi.html"},"modified":"2023-12-13T08:19:28","modified_gmt":"2023-12-13T08:19:28","slug":"8-cach-de-thu-phuc-long-nguoi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/8-cach-de-thu-phuc-long-nguoi.html","title":{"rendered":"8 c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ec3 thu ph\u1ee5c l\u00f2ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi"},"content":{"rendered":"
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T\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ec1u mu\u1ed1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c y\u00eau m\u1ebfn b\u1edfi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. Sau c\u00f9ng, tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi “ai c\u0169ng th\u00edch” s\u1ebd gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u00eam nhi\u1ec1u b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 h\u01a1n, \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng h\u01a1n b\u1edfi \u0111\u1ed3ng nghi\u1ec7p, kh\u00e1ch h\u00e0ng v\u00e0 c\u00f3 th\u00eam nhi\u1ec1u th\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u1ee5 th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng h\u01a1n n\u1eefa.<\/p>\n

Trong khi kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 n\u00e0o bu\u1ed9c ho\u1eb7c l\u1eeba ph\u1ec9nh m\u1ed9t ai \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u1ec3 khi\u1ebfn h\u1ecd th\u00edch m\u00ecnh th\u00ec b\u1ea1n ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ef1 l\u00e0m cho m\u00ecnh tr\u1edf n\u00ean h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn h\u01a1n v\u1ec1 m\u1eb7t c\u1ea3m x\u00fac \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi. Theo MichMasterskills Tillis Lederman \u2013 t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3 c\u1ee7a cu\u1ed1n “The 11 Laws of Likability and Nail the Interview”<\/em> (t\u1ea1m d\u1ecbch: 11 quy t\u1eafc \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1ea5y l\u00f2ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c v\u00e0 chi\u1ebfn th\u1eafng c\u00e1c cu\u1ed9c ph\u1ecfng v\u1ea5n) n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng: “B\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 n\u00e0o khi\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi xung quanh th\u00edch m\u00ecnh nh\u01b0ng b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 khi\u1ebfn h\u1ecd th\u1ea5y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec3m \u0111\u00e1ng y\u00eau c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. T\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 n\u00e0y, v\u1ec1 c\u01a1 b\u1ea3n, kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng c\u00e1c th\u1ee7 thu\u1eadt \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00f4i k\u00e9o v\u00e0 l\u1eeba g\u1ea1t, m\u00e0 \u0111\u00fang h\u01a1n ch\u00fang ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng c\u00e1ch k\u1ebft n\u1ed1i ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh v\u00e0 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y d\u1ec5 ch\u1ecbu”.<\/em><\/p>\n

Jack Schafer \u2013 chuy\u00ean gia ph\u00e2n t\u00edch h\u00e0nh vi, \u0111\u1ed3ng th\u1eddi c\u0169ng l\u00e0 c\u1ef1u \u0111\u1eb7c v\u1ee5 FBI v\u00e0 t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3 c\u1ee7a cu\u1ed1n “The Like Switch<\/em>” (t\u1ea1m d\u1ecbch: “C\u00f4ng t\u1eafc” \u0111\u1ec3 khi\u1ebfn ai c\u0169ng th\u00edch b\u1ea1n) chia s\u1ebb: “Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u00e1n h\u00e0ng gi\u1ecfi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u tr\u00ean nh\u01b0 th\u1ec3 ch\u00fang thu\u1ed9c v\u1ec1 b\u1ea3n n\u0103ng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd v\u00e0 ch\u00ednh kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng n\u00e0y \u0111\u00e3 gi\u00fap h\u1ecd \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng”.<\/em> C\u0169ng theo Schafer, “nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 nh\u1ecf nh\u1eb7t c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 khi\u1ebfn cho m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00edch b\u1ea1n. Do v\u1eady, b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u01a1 l\u00e0 ch\u00fang”.<\/em><\/p>\n

D\u01b0\u1edbi \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 8 k\u1ef9 thu\u1eadt \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c khoa h\u1ecdc ch\u1ee9ng minh t\u00ednh hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n nhanh ch\u00f3ng tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn n\u1ebfu ki\u00ean tr\u00ec \u00e1p d\u1ee5ng.<\/p>\n

1. N\u1ee5 c\u01b0\u1eddi<\/h2>\n

N\u1ee5 c\u01b0\u1eddi l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t k\u1ef9 thu\u1eadt r\u1ea5t \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n. N\u1ee5 c\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 k\u00edch th\u00edch n\u00e3o c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n ti\u1ebft ra ch\u1ea5t endorphin khi\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y vui v\u1ebb. H\u01a1n th\u1ebf n\u1eefa, khi b\u1ea1n n\u1edf n\u1ee5 c\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00ec ni\u1ec1m vui \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f2n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c lan truy\u1ec1n sang nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n

\"N\u1ee5<\/p>\n

Theo Lederman, m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u00fa \u00fd t\u1edbi ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef c\u01a1 th\u1ec3 v\u00e0 c\u00e1c bi\u1ec3u l\u1ed9 tr\u00ean khu\u00f4n m\u1eb7t c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n so v\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c l\u1eafng nghe nh\u1eefng g\u00ec b\u1ea1n n\u00f3i. Th\u1ebf n\u00ean, khi \u0111\u00e3 nho\u1ebbn mi\u1ec7ng c\u01b0\u1eddi, b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m cho h\u1ecd c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i, c\u1edfi m\u1edf v\u00e0 mu\u1ed1n ti\u1ebfp c\u1eadn b\u1ea1n.<\/p>\n

Tuy nhi\u00ean, Tim Sander \u2013 t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3 c\u1ee7a cu\u1ed1n “The Likeability Factor<\/em>” (T\u1ea1m d\u1ecbch: Y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 thu h\u00fat) nh\u1ea5n m\u1ea1nh r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng n\u00ean l\u00fac n\u00e0o c\u0169ng c\u01b0\u1eddi khi g\u1eb7p ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. B\u1edfi l\u1ebd, th\u00f4ng th\u01b0\u1eddng, khi kh\u00f4ng mong \u0111\u1ee3i ai \u0111\u00f3 c\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1edbi m\u00ecnh ho\u1eb7c l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft nhi\u1ec1u v\u1ec1 h\u1ecd th\u00ec ch\u00fang ta th\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u00ecn sang ch\u1ed7 kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n

Khi b\u1ea1n nh\u00ecn ai \u0111\u00f3 v\u00e0 m\u1ec9m c\u01b0\u1eddi, c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n \u0111ang truy\u1ec1n \u0111i th\u00f4ng \u0111i\u1ec7p r\u1eb1ng “t\u00f4i c\u0169ng th\u00edch b\u1ea1n”<\/em> v\u00e0 h\u00e0nh vi n\u00e0y s\u1ebd g\u00f3p ph\u1ea7n t\u1ea1o ra s\u1ef1 c\u1ea3m m\u1ebfn l\u1eabn nhau.<\/p>\n

2. Ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef c\u01a1 th\u1ec3<\/h2>\n

Con ng\u01b0\u1eddi suy cho c\u00f9ng th\u00ec c\u0169ng ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng lo\u00e0i \u0111\u1ed9ng v\u1eadt \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c kho\u00e1c l\u00ean m\u00ecnh nh\u1eefng b\u1ed9 trang ph\u1ee5c h\u00e0o nho\u00e1ng, b\u00f3ng b\u1ea9y. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 l\u00fd do t\u1ea1i sao, b\u00ean c\u1ea1nh n\u1ee5 c\u01b0\u1eddi, b\u1ea1n n\u00ean s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 t\u00edn hi\u1ec7u kh\u00e1c, ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ea1n nh\u01b0 nh\u01b0\u1edbng l\u00f4ng m\u00e0y hay ng\u1ea3 \u0111\u1ea7u sang m\u1ed9t b\u00ean \u0111\u1ec3 b\u00e1o hi\u1ec7u cho m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi bi\u1ebft r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i \u0111e d\u1ecda.<\/p>\n

\"N\u1ee5<\/p>\n

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Schafer cho bi\u1ebft: “B\u1ed9 n\u00e3o c\u1ee7a con ng\u01b0\u1eddi lu\u00f4n t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm nh\u1eefng \u0111e d\u1ecda trong m\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng xung quanh. Ch\u00fang ta giao ti\u1ebfp kh\u00f4ng b\u1eb1ng l\u1eddi n\u00f3i. Khi n\u00e3o n\u1eafm b\u1eaft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng t\u00edn hi\u1ec7u th\u00e2n thi\u1ec7n th\u00ec n\u00f3 s\u1ebd b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u t\u1eadp trung v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 kh\u00e1c. Do v\u1eady, vi\u1ec7c t\u00ecm hi\u1ec3u v\u1ec1 c\u00e1c t\u00edn hi\u1ec7u \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u r\u1ea5t quan tr\u1ecdng \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u00fap m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng ch\u00fang m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p”.<\/em><\/p>\n

Nh\u01b0 hai v\u00ed d\u1ee5 tr\u00ean, theo sinh h\u1ecdc, h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng ng\u1ea3 \u0111\u1ea7u s\u1ebd cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c th\u1ea5y m\u1ea1ch m\u00e1u quan tr\u1ecdng \u1edf c\u1ed5 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n, ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n ng\u1ea7m th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n s\u1ef1 tin t\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3. L\u00fd gi\u1ea3i n\u00e0y c\u00f3 v\u1ebb \u0111i\u00ean r\u1ed3 nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt.<\/p>\n

Trong c\u00e1c t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng nh\u01b0 ph\u1ecfng v\u1ea5n xin vi\u1ec7c hay g\u1eb7p g\u1ee1 kh\u00e1ch h\u00e0ng, c\u00e1c ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n d\u1ec5 r\u01a1i v\u00e0o t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng \u0111\u1ed1i \u0111\u1ea7u, khi\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng kh\u00e9p k\u00edn v\u00e0 ph\u00f2ng th\u1ee7 nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n. \u0110\u00e2y ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 l\u00fac b\u1ea1n n\u00ean t\u1eadn d\u1ee5ng c\u00e1c t\u00edn hi\u1ec7u c\u01a1 th\u1ec3 v\u00e0 n\u1ee5 c\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec3 v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng \u0111\u00f3.<\/p>\n

3. Khi\u1ebfn ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i<\/h2>\n

“N\u1ebfu mu\u1ed1n ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c th\u00edch m\u00ecnh th\u00ec tr\u01b0\u1edbc h\u1ebft, h\u00e3y khi\u1ebfn ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i v\u1ec1 ch\u00ednh b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n h\u1ecd”,<\/em> Schafer n\u00f3i. “Ch\u00fang ta ph\u1ea3i t\u1eeb b\u1ecf vi\u1ec7c t\u1eadp trung v\u00e0o ch\u00ednh b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 d\u00e0nh \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ed1i di\u1ec7n”.<\/em><\/p>\n

\"N\u1ee5<\/p>\n

C\u00f3 r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ec3 th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y. Lederman cho r\u1eb1ng: “Tr\u00e2n tr\u1ecdng, c\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn, c\u1ea3m \u01a1n, giao ti\u1ebfp tr\u1ef1c ti\u1ebfp b\u1eb1ng m\u1eaft, l\u1eddi khen ng\u1ee3i, xin l\u1eddi khuy\u00ean…. t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng c\u00e1ch n\u00e0y \u0111\u1ec1u g\u00f3p ph\u1ea7n khi\u1ebfn ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i v\u00e0 t\u1ef1 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y h\u1ecd c\u00f3 gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb”.<\/em><\/p>\n

Trong c\u00e1c cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n, h\u00e3y t\u1ea1o n\u00ean nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u n\u00f3i t\u1ea1o ra s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ed3ng c\u1ea3m. Ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ea1n, n\u1ebfu nh\u01b0 th\u1ea5y ai \u0111\u00f3 vui v\u1ebb, h\u00e3y n\u00f3i nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u nh\u01b0 “h\u00ecnh nh\u01b0 ng\u00e0y h\u00f4m nay c\u1ee7a c\u1eadu r\u1ea5t tuy\u1ec7t v\u1eddi”.<\/em> N\u1ebfu h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e1p l\u1ea1i: “T\u00f4i v\u1eeba k\u00fd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ed9t h\u1ee3p \u0111\u1ed3ng gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb”<\/em> th\u00ec b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 n\u00f3i l\u1ea1i r\u1eb1ng “ch\u1eafc h\u1eb3n l\u00e0 c\u1eadu \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c ch\u0103m ch\u1ec9 l\u1eafm”.<\/em> Ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ed1i di\u1ec7n h\u1eb3n s\u1ebd b\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111i trong ni\u1ec1m vui s\u01b0\u1edbng v\u00e0 c\u1ea3m x\u00fac n\u00e0y c\u0169ng s\u1ebd ph\u1ea3n chi\u1ebfu sang b\u1ea1n. B\u1ea1n c\u0169ng s\u1ebd th\u1ea5y vui h\u01a1n v\u00e0 c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ed9ng l\u1ef1c h\u01a1n \u0111\u1ec3 c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u01b0 h\u1ecd.<\/p>\n

Tuy nhi\u00ean, b\u1ea1n c\u0169ng c\u1ea7n tr\u00e1nh s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi n\u1ecbnh h\u00f3t m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch tr\u1ef1c ti\u1ebfp v\u00ec c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 khi\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u1ea3nh gi\u00e1c v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n v\u00e0 cho r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi thi\u1ebfu th\u00e0nh th\u1eadt.<\/p>\n

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4. T\u1ea1o c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng<\/h2>\n

B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 bao gi\u1edd t\u1ef1 h\u1ecfi t\u1ea1i sao Bill Clinton, Oprah Winfrey v\u00e0 Masterskillsn DeGeneres l\u1ea1i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau m\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ebfn v\u1eady kh\u00f4ng? L\u00fd do l\u00e0 b\u1edfi v\u00ec h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 khi\u1ebfn ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y m\u00ecnh nh\u01b0 l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi quan tr\u1ecdng nh\u1ea5t th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi trong su\u1ed1t cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n.<\/p>\n

\"N\u1ee5<\/p>\n

M\u1ed9t v\u00e0i c\u00e1ch \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u00e1p d\u1ee5ng cho m\u00ecnh nh\u01b0: “H\u00e3y \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1ea1i \u0111i\u1ec7n tho\u1ea1i tr\u00ean b\u00e0n l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c. N\u1ebfu \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c h\u1ecdp, h\u00e3y t\u1eaft \u0111i\u1ec7n tho\u1ea1i v\u00e0 l\u1eadt \u00fap n\u00f3 xu\u1ed1ng, \u0111\u1eebng \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1ed9 m\u00e0n h\u00ecnh. Nh\u00ecn th\u1eb3ng v\u00e0o m\u1eaft \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u00e0 th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n s\u1ef1 t\u1eadp trung ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n v\u00e0o cu\u1ed9c n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n. N\u1ebfu \u0111i \u0103n tr\u01b0a c\u00f9ng m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi, \u0111\u1eebng \u0111\u1ec3 \u00fd \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi xung quanh m\u00e0 ch\u1ec9 t\u1eadp trung v\u00e0o ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111ang ng\u1ed3i tr\u01b0\u1edbc m\u1eb7t b\u1ea1n”.<\/em><\/p>\n

Th\u1eadm ch\u00ed, b\u1ea1n c\u0169ng c\u1ea7n \u0111\u1ec3 \u00fd \u0111\u1ebfn c\u00e1c chi ti\u1ebft nh\u1ecf nh\u01b0 v\u1ecb tr\u00ed \u0111\u1eb7t ly c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. N\u1ebfu nh\u01b0 chi\u1ebfc ly \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1eb7t v\u00e0o kho\u1ea3ng gi\u1eefa b\u1ea1n v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng th\u00ec n\u00f3 s\u1ebd tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t r\u00e0o ch\u1eafn. Do v\u1eady, h\u00e3y ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn l\u00e0 ch\u00fang \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1eb7t \u1edf m\u1ed9t g\u00f3c n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 tr\u00ean b\u00e0n.<\/p>\n

5. L\u1eafng nghe<\/h2>\n

H\u00e3y lu\u00f4n nh\u1edb r\u1eb1ng, m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u th\u00edch n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n h\u1ecd. Khi h\u1ecd c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i trong l\u00f2ng th\u00ec h\u1ecd c\u0169ng s\u1ebd c\u00f3 thi\u1ec7n c\u1ea3m v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n.<\/p>\n

\"N\u1ee5<\/p>\n

H\u00e3y b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1eadp \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng d\u1ef1 \u00e1n tuy\u1ec7t v\u1eddi c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ed1i di\u1ec7n \u2013 nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u00e0 h\u1ecd \u0111ang th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n ho\u1eb7c c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y v\u00f4 c\u00f9ng h\u1ee9ng th\u00fa. Sanders nh\u1ea5n m\u1ea1nh: “H\u00e3y l\u1eafng nghe cho t\u1edbi khi h\u1ecd c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y m\u1ec7t v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c n\u00f3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c n\u1eefa. Th\u00f4ng th\u01b0\u1eddng, \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y k\u00e9o d\u00e0i kho\u1ea3ng 5 ph\u00fat nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 5 ph\u00fat tuy\u1ec7t v\u1eddi nh\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n”.<\/em><\/p>\n

B\u1ea1n c\u0169ng n\u00ean suy ngh\u0129 k\u1ef9 v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c n\u00ean \u0111\u1eb7t c\u00e1c c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi ti\u1ebfp theo nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o. “H\u00e3y \u0111\u1eb7t nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi c\u00f3 k\u1ebft th\u00fac m\u1edf v\u00ec ch\u00fang th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n b\u1ea1n r\u1ea5t h\u1ee9ng th\u00fa v\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nghe c\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi. T\u1eeb \u0111\u00f3, b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u1eafng nghe v\u00e0 \u0111\u1eb7t th\u00eam nhi\u1ec1u c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi kh\u00e1c gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n t\u00ecm hi\u1ec3u s\u00e2u h\u01a1n v\u1ec1 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1. Tr\u00e1nh ki\u1ec3u h\u1ecfi th\u1ea9m v\u1ea5n m\u00e0 h\u00e3y l\u1eafng nghe v\u00e0 chia s\u1ebb. T\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ef1, khi n\u00f3i th\u1ee9 g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 li\u00ean quan \u0111\u1ebfn b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n b\u1ea1n th\u00ec h\u00e3y b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 k\u1ebft n\u1ed1i, \u0111\u00e1ng tin c\u1eady v\u00e0 c\u00e1c \u0111i\u1ec3m chung b\u1edfi v\u00ec m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi, \u0111a ph\u1ea7n, ai c\u0169ng th\u00edch nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi gi\u1ed1ng m\u00ecnh”.<\/em><\/p>\n

T\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec3m chung v\u1edbi \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u0169ng l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t k\u1ef9 thu\u1eadt kinh \u0111i\u1ec3n trong vi\u1ec7c x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7. B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n v\u1edbi h\u1ecd c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 t\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u1ed3ng, ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ea1n nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t s\u1edf th\u00edch, th\u00f3i quen, m\u1ed1i quan t\u00e2m….; d\u1ea7n d\u1ea7n, h\u00e3y ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 ho\u1eb7c c\u00e1ch tuy\u1ec7t v\u1eddi nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 th\u00f4ng qua m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1ee9 ba \u0111\u1ec3 khi\u1ebfn cho cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n tr\u1edf n\u00ean d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng.<\/p>\n

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6. G\u1eb7p g\u1ee1<\/h2>\n

M\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng th\u00edch nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00e0 h\u1ecd quen thu\u1ed9c, th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean g\u1eb7p m\u1eb7t, ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ea1n nh\u01b0 \u0111\u1ed3ng nghi\u1ec7p, h\u00e0ng x\u00f3m ho\u1eb7c ai \u0111\u00f3 m\u00e0 h\u1ecd li\u00ean t\u1ee5c “ch\u1ea1m tr\u00e1n” t\u1ea1i ph\u00f2ng t\u1eadp th\u1ec3 h\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n

\"N\u1ee5<\/p>\n

Theo Tsaousides \u2013 nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd th\u1ea7n kinh h\u1ecdc, di\u1ec5n gi\u1ea3 v\u00e0 t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3 c\u1ee7a cu\u1ed1n “Brainblocks: Overcoming the 7 Hidden Barriers to Success”<\/em> th\u00ec s\u1ef1 th\u00e2n thu\u1ed9c s\u1ebd t\u1ea1o ra hi\u1ec7u \u1ee9ng l\u1edbn v\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a, b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i hi\u1ec7n di\u1ec7n nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n.<\/p>\n

C\u00e1c cu\u1ed9c g\u1eb7p m\u1eb7t c\u00f3 t\u00ednh \u0111\u1ecbnh k\u1ef3 l\u00e0 y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 then ch\u1ed1t nh\u01b0ng hi\u1ec3n nhi\u00ean l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng n\u00ean g\u1eb7p h\u1ecd qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u v\u00e0 \u0111\u1eebng khi\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c b\u1ea1n l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00edch r\u00ecnh m\u00f2. Ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ea1n, hay lui t\u1edbi c\u00f9ng m\u1ed9t qu\u00e1n caf\u00e9, g\u1eedi email ho\u1eb7c \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1ea1i b\u00ecnh lu\u1eadn d\u01b0\u1edbi c\u00e1c status c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd tr\u00ean m\u1ea1ng x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i c\u0169ng l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch hay \u0111\u1ec3 duy tr\u00ec s\u1ef1 t\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u00e1c: “Th\u00f3i quen n\u00e0y nh\u01b0 l\u00e0 l\u1eddi nh\u1eafc nh\u1edf r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n \u0111ang ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 h\u1ecd”.<\/em><\/p>\n

7. Cho v\u00e0 nh\u1eadn<\/h2>\n

\u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 k\u1ef9 thu\u1eadt m\u00e0 Lederman n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng s\u1ebd c\u1ea3i thi\u1ec7n m\u1ecdi k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3. Khi g\u1eb7p b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 ai, h\u00e3y lu\u00f4n ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3. H\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng n\u00e0y tuy s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng m\u1ea1ng l\u1ea1i l\u1ee3i \u00edch cho b\u1ea1n ngay l\u1eadp t\u1ee9c nh\u01b0ng s\u1ebd t\u1ea1o ra hi\u1ec7u \u1ee9ng t\u00edch c\u1ef1c v\u00f4 c\u00f9ng l\u1edbn.<\/p>\n

\"N\u1ee5<\/p>\n

Cho \u0111i s\u1ebd t\u1ea1o ra gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3 \u1ee9ng d\u1ee5ng quy t\u1eafc cho n\u00e0y th\u00ec b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 c\u00e1ch l\u00e0m th\u1ebf n\u00e0o \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. Ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ea1n, khi \u0111ang \u1edf trong m\u1ed9t t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng kinh doanh th\u00ec thay v\u00ec ngh\u0129 “l\u00e0m th\u1ebf n\u00e0o \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1ecfa thu\u1eadn v\u00e0 c\u1ea7n nh\u1eefng g\u00ec t\u1eeb kh\u00e1ch h\u00e0ng n\u00e0y?” th\u00ec h\u00e3y ngh\u0129 “t\u00f4i c\u1ea7n l\u00e0m g\u00ec \u0111\u1ec3 t\u1ea1o th\u00eam gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb cho h\u1ecd?”<\/em><\/p>\n

Theo Sander, trong m\u1ed7i cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n, b\u1ea1n n\u00ean c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng \u0111\u01b0a ra m\u1ed9t l\u1eddi khuy\u00ean nho nh\u1ecf. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y s\u1ebd khi\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t so v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c v\u00e0 khi\u1ebfn ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ed1i di\u1ec7n c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m t\u00ecnh v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n h\u01a1n.<\/p>\n

“Khi g\u1eedi \u0111i m\u1ed9t th\u00f4ng \u0111i\u1ec7p \u0111\u1ebfn ai \u0111\u00f3 r\u1eb1ng: “T\u00f4i quan t\u00e2m v\u00e0 mu\u1ed1n gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n” th\u00ec c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n mu\u1ed1n n\u00f3i v\u1edbi h\u1ecd r\u1eb1ng: “t\u00f4i l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi x\u1ee9ng \u0111\u00e1ng \u0111\u1ec3 b\u1ea1n ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c duy tr\u00ec m\u1ed1i quna h\u1ec7 n\u00e0y”,<\/em> Lederman n\u00f3i th\u00eam.<\/p>\n

8. Ti\u1ebfp thu quan \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c<\/h2>\n

\"N\u1ee5<\/p>\n

B\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd v\u1edbi t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u01b0ng h\u00e3y ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n khi\u1ebfn h\u1ecd c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n \u0111ang l\u1eafng nghe h\u1ecd n\u00f3i. H\u00e3y xem c\u1ea3m x\u00fac c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd nh\u01b0 l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt. Ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ea1n, n\u1ebfu m\u1ed9t kh\u00e1ch h\u00e0ng ph\u00e0n n\u00e0n, h\u00e3y xem x\u00e9t c\u1ea3m x\u00fac c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch nghi\u00eam t\u00fac v\u00e0 cho h\u1ecd bi\u1ebft r\u1eb1ng s\u1ef1 vi\u1ec7c n\u00e0y s\u1ebd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1ea3o lu\u1eadn trong n\u1ed9i b\u1ed9 c\u00f4ng ty b\u1ea1n.<\/p>\n

C\u00e1c nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc cho r\u1eb1ng khi ghi nh\u1eadn c\u1ea3m x\u00fac c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c v\u00e0 truy\u1ec1n l\u1ea1i th\u00f4ng \u0111i\u1ec7p r\u1eb1ng: “t\u00f4i xin l\u1ed7i, t\u00f4i hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u1ea3m x\u00fac kh\u00f3 ch\u1ecbu c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n”<\/em> th\u00ec l\u00fac \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 t\u1ea1o ra m\u1ed9t hi\u1ec7u \u1ee9ng t\u00e2m l\u00fd v\u00f4 c\u00f9ng m\u1ea1nh m\u1ebd, \u0111\u00f3 ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 c\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y c\u0169ng c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n th\u1eeba nh\u1eadn h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01a1n \u0111\u1ed9c hay ng\u1edb ng\u1ea9n khi suy ngh\u0129 theo c\u00e1ch m\u00e0 h\u1ecd \u0111ang ngh\u0129.<\/p>\n

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Vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ghi nh\u1eadn \u00fd ki\u1ebfn th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 r\u1ea5t c\u00f3 \u00fd ngh\u0129a. D\u00f9 b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd v\u1edbi \u00fd ki\u1ebfn \u0111\u00f3 hay kh\u00f4ng th\u00ec n\u00f3 v\u1eabn c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 t\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9ng nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ecbnh l\u00ean t\u00e2m l\u00fd ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ed1i di\u1ec7n.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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