{"id":40062,"date":"2023-12-10T01:51:32","date_gmt":"2023-12-10T01:51:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/39-meo-giup-ban-tro-thanh-nguoi-ai-cung-thich.html"},"modified":"2023-12-13T08:03:08","modified_gmt":"2023-12-13T08:03:08","slug":"39-meo-giup-ban-tro-thanh-nguoi-ai-cung-thich","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/39-meo-giup-ban-tro-thanh-nguoi-ai-cung-thich.html","title":{"rendered":"39 m\u1eb9o gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u201cai c\u0169ng th\u00edch\u201d"},"content":{"rendered":"
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M\u1ed9t v\u00e0i ng\u01b0\u1eddi khi sinh ra \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1edf h\u1eefu n\u00e9t h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean \u2013 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 thu h\u00fat s\u1ef1 ch\u00fa \u00fd c\u1ee7a t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong ph\u00f2ng ch\u1ec9 trong m\u1ed9t v\u00e0i gi\u00e2y, \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n b\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng c\u00e1i b\u1eaft tay hay n\u1ee5 c\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00e2n thi\u1ec7n. Trong khi \u0111\u00f3, kh\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1ea1i k\u00e9m may m\u1eafn h\u01a1n. H\u1ecd ki\u00ean tr\u00ec luy\u1ec7n t\u1eadp, t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm c\u00e1c b\u00ed quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u1edf n\u00ean h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn trong m\u1eaft ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c nh\u01b0ng v\u1eabn kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 nh\u01b0 mong \u0111\u1ee3i.<\/p>\n

Andrew Thomas \u2013 t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3 c\u1ee7a b\u00e0i vi\u1ebft n\u00e0y tr\u00ean T\u1ea1p ch\u00ed Inc. c\u0169ng t\u1ef1 nh\u1eadn m\u00ecnh \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eebng l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i ai c\u0169ng th\u00edch. Ch\u00ednh v\u00ec v\u1eady, Thomas r\u1ea5t ng\u01b0\u1ee1ng m\u1ed9 khi g\u1eb7p m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 s\u1ee9c h\u00fat, d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng khi\u1ebfn ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ed1i di\u1ec7n ph\u1ea3i t\u1eadp trung l\u1eafng nghe nh\u1eefng g\u00ec h\u1ecd n\u00f3i. C\u00e1ch h\u1ecd b\u1eaft tay, c\u00e1ch h\u1ecd khen ng\u1ee3i, c\u00e1ch h\u1ecd c\u00fai ch\u00e0o…., t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 \u0111\u1ec1u to\u00e1t l\u00ean m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 nh\u1eb9 nh\u00e0ng, g\u1ea7n g\u0169i v\u00e0 r\u1ea5t tinh t\u1ebf.<\/p>\n

Sau m\u1ed9t th\u1eddi gian ti\u1ebfp x\u00fac v\u00e0 t\u00ecm hi\u1ec3u, cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng, Thomas \u0111\u00e3 h\u1ecdc \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c “th\u1ee7 thu\u1eadt” \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u1edf n\u00ean h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn h\u01a1n c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd v\u00e0 b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u \u00e1p d\u1ee5ng cho ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh. K\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 th\u1eadt b\u1ea5t ng\u1edd: t\u1eeb m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi “\u00edt” \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u00edch, cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng, anh \u0111\u00e3 g\u00e2y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ef1 ch\u00fa \u00fd v\u00e0 lu\u00f4n khi\u1ebfn m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ea3i b\u1ea5t ng\u1edd m\u1ed7i l\u1ea7n xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n.<\/p>\n

V\u1eady b\u00ed quy\u1ebft c\u1ee7a Thomas l\u00e0 g\u00ec? R\u1ea5t \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n, ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 thay \u0111\u1ed5i h\u00e0nh vi v\u00e0 c\u00e1ch \u1ee9ng x\u1eed c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n theo 39 g\u1ea1ch \u0111\u1ea7u d\u00f2ng d\u01b0\u1edbi \u0111\u00e2y.<\/p>\n

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39 \u0111i\u1ec3m chung c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t<\/h2>\n

\"H\u1ea5p<\/p>\n

1. Ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ed9ng l\u1eafng nghe.<\/p>\n

2. Lu\u00f4n t\u1ea1o \u1ea5n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng ngay t\u1eeb l\u1ea7n g\u1eb7p \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean.<\/p>\n

3. Ch\u1ecbu tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m v\u1edbi c\u00e1c sai l\u1ea7m.<\/p>\n

4. N\u00f3i l\u00e0 l\u00e0m.<\/p>\n

5. T\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi.<\/p>\n

6. \u0110\u1eb7t c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi thay v\u00ec \u0111\u01b0a ra c\u00e1c ph\u1ecfng \u0111o\u00e1n thi\u1ebfu c\u0103n c\u1ee9.<\/p>\n

7. Lu\u00f4n duy tr\u00ec n\u1ee5 c\u01b0\u1eddi (ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh) tr\u00ean khu\u00f4n m\u1eb7t.<\/p>\n

8. H\u1ecd s\u1ed1ng cho ch\u00ednh h\u1ecd ch\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m h\u00e0i l\u00f2ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n

9. H\u1ecd theo \u0111\u1ed5i nh\u1eefng g\u00ec h\u1ecd mu\u1ed1n.<\/p>\n

10. Lu\u00f4n nh\u1edb t\u00ean ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n

11. S\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng nh\u1edd ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1.<\/p>\n

12. Kh\u00f4ng s\u1ee3 ph\u1ea1m sai l\u1ea7m.<\/p>\n

13. Kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd qu\u00ean c\u1ea3m \u01a1n ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n

14. Lu\u00f4n \u0111\u1ed9ng vi\u00ean m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi.<\/p>\n

15. Kh\u00f4ng v\u1ed9i v\u00e0ng v\u00e0 r\u1ea5t t\u1ef1 tin khi n\u00f3i.<\/p>\n

16. Kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1, ph\u00e1n x\u00e9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n

17. Xin l\u1ed7i m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh.<\/p>\n

18. Tha th\u1ee9 cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n

19. Kh\u00f4ng ng\u1eaft l\u1eddi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n

20. Bi\u1ebft c\u00e1ch khen ng\u1ee3i.<\/p>\n

21. Bi\u1ebft c\u00e1ch ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn l\u1eddi khen ng\u1ee3i.<\/p>\n

22. N\u00f3i s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt, kh\u00f4ng gi\u1ea3 d\u1ed1i.<\/p>\n

23. Bi\u1ebft c\u00e1ch ch\u00fac m\u1eebng th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n

24. S\u1eed d\u1ee5ng ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef c\u01a1 th\u1ec3.<\/p>\n

25. Kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 tr\u00edch, kh\u00f4ng n\u1eb7ng l\u1eddi.<\/p>\n

26. H\u01b0\u1edbng to\u00e0n b\u1ed9 s\u1ef1 ch\u00fa \u00fd v\u00e0o ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ed1i di\u1ec7n trong cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n.<\/p>\n

27. T\u1ea1o s\u1ef1 tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n

28. Kh\u00f4ng gi\u00e0nh h\u1ebft c\u00f4ng tr\u1ea1ng v\u1ec1 m\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n

29. Duy tr\u00ec giao ti\u1ebfp b\u1eb1ng m\u1eaft.<\/p>\n

30. \u0110\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng l\u00e0 trung t\u00e2m c\u1ee7a c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n (ch\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i h\u1ecd).<\/p>\n

31. Bi\u1ebft c\u00e1ch k\u1ebft n\u1ed1i \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n \u0111\u00e1ng nh\u1edb.<\/p>\n

32. S\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng th\u1eeba nh\u1eadn sai l\u1ea7m ngay l\u1eadp t\u1ee9c.<\/p>\n

33. H\u1ecd d\u1ee9t kho\u00e1t.<\/p>\n

34. Kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ed5 l\u1ed7i.<\/p>\n

35. Kh\u00f4ng s\u1ee3 b\u1ecb t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng.<\/p>\n

36. Kh\u00f4ng c\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111i\u1ec7u h\u00f3a m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9.<\/p>\n

37. M\u1ec9m c\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1edbi ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n

38. L\u1ea1c quan.<\/p>\n

39. Kh\u00f4ng th\u1ef1c d\u1ee5ng.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u1ea5y nh\u1eefng h\u00e0nh vi n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng nh\u1eefng gi\u00fap ch\u00fang ta tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1ed1t m\u00e0 c\u00f2n g\u00f3p ph\u1ea7n lan t\u1ecfa l\u1ed1i s\u1ed1ng l\u00e0nh m\u1ea1nh sang cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. \u0110\u00e2y ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 b\u00ed quy\u1ebft, ph\u00e9p thu\u1eadt hay chi\u1ebfn l\u01b0\u1ee3c g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch s\u1ed1ng m\u00e0 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ea1o ra s\u1ef1 thay \u0111\u1ed5i v\u00f4 c\u00f9ng l\u1edbn cho m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi.<\/p>\n

\"H\u1ea5p<\/p>\n

K\u1ebft<\/h2>\n

S\u1ef1 thay \u0111\u1ed5i c\u00f3 \u00fd ngh\u0129a s\u1ebd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c kh\u1edfi ph\u00e1t khi ch\u00ednh b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i ki\u00ean \u0111\u1ecbnh v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3i thi\u1ec7n nh\u1ecf nh\u1ea5t m\u1ed7i ng\u00e0y. H\u00e3y t\u1eadp trung v\u00e0o m\u1ed9t ho\u1eb7c hai h\u00e0nh vi trong danh s\u00e1ch n\u00e0y v\u00e0 luy\u1ec7n t\u1eadp n\u00f3 cho \u0111\u1ebfn khi ch\u00fang \u0111\u00e3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh th\u00f3i quen tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi thay \u0111\u1ed5i nh\u1eefng h\u00e0nh vi kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n

N\u1ebfu v\u1eabn ch\u01b0a r\u00f5 v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng t\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9ng t\u00edch c\u1ef1c c\u1ee7a 39 \u0111i\u1ec1u tr\u00ean, b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u00ecm hi\u1ec3u k\u1ef9 h\u01a1n v\u1edbi hai cu\u1ed1n s\u00e1ch “How to Win Friends and Influence People”<\/em> (\u0110\u1eafc Nh\u00e2n T\u00e2m) c\u1ee7a Dale Carnegie v\u00e0 “Crucial Conversations”<\/em> (T\u1ea1m d\u1ecbch: Nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u00e0m ph\u00e1n quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh) \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c vi\u1ebft b\u1edfi Al Switzler, Joseph Grenny, Kerry Patterson v\u00e0 Ron McMillan.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

M\u1ed9t v\u00e0i ng\u01b0\u1eddi khi sinh ra \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1edf h\u1eefu n\u00e9t h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean \u2013 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 thu h\u00fat s\u1ef1 ch\u00fa \u00fd c\u1ee7a t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong ph\u00f2ng ch\u1ec9 trong m\u1ed9t v\u00e0i gi\u00e2y, \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n b\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng c\u00e1i b\u1eaft tay hay n\u1ee5 c\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00e2n thi\u1ec7n. Trong khi \u0111\u00f3, kh\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1ea1i k\u00e9m may m\u1eafn h\u01a1n. H\u1ecd ki\u00ean tr\u00ec luy\u1ec7n t\u1eadp, t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm c\u00e1c b\u00ed quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u1edf n\u00ean h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn trong m\u1eaft ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c nh\u01b0ng v\u1eabn kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 nh\u01b0 mong \u0111\u1ee3i.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[452],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/40062"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=40062"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/40062\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=40062"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=40062"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=40062"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}