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Ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 y\u00eau say \u0111\u1eafm m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u01b0ng khi \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1eadp \u0111\u1ebfn chuy\u1ec7n c\u01b0\u1edbi xin th\u00ec kh\u00f4ng \u00edt ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y v\u00f4 c\u00f9ng lo l\u1eafng, b\u0103n kho\u0103n v\u00e0 th\u1eadm ch\u00ed l\u00e0 r\u1ea5t c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng. T\u1ea1i sao l\u1ea1i nh\u01b0 v\u1eady?<\/strong><\/p>\n

M\u1edbi \u0111\u00e2y, tr\u00ean trang Business Insider, ph\u00f3ng vi\u00ean, \u0111\u1ed3ng th\u1eddi l\u00e0 chi\u1ebfn l\u01b0\u1ee3c gia Shana Lebowitz \u0111\u00e3 chia s\u1ebb m\u1ed9t b\u00e0i vi\u1ebft r\u1ea5t th\u00fa v\u1ecb v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt li\u00ean quan \u0111\u1ebfn h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i ai c\u0169ng bi\u1ebft. C\u00f4 cho r\u1eb1ng m\u1ed9t c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi m\u00e0 ai c\u0169ng c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i t\u1ef1 v\u1ea5n m\u00ecnh tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi t\u00ednh chuy\u1ec7n “\u0111\u1ea1i s\u1ef1” n\u00e0y \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 “li\u1ec7u hai b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 s\u1ed1ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00f9ng nhau c\u1ea3 \u0111\u1eddi hay kh\u00f4ng?”<\/em><\/p>\n

Lebowitz c\u0169ng nh\u1ea5n m\u1ea1nh t\u1edbi \u00fd c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c c\u1ea3 hai b\u1ea1n li\u1ec7u c\u00f3 m\u00ea \u0111\u1eafm nhau th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 – ngay c\u1ea3 khi \u0111\u1ed1i t\u00e1c li\u00ean t\u1ee5c v\u1ee9t qu\u1ea7n \u00e1o b\u1eeba b\u00e3i trong nh\u00e0 t\u1eafm hay d\u00f9 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 khi\u1ebfu h\u00e0i h\u01b0\u1edbc nh\u01b0ng h\u1ecd v\u1eabn lu\u00f4n \u1edf c\u1ea1nh b\u1ea1n, khi\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n vui sau m\u1ed9t ng\u00e0y l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c m\u1ec7t nh\u1ecdc.<\/p>\n

C\u00f3 l\u1ebd, h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n c\u0169ng c\u1ea7n s\u1ef1 tr\u1ee3 gi\u00fap c\u1ee7a c\u00e1c nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u khoa h\u1ecdc \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00fd gi\u1ea3i nh\u1eefng hi\u1ec7n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng t\u00e2m l\u00fd v\u00e0 h\u00e0nh vi c\u1ee7a con ng\u01b0\u1eddi, \u0111\u1ed3ng th\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec3 t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm c\u00e1c nh\u00e2n t\u1ed1 c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ea1o n\u00ean hay ph\u00e1 v\u1ee1 m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 b\u1ec1n v\u1eefng.<\/p>\n

\"H\u00f4n<\/p>\n

Trong khi ch\u1edd \u0111\u1ee3i c\u00e1c c\u00f4ng b\u1ed1 ch\u00ednh th\u1ee9c th\u00ec h\u00e3y c\u00f9ng tham kh\u1ea3o 15 s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt v\u1ec1 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n m\u00e0 t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3 Lebowitz \u0111\u00e3 li\u1ec7t k\u00ea ra d\u01b0\u1edbi \u0111\u00e2y \u0111\u1ec3 ph\u1ea7n n\u00e0o c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng c\u00e1i nh\u00ecn th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf h\u01a1n nh\u00e9.<\/p>\n

1. N\u1ebfu k\u1ebft h\u00f4n tr\u01b0\u1edbc n\u0103m 23 tu\u1ed5i, nhi\u1ec1u kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd ly d\u1ecb s\u1edbm<\/h2>\n

M\u1ed9t nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n v\u00e0o n\u0103m 2014 t\u1ea1i Greensboro thu\u1ed9c \u0110\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc B\u1eafc Carolina cho th\u1ea5y nh\u1eefng n\u1eef sinh M\u1ef9 s\u1ed1ng th\u1eed ho\u1eb7c k\u1ebft h\u00f4n n\u0103m 18 tu\u1ed5i c\u00f3 t\u1ef7 l\u1ec7 ly d\u1ecb ngay sau th\u1eddi gian \u0111\u00f3 kho\u1ea3ng 60%. Tuy nhi\u00ean, c\u00e1c c\u00f4 g\u00e1i ch\u1edd cho t\u1edbi n\u0103m 23 tu\u1ed5i m\u1edbi l\u1ea5y ch\u1ed3ng ho\u1eb7c s\u1ed1ng th\u1eed th\u00ec t\u1ef7 l\u1ec7 n\u00e0y gi\u1ea3m m\u1ed9t n\u1eeda (30%).<\/p>\n

“C\u00e1c c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i c\u00e0ng ch\u1edd \u0111\u1ee3i th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p \u0111\u1ec3 thi\u1ebft l\u1eadp m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 cam k\u1ebft nghi\u00eam t\u00fac v\u1edbi nhau (s\u1ed1ng th\u1eed ho\u1eb7c k\u1ebft h\u00f4n) th\u00ec c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i h\u1ecd c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng c\u00e0ng l\u1edbn”<\/em> \u2013 theo m\u1ed9t b\u00e1o c\u00e1o tr\u00ean t\u1edd The Atlantic.<\/p>\n

2. Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n “ch\u00ecm \u0111\u1eafm trong t\u00ecnh y\u00eau” kh\u00f4ng k\u00e9o d\u00e0i m\u00e3i m\u00e3i<\/h2>\n

Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n “tu\u1ea7n tr\u0103ng m\u1eadt” kh\u00f4ng k\u00e9o d\u00e0i nh\u01b0 nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1eabn ngh\u0129.<\/p>\n

Theo m\u1ed9t nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ti\u1ebfn h\u00e0nh n\u0103m 2005 t\u1ea1i \u0110\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc Pavia (\u00dd) th\u00ec kho\u1ea3ng th\u1eddi gian hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 “ch\u00ecm \u0111\u1eafm trong t\u00ecnh y\u00eau” ch\u1ec9 k\u00e9o d\u00e0i kho\u1ea3ng 1 n\u0103m<\/strong>. Sau giai \u0111o\u1ea1n n\u00e0y, m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t ch\u1ea5t h\u00f3a h\u1ecdc c\u00f3 t\u00ean “nh\u00e2n t\u1ed1 t\u0103ng tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u1ea7n kinh”<\/strong> (Nerve growth factor) li\u00ean quan t\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c t\u1ea1o ra nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n d\u1eef d\u1ed9i s\u1ebd b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u gi\u1ea3m.<\/p>\n

Chia s\u1ebb v\u1edbi t\u1edd Business Insider, chuy\u00ean gia v\u1ec1 c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 v\u00e0 l\u00e0 nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc Helen Fisher n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng “kh\u00f4ng r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m ch\u00ednh x\u00e1c c\u1ea3m x\u00fac “ch\u00ecm \u0111\u1eafm trong t\u00ecnh y\u00eau” n\u00e0y s\u1ebd b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u m\u1edd nh\u1ea1t nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u1eb1ng sau n\u00f3 \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 c\u00e1c l\u00fd do cho m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n h\u1ee3p l\u00fd”<\/em>. Theo b\u00e0, b\u1edfi v\u00ec “x\u00e9t v\u1ec1 kh\u00eda c\u1ea1nh trao \u0111\u1ed5i ch\u1ea5t trong c\u01a1 th\u1ec3 th\u00ec vi\u1ec7c d\u00e0nh qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u th\u1eddi gian ch\u1ec9 h\u01b0\u1edbng \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i khao kh\u00e1t \u1edf m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 cao l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u r\u1ea5t ‘t\u1ed1n k\u00e9m'”.<\/em><\/p>\n

3. Hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi ho\u1eb7c c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u1ee3p nhau \u2013 ho\u1eb7c kh\u00f4ng h\u1ee3p nhau \u2013 x\u00e9t v\u1ec1 nhi\u1ec1u m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9<\/h2>\n

\"H\u00f4n<\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/div>\n

Quay tr\u1edf v\u1ec1 th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m nh\u1eefng n\u0103m 1950 v\u00e0 1960, nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc ng\u01b0\u1eddi Canada Eric Berne \u0111\u00e3 gi\u1edbi thi\u1ec7u m\u1ed9t m\u00f4 h\u00ecnh 3 t\u1ea7ng gi\u00fap hi\u1ec3u r\u00f5 h\u01a1n v\u1ec1 b\u1ea3n s\u1eafc c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi. \u00d4ng nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 3 “tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i c\u1ee7a c\u00e1i t\u00f4i”<\/em> ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u00f9ng l\u00fac:<\/p>\n

N\u1ebfu \u0111ang trong m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 v\u1edbi ai \u0111\u00f3, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd c\u00f3 li\u00ean quan \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ed9t trong 3 t\u1ea7ng n\u00e0y:<\/p>\n

Trong khi s\u1ef1 c\u00e2n \u0111\u1ed1i gi\u1eefa c\u1ea3 3 l\u1edbp n\u00e0y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c cho l\u00e0 l\u00fd t\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00ec m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u01b0\u1eddng th\u1ecfa thu\u1eadn c\u00f9ng nhau “t\u1ea1o ra s\u1ef1 c\u00e2n b\u1eb1ng gi\u1eefa h\u1ecd”.<\/em> Ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ea1n, m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ebd \u0111\u00f3ng vai tr\u00f2 ch\u0103m s\u00f3c t\u00ecnh y\u00eau v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia s\u1ebd khi\u1ebfn t\u00ecnh y\u00eau tr\u1edf n\u00ean th\u00fa v\u1ecb.<\/p>\n

M\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 m\u1ed7i “c\u00e1i t\u00f4i” s\u1ebd ph\u00e1t huy kh\u00f4ng gi\u1ed1ng nhau trong t\u1eebng tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p v\u00e0 \u1edf m\u1ed7i con ng\u01b0\u1eddi. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y s\u1ebd \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1ebfn qu\u00e1 tr\u00ecnh h\u00ecnh th\u00e0nh t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch c\u1ee7a m\u1ed7i b\u00ean c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n n\u1ebfu c\u00e1c \u0111\u00f4i bi\u1ebft c\u00e1ch h\u00f2a h\u1ee3p.<\/p>\n

4. H\u00f4n nh\u00e2n h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac nh\u1ea5t khi hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n th\u00e2n c\u1ee7a nhau<\/h2>\n

M\u1ed9t nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ti\u1ebfn h\u00e0nh t\u1ea1i V\u0103n ph\u00f2ng qu\u1ed1c gia v\u1ec1 nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u kinh t\u1ebf (M\u1ef9) v\u00e0o n\u0103m 2014 \u0111\u01b0a ra k\u1ebft lu\u1eadn r\u1eb1ng t\u00ecnh b\u1ea1n gi\u1eefa v\u1ee3 v\u00e0 ch\u1ed3ng s\u1ebd g\u00f3p ph\u1ea7n khi\u1ebfn h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n tr\u1edf n\u00ean h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac h\u01a1n.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u c\u0169ng kh\u1eb3ng \u0111\u1ecbnh h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac s\u1ebd ng\u1eadp tr\u00e0n \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi c\u00e1c c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ed9t t\u00ecnh b\u1ea1n th\u00e2n thi\u1ebft. T\u00ecnh b\u1ea1n, nh\u01b0 trong b\u00e1o c\u00e1o \u0111\u00e3 vi\u1ebft, l\u00e0 c\u01a1 ch\u1ebf c\u1ed1t l\u00f5i gi\u00fap gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 nh\u00e2n qu\u1ea3 gi\u1eefa h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n v\u00e0 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c h\u00e0i l\u00f2ng trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng.<\/p>\n

5. C\u00e1c c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i c\u00e0ng s\u00e1t nhau v\u1ec1 tu\u1ed5i, c\u00e0ng \u00edt c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng ly h\u00f4n<\/h2>\n

Nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 tham gia c\u1ee7a 3.000 ng\u01b0\u1eddi M\u1ef9 \u0111\u00e3 k\u1ebft h\u00f4n cho th\u1ea5y s\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c nhau v\u1ec1 \u0111\u1ed9 tu\u1ed5i cso li\u00ean quan \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng x\u00edch m\u00edch trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng.<\/p>\n

T\u00e1c gi\u1ea3 Megan Garber trong m\u1ed9t b\u00e0i b\u00e1o tr\u00ean t\u1edd Atlantic \u0111\u00e3 vi\u1ebft:<\/p>\n

“Ch\u00eanh l\u1ec7ch 1 tu\u1ed5i gi\u1eefa m\u1ed9t c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i c\u0169ng \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m t\u0103ng th\u00eam 3% nguy c\u01a1 ly h\u00f4n (khi so s\u00e1nh v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng c\u1eb7p v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng b\u1eb1ng tu\u1ed5i); ch\u00eanh l\u1ec7ch 5 tu\u1ed5i, nguy c\u01a1 ly h\u00f4n t\u0103ng l\u00ean 18 % v\u00e0 n\u1ebfu kh\u00e1c nhau t\u1edbi 10 tu\u1ed5i th\u00ec r\u1ee7i ro \u0111\u1ed5 v\u1ee1 trong quan h\u1ec7 v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng l\u00e0 39%”.<\/em><\/p>\n

6. N\u1ebfu th\u1ea5y h\u00e0o h\u1ee9ng v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng tin vui t\u1eeb b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi th\u00ec b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac<\/h2>\n

\"H\u00f4n<\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/div>\n

Theo nhi\u1ec1u nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u, c\u00e1c c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n s\u1ef1 vui m\u1eebng tr\u01b0\u1edbc nh\u1eefng tin t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ed9ng (h\u01a1n l\u00e0 ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ed9ng ho\u1eb7c b\u1ecb \u0111\u1ed9ng ph\u1edbt l\u1edd n\u00f3) th\u00ec t\u1ef7 l\u1ec7 c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng c\u00e0ng cao.<\/p>\n

7. Nh\u1eefng c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng chia s\u1ebb vi\u1ec7c nh\u00e0 v\u1edbi nhau th\u00ec gi\u1eefa hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00e0ng nhanh ch\u00f3ng h\u00ecnh th\u00e0nh s\u1ef1 o\u00e1n gi\u1eadn<\/h2>\n

Trong m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c th\u0103m d\u00f2 \u00fd ki\u1ebfn, h\u01a1n 60% ng\u01b0\u1eddi M\u1ef9 n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c nh\u00e0 \u0111\u00f3ng vai tr\u00f2 c\u1ed1t l\u00f5i \u0111\u1ec3 t\u1ea1o n\u00ean m\u1ed9t h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac.<\/p>\n

Trong cu\u1ed1n s\u00e1ch “It’s Not You, It’s the Dishes”<\/em> (t\u1ea1m d\u1ecbch: V\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n m\u00e0 l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng chi\u1ebfc d\u0129a), \u0111\u1ed3ng t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3 Paula Szuchman \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1ec1 xu\u1ea5t m\u1ed9t h\u1ec7 th\u1ed1ng m\u00e0 m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 “chuy\u00ean m\u00f4n h\u00f3a” nh\u1eefng vi\u1ec7c nh\u00e0 m\u00e0 h\u1ecd l\u00e0m t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t. Ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ea1n nh\u01b0, n\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n r\u1eeda b\u00e1t s\u1ea1ch, nhanh h\u01a1n th\u00ec h\u00e3y l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u00f3.<\/p>\n

8. H\u00f4n nh\u00e2n th\u1eddi hi\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ea1i c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng ti\u00eau chu\u1ea9n cao h\u01a1n so v\u1edbi tr\u01b0\u1edbc<\/h2>\n

Nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc Eli Finkel \u0111\u00e3 nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi M\u1ef9 \u0111\u00e3 tr\u1ea3i qua 3 giai \u0111o\u1ea1n:<\/p>\n

\u0110\u1ed1i v\u1edbi c\u00e1c n\u01b0\u1edbc kh\u00e1c, nh\u00ecn chung, h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n \u0111\u1ec1u \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eebng tr\u1ea3i qua 3 giai \u0111o\u1ea1n ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n n\u00e0y x\u00e9t v\u1ec1 m\u1ed9t v\u00e0i kh\u00eda c\u1ea1nh n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3.<\/p>\n

9. B\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh<\/h2>\n

Sau khi h\u1eb9n h\u00f2 v\u1edbi ai \u0111\u00f3 kho\u1ea3ng m\u1ed9t n\u0103m, c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u1ea1n ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng m\u00ecnh g\u1ea7n nh\u01b0 \u0111\u00e3 hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 v\u1ec1 h\u1ecd, k\u1ec3 c\u1ea3 vi\u1ec7c h\u1ecd d\u00f9ng kem \u0111\u00e1nh r\u0103ng lo\u1ea1i n\u00e0o, th\u01b0\u1eddng xem ch\u01b0\u01a1ng tr\u00ecnh g\u00ec v\u00e0 m\u00f3n \u0103n n\u00e0o h\u1ecd y\u00eau th\u00edch nh\u1ea5t.<\/p>\n

Tuy nhi\u00ean, c\u00f3 l\u1ebd b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 n\u00e0o bi\u1ebft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u1ecd r\u00f5 nh\u01b0 b\u1ea1n v\u1eabn ngh\u0129.<\/p>\n

Theo m\u1ed9t nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n v\u00e0o n\u0103m 1997, c\u00e1c c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i s\u1ed1ng c\u00f9ng nhau trong m\u1ed9t th\u1eddi gian d\u00e0i th\u01b0\u1eddng th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n s\u1ef1 t\u1ef1 tin r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd bi\u1ebft r\u00f5 v\u1ec1 nhau. Tuy nhi\u00ean, \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y c\u0169ng ch\u1ec9 ra r\u1eb1ng, \u0111\u1ed9 d\u00e0i (th\u1eddi gian) c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3n \u00e1nh s\u1ef1 ch\u00ednh x\u00e1c trong kh\u1eb3ng \u0111\u1ecbnh \u0111\u00f3.<\/p>\n

Ngay c\u1ea3 khi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi tham gia \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c y\u00eau c\u1ea7u d\u1ef1 \u0111o\u00e1n b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd s\u1ebd \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 v\u1ec1 h\u1ecd nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 th\u00f4ng minh, th\u1ec3 ch\u1ea5t v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed9 h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn th\u00ec h\u1ecd c\u0169ng ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u00fang \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c kho\u1ea3ng 30% m\u00e0 th\u00f4i.<\/p>\n

10. N\u1ebfu ph\u1ea3i th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n m\u1ed9t b\u00e0i “ki\u1ec3m tra” v\u1ec1 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 hi\u1ec7n t\u1ea1i th\u00ec nhi\u1ec1u kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng, b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng h\u1ec1 t\u1ef1 tin<\/h2>\n

\"H\u00f4n<\/p>\n

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M\u1ed9t nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u v\u00e0o n\u0103m 2009 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ti\u1ebfn h\u00e0nh b\u1edfi c\u00e1c nh\u00e0 nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u \u0111\u1ebfn t\u1eeb \u0110\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc Denver cho th\u1ea5y \u0111a ph\u1ea7n c\u00e1c c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i, v\u00ec nh\u1eefng l\u00fd do n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3, th\u01b0\u1eddng tr\u1ed1n tr\u00e1nh vi\u1ec7c th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n c\u00e1c b\u00e0i \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng.<\/p>\n

Ri\u00eang c\u00e1c c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 tham gia b\u00e0i test nhi\u1ec1u kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng tr\u1ea3i qua m\u1ed9t lo\u1ea1t c\u00e1c c\u1ea3m x\u00fac ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c. Ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ea1n, trong s\u1ed1 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi tham gia test th\u00ec \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng v\u00e0 lo l\u1eafng nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n, trong khi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef l\u1ea1i b\u1ecb n\u1ed7i s\u1ee3 b\u1ecb b\u1ecf r\u01a1i \u00e1m \u1ea3nh. C\u1ea3 hai nh\u00f3m n\u00e0y \u0111\u1ec1u kh\u00f4ng h\u1ec1 t\u1ef1 tin trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd.<\/p>\n

Trong m\u1ed9t nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u g\u1ea7n \u0111\u00e2y tr\u00ean Psychology Today, m\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3 nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u \u0111\u00e3 gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch v\u1ec1 \u00fd ngh\u0129a c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng k\u1ebft lu\u1eadn tr\u00ean nh\u01b0 sau:<\/p>\n

“D\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0, nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 ch\u1ec9 b\u1eb1ng h\u00ecnh th\u1ee9c s\u1ed1ng th\u1eed, \u1edf m\u1ed9t v\u00e0i m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3, l\u1ea1i b\u1eb1ng \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u1ee7a b\u00e0i test, h\u1ecd hy v\u1ecdng r\u1eb1ng k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 n\u00e0y s\u1ebd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u1ea3i thi\u1ec7n theo th\u1eddi gian”.<\/em><\/p>\n

11. N\u1ebfu m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 thu\u1ed9c b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi v\u1ec1 m\u1eb7t kinh t\u1ebf th\u00ec nhi\u1ec1u kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 s\u1ebd l\u1eeba \u0111\u1ea3o<\/h2>\n

Tr\u00e1i ng\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u1edbi ni\u1ec1m tin ph\u1ed5 bi\u1ebfn r\u1eb1ng l\u1eeba \u0111\u1ea3o, v\u1ec1 c\u01a1 b\u1ea3n, \u00edt xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n \u1edf nh\u1eefng c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i c\u00f3 thu nh\u1eadp cao. Th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf, m\u1ed1i li\u00ean h\u1ec7 gi\u1eefa thu nh\u1eadp v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 kh\u00f4ng chung th\u1ee7y c\u00f2n mang nhi\u1ec1u s\u1eafc th\u00e1i h\u01a1n th\u1ebf.<\/p>\n

Nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u g\u1ea7n \u0111\u00e2y t\u1eeb \u0110\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc Connecticut \u0111\u1ec1 xu\u1ea5t r\u1eb1ng m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 thu\u1ed9c b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi v\u1ec1 m\u1eb7t kinh t\u1ebf c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n gi\u1eef \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ef1 chung th\u1ee7y v\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t \u0111\u00fang v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng s\u1ed1ng d\u1ef1a v\u00e0o thu nh\u1eadp c\u1ee7a ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef.<\/p>\n

12. Ch\u00fang ta ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng ai c\u0169ng l\u00e0 l\u1eeba \u0111\u1ea3o, tr\u1eeb b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi<\/h2>\n

B\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 tin b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 ai \u2013 tr\u1eeb b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi, c\u00f3 \u0111\u00fang th\u1ebf kh\u00f4ng?<\/p>\n

\"H\u00f4n<\/p>\n

N\u0103m 2015, tr\u01b0\u1eddng \u0110\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc Calgary \u0111\u00e3 ti\u1ebfn h\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u v\u00e0 k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 thu \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng sinh vi\u00ean b\u1ecb h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn b\u1edfi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c gi\u1edbi (heterosexual) ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng trung b\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ed1i t\u00e1c c\u00f3 kho\u1ea3ng 40% c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1eeba \u0111\u1ea3o h\u1ecd v\u00e0 c\u00f3 kho\u1ea3ng 9% s\u1ed1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi tham gia n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eebng l\u1eeba ai \u0111\u00f3.<\/p>\n

13. C\u00e1c c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i tr\u00e2n tr\u1ecdng l\u1eabn nhau th\u00ec nhi\u1ec1u kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng s\u1ebd c\u00f3 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n b\u1ec1n v\u1eefng<\/h2>\n

Tr\u00ean t\u1edd Business Insider, Erin Brodwin \u0111\u00e3 n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 l\u00e0 ch\u00eca kh\u00f3a c\u1ed1t l\u00f5i \u0111\u1ec3 k\u00e9o d\u00e0i c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Trong m\u1ed9t nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u t\u1ea1i Chapel Hill thu\u1ed9c \u0110\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc B\u1eafc Carolina, c\u00e1c nh\u00e0 nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u \u0111\u00e3 y\u00eau c\u1ea7u nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi tham gia gi\u1eef nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed1n s\u1ed5 nh\u1eadt k\u00fd h\u00e0ng ng\u00e0y ghi l\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m cho h\u1ecd v\u00e0 c\u00e1ch m\u00e0 h\u1ecd c\u1ea3m nh\u1eadn v\u1ec1 ch\u00fang. K\u1ebft qu\u1ea3, c\u00e1c c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n s\u1ef1 bi\u1ebft \u01a1n \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd r\u1ea5t v\u1eefng ch\u1eafc.<\/p>\n

Trong khi \u0111\u00f3, m\u1ed9t lo\u1ea1t c\u00e1c khi\u00ean c\u1ee9u kh\u00e1c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c do Berkeley – m\u1ed9t nh\u00e0 nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u hi\u1ec7n \u0111ang l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c t\u1ea1i \u0110\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc California – l\u00e0m tr\u01b0\u1edfng nh\u00f3m ch\u1ec9 ra r\u1eb1ng nhi\u1ec1u c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i tr\u00e2n tr\u1ecdng l\u1eabn nhau nhi\u1ec1u kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng v\u1eabn s\u1ebd gi\u1eef \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nhi\u1ec7t huy\u1ebft y\u00eau \u0111\u01b0\u01a1ng trong kho\u1ea3ng 9 th\u00e1ng sau \u0111\u00f3.<\/p>\n

14. Cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd nh\u1eadn ra r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng c\u00e1 t\u00ednh kh\u00e1c<\/h2>\n

M\u1ed9t khi \u0111\u00e3 b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u s\u1ed1ng c\u00f9ng nhau, c\u00f3 l\u1ebd, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd nh\u1eadn ra r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng \u01b0u ti\u00ean kh\u00e1c v\u00e0 c\u00f3 gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n trong kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng ch\u1ecbu \u0111\u1ef1ng, ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ea1n nh\u01b0 s\u1ef1 b\u1eeba b\u1ed9n \u1edf m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 n\u00e0o s\u1ebd ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u00e0 m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 n\u00e0o th\u00ec kh\u00f4ng.<\/p>\n

Ellyn Bader \u2013 chuy\u00ean gia tr\u1ecb li\u1ec7u cho c\u00e1c c\u1eb7p v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed1ng chia s\u1ebb: “M\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn m\u1ed9t th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng con ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t. B\u1ea1n kh\u00e1c v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng g\u00ec b\u1ea1n ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 con ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00ecnh ho\u1eb7c ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n mu\u1ed1n tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh. Ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng \u00fd ki\u1ebfn, c\u1ea3m x\u00fac v\u00e0 m\u1ed1i quan t\u00e2m kh\u00f4ng h\u1ec1 gi\u1ed1ng nhau”.<\/em><\/p>\n

15. T\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c – y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft t\u1ea1o n\u00ean s\u1ef1 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac trong h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n<\/h2>\n

Khi \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1eadp \u0111\u1ebfn t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c, ch\u1ea5t l\u01b0\u1ee3ng quan tr\u1ecdng h\u01a1n so v\u1edbi s\u1ed1 l\u01b0\u1ee3ng.<\/p>\n

Jessica Orwig trong m\u1ed9t nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u r\u1ea5t \u1ea5n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng c\u00f3 t\u00ean Carnegie Mellon chia s\u1ebb tr\u00ean t\u1edd Business Insider r\u1eb1ng c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i li\u00ean h\u1ec7 gi\u1eefa t\u1ea7n su\u1ea5t b\u1ea1n l\u00e0m “chuy\u1ec7n \u1ea5y” v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi v\u00e0 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n c\u1ea3m nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c.<\/strong><\/p>\n

C\u00e1c nh\u00e0 nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u \u0111\u00e3 chia c\u00e1c c\u1eb7p v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng th\u00e0nh 2 nh\u00f3m: trong kho\u1ea3ng 90 ng\u00e0y, m\u1ed9t n\u1eeda s\u1ebd ti\u1ebfn h\u00e0nh l\u00e0m “chuy\u1ec7n \u1ea5y” theo k\u1ebf ho\u1ea1ch b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd (nh\u00f3m 1) v\u00e0 n\u1eeda c\u00f2n l\u1ea1i s\u1ebd t\u0103ng s\u1ed1 l\u1ea7n l\u00ean g\u1ea5p \u0111\u00f4i so v\u1edbi n\u1eeda kia (nh\u00f3m 2). Sau \u0111\u00f3, h\u1ecd ti\u1ebfn h\u00e0nh \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 c\u1ea3m x\u00fac c\u1ee7a m\u1ed7i nh\u00f3m sau th\u1eed nghi\u1ec7m n\u00e0y v\u00e0 k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 l\u00e0 nh\u00f3m th\u1ee9 2 \u00edt c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac h\u01a1n nh\u00f3m 1.<\/p>\n

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Ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 y\u00eau say \u0111\u1eafm m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u01b0ng khi \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1eadp \u0111\u1ebfn chuy\u1ec7n c\u01b0\u1edbi xin th\u00ec kh\u00f4ng \u00edt ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y v\u00f4 c\u00f9ng lo l\u1eafng, b\u0103n kho\u0103n v\u00e0 th\u1eadm ch\u00ed l\u00e0 r\u1ea5t c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng. T\u1ea1i sao l\u1ea1i nh\u01b0 v\u1eady?<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[452],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/40040"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=40040"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/40040\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=40040"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=40040"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=40040"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}