{"id":40044,"date":"2023-12-10T01:50:58","date_gmt":"2023-12-10T01:50:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/8-dau-hieu-chung-to-ban-dang-co-mot-tinh-yeu-dich-thuc.html"},"modified":"2023-12-13T08:06:14","modified_gmt":"2023-12-13T08:06:14","slug":"8-dau-hieu-chung-to-ban-dang-co-mot-tinh-yeu-dich-thuc","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/8-dau-hieu-chung-to-ban-dang-co-mot-tinh-yeu-dich-thuc.html","title":{"rendered":"8 d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u ch\u1ee9ng t\u1ecf b\u1ea1n \u0111ang c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t t\u00ecnh y\u00eau \u0111\u00edch th\u1ef1c"},"content":{"rendered":"
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M\u1ed9t ng\u00e0y n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3, b\u1ea1n v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ea5y s\u1ebd c\u00f9ng th\u1eafp s\u00e1ng nh\u1eefng ng\u1ecdn n\u1ebfn trong \u0111\u00eam, \u0111i b\u1ed9 tr\u00ean nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ed3ng c\u1ecf xanh m\u01b0\u1edbt v\u00e0 c\u00f9ng \u0103n nh\u1eefng mi\u1ebfng b\u00e1nh ng\u1ecdt ng\u00e0o trong l\u1ec5 c\u01b0\u1edbi.<\/p>\n

Nh\u01b0ng r\u1ed3i s\u1ebd c\u00f3 l\u00fac, b\u1ea1n b\u1eadn b\u1ecbu n\u1ea5u c\u01a1m, d\u1ed7 con kh\u00f3c v\u00e0 hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00e3i nhau inh \u1ecfi ch\u1ec9 v\u00ec kh\u00f4ng th\u1ecfa thu\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ai s\u1ebd l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ecbu tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m cho t\u1eebng c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n

Nh\u1eefng s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt n\u00e0y n\u00f3i l\u00ean r\u1eb1ng: Trong khi \u0111am m\u00ea v\u00e0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau d\u00e0nh cho nhau l\u00e0 hi\u1ec3n nhi\u00ean th\u00ec s\u1ebd c\u00f3 l\u00fac, hai th\u1ee9 n\u00e0y th\u00f4i ch\u01b0a \u0111\u1ee7.<\/strong><\/p>\n

V\u1eady th\u00ec l\u00e0m th\u1ebf n\u00e0o \u0111\u1ec3 b\u1ea1n bi\u1ebft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c r\u1eb1ng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh r\u1ea5t tuy\u1ec7t v\u1eddi hay \u0111ang \u0111\u1ee9ng tr\u01b0\u1edbc nguy c\u01a1 “m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u1ed9t ng\u1ea3”?<\/p>\n

C\u00e1c nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc \u0111\u00e3 d\u00e0nh nhi\u1ec1u n\u0103m nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1eb7c \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u01a1 b\u1ea3n c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 b\u1ec1n v\u1eefng trong th\u1eddi gian d\u00e0i v\u00e0 k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3, h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 t\u1ed5ng h\u1ee3p \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u \u0111i\u1ec3m th\u00fa v\u1ecb. D\u01b0\u1edbi \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 8 d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u n\u1ed5i b\u1eadt trong s\u1ed1 \u0111\u00f3.<\/p>\n

L\u01b0u \u00fd<\/span>: N\u1ebfu nh\u1eadn ra r\u1eb1ng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 hi\u1ec7n t\u1ea1i kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u00e1p \u1ee9ng \u0111\u1ee7 t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 c\u00e1c ti\u00eau chu\u1ea9n n\u00e0y th\u00ec v\u1ec1 b\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5t, n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n n\u00ean ch\u1ea5m d\u1ee9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3. H\u00e3y xem danh s\u00e1ch d\u01b0\u1edbi \u0111\u00e2y nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t “c\u1ea9m nang h\u01b0\u1edbng d\u1eabn c\u01a1 b\u1ea3n” m\u00e0 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 li\u1ec7u r\u1eb1ng t\u00ecnh b\u1ea1n\/t\u00ecnh y\u00eau hi\u1ec7n t\u1ea1i c\u00f3 mang \u0111\u1ebfn cho b\u1ea1n c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c h\u00e0i l\u00f2ng v\u00e0 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1.<\/em><\/p>\n

\"T\u00ecnh<\/p>\n

1. B\u1ea1n ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ea5y th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean khi hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng \u1edf c\u1ea1nh nhau<\/h2>\n

V\u00e0o n\u0103m 2007, c\u00e1c nh\u00e0 nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u \u0111\u00e3 g\u1ecdi \u0111i\u1ec7n t\u1edbi nh\u00e0 c\u1ee7a g\u1ea7n 300 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 k\u1ebft h\u00f4n m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch ng\u1eabu nhi\u00ean v\u00e0 h\u1ecfi h\u1ecd m\u1ed9t lo\u1ea1t c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi v\u1ec1 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 h\u1ecd c\u1ea3m nh\u1eadn nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau \u0111ang s\u1edf h\u1eefu.<\/p>\n

K\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 cho th\u1ea5y c\u00e1c \u0111\u1eb7c \u0111i\u1ec3m \u0111i\u1ec3n h\u00ecnh c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c li\u00ean k\u1ebft ch\u1eb7t ch\u1ebd v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac m\u1ea1nh h\u01a1n v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau. \u0110\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t, m\u1ed9t kh\u00e1m ph\u00e1 th\u00fa v\u1ecb r\u1eb1ng: nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00e0ng ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh nhi\u1ec1u khi hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng \u1edf c\u1ea1nh nhau th\u00ec h\u1ecd c\u00e0ng c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c y\u00eau v\u00e0 y\u00eau nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n n\u1eefa.<\/p>\n

M\u1ed9t nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u t\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ef1 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n v\u1edbi g\u1ea7n 400 ng\u01b0\u1eddi d\u00e2n New York \u0111\u00e3 k\u1ebft h\u00f4n c\u0169ng ph\u00e1t hi\u1ec7n ra r\u1eb1ng vi\u1ec7c kh\u00f3 t\u1eadp trung v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 kh\u00e1c trong khi \u0111ang ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ea5y c\u0169ng c\u00f3 li\u00ean quan t\u1edbi nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 k\u00ecm n\u00e9n v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau nam n\u1eef – \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t l\u00e0 v\u1edbi ph\u00e1i m\u1ea1nh.<\/p>\n

2. B\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng t\u00edch c\u1ef1c v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng tin t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p li\u00ean quan \u0111\u1ebfn ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ea5y<\/h2>\n

Bi\u00ean t\u1eadp vi\u00ean cao c\u1ea5p Lauren Friedman c\u1ee7a trang Business Insider \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eebng chia s\u1ebb trong m\u1ed9t b\u00e0i vi\u1ebft r\u1eb1ng m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 c\u1ea3 hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch h\u00e0o h\u1ee9ng khi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nghe nh\u1eefng tin th\u00fa v\u1ecb v\u1ec1 nhau. C\u00f2n blog Psychology Today l\u1ea1i ch\u1ec9 ra 4 c\u00e1ch m\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n c\u1ea3m x\u00fac sau khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng c\u00f4 \u1ea5y v\u1eeba \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u0103ng ch\u1ee9c nh\u01b0 sau:<\/p>\n

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C\u00f3 l\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 g\u00ec b\u1ea5t ng\u1edd khi ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 k\u1ebft n\u1ed1i ch\u1eb7t ch\u1ebd nh\u1ea5t v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 h\u00e0i l\u00f2ng trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 \u0111\u00f3 ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng mang s\u1eafc th\u00e1i x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng \u2013 ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ed9ng.<\/p>\n

3. B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 kho\u1ea3ng th\u1eddi gian ri\u00eang \u0111\u1ec3 d\u00e0nh cho b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh<\/h2>\n

\"T\u00ecnh<\/p>\n

Qua nhi\u1ec1u th\u1eadp k\u1ef7, con ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi ng\u00e0y c\u00e0ng t\u0103ng \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. Theo chia s\u1ebb c\u1ee7a Jessica Orwig tr\u00ean t\u1edd Business Insider th\u00ec ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n mong \u0111\u1ee3i h\u1ecd \u0111\u01a1n thu\u1ea7n ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ki\u1ebfm ti\u1ec1n ch\u00ednh trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh, ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea3o v\u1ec7 hay m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec3 b\u1ea7u b\u1ea1n n\u1eefa \u2013 gi\u1edd \u0111\u00e2y, ch\u00fang ta c\u0169ng mu\u1ed1n h\u1ecd d\u00e0nh cho m\u00ecnh nh\u1eefng kh\u00f4ng gian ri\u00eang \u0111\u1ec3 th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n c\u00e1c nhu c\u1ea7u c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n

Nh\u00e0 nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u Finkel \u0111\u1ec1 xu\u1ea5t r\u1eb1ng n\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n mu\u1ed1n h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac trong h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n th\u00ec t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng n\u00ean t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm \u1edf ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec b\u1ea1n c\u1ea7n. B\u1ea1n n\u00ean t\u1ef1 t\u1ea1o cho m\u00ecnh nh\u1eefng s\u1edf th\u00edch ri\u00eang, d\u00e0nh th\u1eddi gian g\u1eb7p g\u1ee1 b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 v\u00e0 t\u00ecm ni\u1ec1m vui trong c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c.<\/p>\n

4. C\u1ea3 hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u h\u00e0i h\u01b0\u1edbc<\/h2>\n

Nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc, \u0111\u1ed3ng th\u1eddi l\u00e0 s\u00e1ng l\u1eadp c\u1ee7a trang h\u1eb9n h\u00f2 eHarmony Nei Clark Warren tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00e2y \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eebng c\u00f3 b\u00e0i vi\u1ebft \u0111\u0103ng tr\u00ean trang Business Insider v\u1edbi kh\u1eb3ng \u0111\u1ecbnh r\u1eb1ng s\u1ef1 h\u00e0i h\u01b0\u1edbc l\u00e0 “ch\u1ea5t b\u00f4i tr\u01a1n g\u1ea7n g\u0169i nh\u1ea5t”<\/em> c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n.<\/p>\n

\u0110\u1ed3ng quan \u0111i\u1ec3m, Erin Brodwin c\u0169ng n\u00f3i c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t lo\u1ea1i “ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef ri\u00eang t\u01b0”<\/em> v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi \u2013 gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 nickname hay l\u1eddi tr\u00eau ch\u1ecdc m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng m\u1ed9t ai kh\u00e1c c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u2013 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 khi\u1ebfn cho s\u1ee3i d\u00e2y tr\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m gi\u1eefa hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00e0ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1eaft ch\u1eb7t h\u01a1n v\u00e0 th\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n cao trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7.<\/p>\n

5. Ph\u00e2n chia vi\u1ec7c nh\u00e0 c\u00f4ng b\u1eb1ng<\/h2>\n

Trong m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c \u0111i\u1ec1u tra \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n b\u1edfi Trung t\u00e2m nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u Pew v\u00e0o n\u0103m 2007 th\u00ec 62% ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng chia s\u1ebb c\u00e1c c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u r\u1ea5t quan tr\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac. \u0110i\u1ec1u th\u00fa v\u1ecb l\u00e0 khi c\u0103n c\u1ee9 v\u00e0o c\u00e1c \u0111\u1ecbnh ki\u1ebfn x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i th\u00ec trong s\u1ed1 n\u00e0y, kh\u00f4ng h\u1ec1 c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t n\u00e0o trong c\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi tham gia, k\u1ec3 c\u1ea3 nam l\u1eabn n\u1eef.<\/p>\n

Tuy nhi\u00ean, trong khi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng tham gia v\u00e0o c\u00e1c c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c trong nh\u00e0 nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n so v\u1edbi c\u00e1nh m\u00e0y r\u00e2u trong qu\u00e1 kh\u1ee9 th\u00ec m\u1ed9t nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u kh\u00e1c l\u1ea1i cho th\u1ea5y ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef v\u1eabn c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng ch\u1ec9 ch\u1ecdn c\u00e1c c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c nh\u1eb9 nh\u00e0ng, \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng t\u1ed1n nhi\u1ec1u s\u1ee9c.<\/p>\n

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6. C\u1ea3 hai c\u00f9ng th\u1eed l\u00e0m nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u1edbi m\u1ebb<\/h2>\n

Trong m\u1ed9t nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c xu\u1ea5t b\u1ea3n v\u00e0o n\u0103m 1993, c\u00e1c nh\u00e0 nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u \u0111\u00e3 quan s\u00e1t ch\u1ea5t l\u01b0\u1ee3ng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a h\u01a1n 50 c\u1eb7p v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng \u1edf tu\u1ed5i trung ni\u00ean v\u00e0 ph\u00e2n chia h\u1ecd th\u00e0nh 3 nh\u00f3m.<\/p>\n

\"T\u00ecnh<\/p>\n

M\u1ed9t nh\u00f3m ch\u1ecdn c\u00e1c ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng m\u1edbi m\u1ebb v\u00e0 th\u00fa v\u1ecb \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m c\u00f9ng nhau trong 90 ph\u00fat\/tu\u1ea7n, ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ea1n nh\u01b0 nh\u1ea3y hay \u0111\u00f3ng k\u1ecbch. Nh\u00f3m kh\u00e1c d\u00e0nh 90 ph\u00fat m\u1ed7i tu\u1ea7n \u0111\u1ec3 tham gia c\u00e1c ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng quen thu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1ea7y h\u1ee9ng th\u00fa c\u00f9ng b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi \u2013 ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ea1n nh\u01b0 \u0111i xem phim v\u00e0 nh\u00f3m cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0m g\u00ec c\u1ea3.<\/p>\n

Sau 10 tu\u1ea7n, c\u00e1c chuy\u00ean gia \u0111\u00e3 ti\u1ebfn h\u00e0nh \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 l\u1ea1i ch\u1ea5t l\u01b0\u1ee3ng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a t\u1eebng c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i v\u00e0 nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng c\u1eb7p v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng c\u00f9ng tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u1edbi c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 h\u00e0i l\u00f2ng cao nh\u1ea5t.<\/p>\n

D\u01b0\u1edbi \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 tr\u00edch d\u1eabn trong m\u1ed9t b\u00e1o c\u00e1o \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u0103ng tr\u00ean t\u1edd New York Times v\u00e0o n\u0103m 2008:<\/p>\n

“Ti\u1ebfn s\u0129 Aron [m\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng nh\u00e0 nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u c\u1ee7a cu\u1ed9c \u0111i\u1ec1u tra \u0111\u00f3] b\u00e1o tr\u01b0\u1edbc r\u1eb1ng s\u1ef1 m\u1edbi m\u1ebb th\u00f4i ch\u01b0a \u0111\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec3 c\u1ee9u m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n \u0111ang r\u01a1i v\u00e0o giai \u0111o\u1ea1n kh\u1ee7ng ho\u1ea3ng. Tuy nhi\u00ean, \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi c\u00e1c c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 m\u00e0 v\u1ec1 c\u01a1 b\u1ea3n t\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u1ed1i \u00eam \u0111\u1eb9p, ngo\u1ea1i tr\u1eeb m\u1ed9t v\u00e0i c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng nh\u1ecf th\u00ec s\u1ef1 m\u1edbi m\u1ebb c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 li\u1ec1u thu\u1ed1c gi\u00fap h\u00e0n g\u1eafn l\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng v\u1ebft r\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u00e1ng c\u00f3 v\u00e0 kh\u01a1i m\u00e0o cho t\u00ecnh y\u00eau c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd b\u00f9ng ch\u00e1y tr\u1edf l\u1ea1i”.<\/em><\/p>\n

7. M\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 \u00edt khi khi\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n b\u1ecb suy s\u1ee5p nghi\u00eam tr\u1ecdng<\/h2>\n

G\u1ea7n \u0111\u00e2y, c\u00e1c nh\u00e0 nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u \u0111\u00e3 quan s\u00e1t h\u01a1n 400 c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i \u0111ang h\u1eb9n h\u00f2 v\u00e0 s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng ph\u1ea3n h\u1ed3i c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd v\u1ec1 c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 \u0111\u1ec3 nh\u1eadn ra 4 khu\u00f4n m\u1eabu c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 th\u1ecfa hi\u1ec7p: bi th\u1ea3m, m\u00e2u thu\u1eabn, c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 can thi\u1ec7p c\u1ee7a x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i v\u00e0 t\u1eadp trung v\u00e0o \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng.<\/p>\n

Gary Lewandowski \u2013 nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc v\u00e0 chuy\u00ean gia nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u v\u1ec1 c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch tr\u00ean trang Science of Relationships r\u1eb1ng c\u00e1c c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i r\u01a1i v\u00e0o tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i bi th\u1ea3m cho th\u1ea5y nhi\u1ec1u bi\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ed9ng trong s\u1ef1 th\u1ecfa hi\u1ec7p c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi \u0111\u1ed1i t\u00e1c theo th\u1eddi gian.<\/p>\n

C\u00e1c c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i t\u1eadp trung v\u00e0o \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c bi\u1ec3u hi\u1ec7n b\u1edfi vi\u1ec7c hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111a ph\u1ea7n tr\u1ea3i qua nh\u1eefng thay \u0111\u1ed5i th\u1ea5t th\u01b0\u1eddng (m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch t\u00edch c\u1ef1c) trong c\u00e1ch th\u1ecfa hi\u1ec7p khi c\u1ea3 hai kh\u00f4ng d\u00e0nh nhi\u1ec1u th\u1eddi gian cho nhau.<\/p>\n

Khu\u00f4n m\u1eabu c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 can thi\u1ec7p c\u1ee7a x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i ph\u1ea3n \u00e1nh c\u00e1c c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i th\u01b0\u1eddng c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng dao \u0111\u1ed9ng th\u1ea5t th\u01b0\u1eddng khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n ho\u1eb7c gia \u0111\u00ecnh thay \u0111\u1ed5i \u0111i\u1ec1u h\u1ecd ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7.<\/p>\n

C\u00e1c c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i thu\u1ed9c khu\u00f4n m\u1eabu cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng th\u01b0\u1eddng x\u1ea3y ra xung \u0111\u1ed9t v\u1edbi nhi\u1ec1u bi\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ed9ng nh\u1ecf trong m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 th\u1ecfa hi\u1ec7p c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd.<\/p>\n

Nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u tr\u00ean ch\u1ec9 ra r\u1eb1ng, c\u00e1c c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i t\u1eadp trung v\u00e0o \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng th\u01b0\u1eddng xem tr\u1ecdng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd h\u01a1n, trong khi c\u00e1c c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i thu\u1ed9c nh\u00f3m “bi th\u1ea3m” th\u00ec nhi\u1ec1u kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng s\u1ebd tan v\u1ee1.<\/p>\n

8. B\u1ea1n bi\u1ebft c\u00e1ch h\u00e0n g\u1eafn m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 sau m\u1ed7i xung \u0111\u1ed9t<\/h2>\n

Nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd v\u00e0 chuy\u00ean gia v\u1ec1 c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 John Gottman tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00e2y \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eebng chia s\u1ebb r\u1eb1ng \u0111i\u1ec3m chung s\u1ed1 1 c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 n\u1ed1i l\u1ea1i s\u1ee3i d\u00e2y t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m sau m\u1ed7i l\u1ea7n x\u1ea3y ra m\u00e2u thu\u1eabn.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng h\u1ec1 c\u00f3 xung \u0111\u1ed9t t\u00ed n\u00e0o c\u1ea3, thay v\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3, ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 c\u00e1ch m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng v\u1edbi t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng: “Th\u1ee9 m\u00e0 t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 c\u00e1c c\u1eb7p v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng t\u00ecnh y\u00eau ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 \u0111\u00f3 ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 h\u1ecd bi\u1ebft c\u00e1ch tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n, k\u1ebft n\u1ed1i v\u1edbi \u0111\u1ed1i t\u00e1c. Ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ea1n nh\u01b0 khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ea5y lo l\u1eafng, b\u1ea1n s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng l\u1eafng nghe v\u00e0 chia s\u1ebb”.<\/em><\/p>\n

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“Th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi d\u1eebng l\u1ea1i, c\u1ea3 hai c\u00f9ng l\u1eafng nghe v\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta c\u00f9ng s\u1eeda ch\u1eefa m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9. Ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ec3 cho nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p bi\u1ebfn m\u1ea5t. Ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng b\u1ecf m\u1eb7c ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ea5y trong \u0111au kh\u1ed5. Ch\u00fang ta n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 n\u00f3 v\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta c\u00f9ng v\u00e1 l\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng v\u1ebft th\u01b0\u01a1ng kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u00e1ng c\u00f3”.<\/em><\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

M\u1ed9t ng\u00e0y n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3, b\u1ea1n v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ea5y s\u1ebd c\u00f9ng th\u1eafp s\u00e1ng nh\u1eefng ng\u1ecdn n\u1ebfn trong \u0111\u00eam, \u0111i b\u1ed9 tr\u00ean nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ed3ng c\u1ecf xanh m\u01b0\u1edbt v\u00e0 c\u00f9ng \u0103n nh\u1eefng mi\u1ebfng b\u00e1nh ng\u1ecdt ng\u00e0o trong l\u1ec5 c\u01b0\u1edbi.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[452],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/40044"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=40044"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/40044\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=40044"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=40044"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=40044"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}