{"id":40136,"date":"2023-12-10T01:54:05","date_gmt":"2023-12-10T01:54:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/ban-co-thay-cuoc-doi-minh-troi-qua-that-vo-vi-khong.html"},"modified":"2023-12-13T07:47:01","modified_gmt":"2023-12-13T07:47:01","slug":"ban-co-thay-cuoc-doi-minh-troi-qua-that-vo-vi-khong","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/ban-co-thay-cuoc-doi-minh-troi-qua-that-vo-vi-khong.html","title":{"rendered":"B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ea5y cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi m\u00ecnh tr\u00f4i qua th\u1eadt v\u00f4 v\u1ecb kh\u00f4ng?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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V\u1ec1 t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3<\/span>: B\u00e0i vi\u1ebft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u1ecbch t\u1eeb chia s\u1ebb c\u1ee7a t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3 Darius Foroux \u0111\u0103ng tr\u00ean trang Medium.<\/em><\/p>\n

M\u1ed7i t\u1ed1i, tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi \u0111i ng\u1ee7 – l\u00fac \u0111ang n\u1eb1m tr\u00ean gi\u01b0\u1eddng, b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y h\u00e0o h\u1ee9ng khi th\u1ee9c d\u1eady v\u00e0o s\u00e1ng mai kh\u00f4ng? Ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f3 \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec th\u00fa v\u1ecb m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n \u0111ang ch\u1edd \u0111\u1ee3i sao? Hay l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n lu\u00f4n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y bu\u1ed3n ch\u00e1n, v\u00f4 v\u1ecb, nh\u1ea1t nh\u1ebdo, th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng? B\u1ea1n n\u1eb1m \u01b0\u1eddn m\u00ecnh tr\u00ean gi\u01b0\u1eddng, m\u1eb7c cho th\u1eddi gian tr\u00f4i v\u00e0 ch\u1edd \u0111\u1ebfn “gi\u1edd G”, b\u1ea1n m\u1edbi v\u1ed9i v\u00e0ng lao ra kh\u1ecfi gi\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u1ec3 chu\u1ea9n b\u1ecb \u0111i l\u00e0m?<\/p>\n

C\u00e1ch \u0111\u00e2y kho\u1ea3ng 3 n\u0103m (ho\u1eb7c h\u01a1n), t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 t\u1ef1 h\u1ecfi m\u00ecnh c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi n\u00e0y v\u00e0o r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u bu\u1ed5i t\u1ed1i tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi \u0111i ng\u1ee7. V\u00e0 th\u01b0\u1eddng, c\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi l\u00e0 t\u00f4i ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f3 g\u00ec \u0111\u1ec3 h\u00e0o h\u1ee9ng c\u1ea3. M\u1ed7i ng\u00e0y tr\u00f4i qua m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch v\u00f4 v\u1ecb, ch\u1eb3ng kh\u00e1c g\u00ec nh\u1eefng ng\u00e0y tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00f3.<\/p>\n

\"Cu\u1ed9c<\/p>\n

Ch\u00fang ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n tr\u00e1i ng\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ng\u00e0y “tr\u1ecdng \u0111\u1ea1i” nh\u01b0 ng\u00e0y \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean b\u1ea1n \u0111i l\u00e0m, ng\u00e0y \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean b\u1ea1n \u0111i du l\u1ecbch v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n trai\/b\u1ea1n g\u00e1i, nh\u1eadn b\u1eb1ng t\u1ed1t nghi\u1ec7p \u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc, k\u00fd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ed9t h\u1ee3p \u0111\u1ed3ng l\u1edbn. B\u1ea1n t\u1ea1o ra s\u1ef1 “tr\u1ecdng \u0111\u1ea1i” \u0111\u00f3.<\/p>\n

Nh\u1eefng ng\u00e0y nh\u01b0 v\u1eady th\u1eadt \u0111\u1eb9p ph\u1ea3i kh\u00f4ng? B\u1edfi v\u00ec b\u1ea1n lu\u00f4n c\u00f3 th\u1ee9 g\u00ec \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u1edd \u0111\u1ee3i v\u00e0o bu\u1ed5i t\u1ed1i tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00f3? B\u1ea1n h\u00e1o h\u1ee9c, h\u1ed3i h\u1ed9p, lo l\u1eafng \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ee9c kh\u00f4ng ng\u1ee7 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c? B\u1ea1n d\u1eady s\u1edbm trong t\u01b0 th\u1ebf s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng. B\u1ea1n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi th\u1eadt \u00fd ngh\u0129a.<\/p>\n

Tuy nhi\u00ean, ngo\u1ea1i tr\u1eeb ch\u00fang th\u00ec \u0111a ph\u1ea7n, cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ec1u ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f3 g\u00ec kh\u00e1c. B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng? B\u1ea1n nh\u00ecn l\u1ea1i v\u00e0 th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng th\u1eddi gian d\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0 \u0111ang b\u1ecb x\u00e1o tr\u1ed9n. B\u1ea1n ch\u1eb3ng th\u1ec3 n\u00e0o ph\u00e2n bi\u1ec7t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ng\u00e0y n\u00e0y v\u1edbi ng\u00e0y kia. V\u00e0 r\u1ed3i, b\u1ea1n c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c tu\u1ea7n n\u00e0y v\u00e0 tu\u1ea7n t\u1edbi s\u1ebd kh\u00e1c nhau nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o. B\u1ea1n c\u1ee9 \u0111i l\u00e0m, v\u1ec1 nh\u00e0 v\u00e0 m\u1ecdi chuy\u1ec7n x\u1ea3y ra \u0111\u00fang nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec \u0111\u00e3 x\u1ea3y ra tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00f3.<\/p>\n

R\u1ed3i \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ed9t ng\u00e0y, b\u1ea1n ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ec1 quan t\u00e2m t\u1edbi b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 th\u1ee9 g\u00ec n\u1eefa c\u1ea3. B\u1ea1n \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n l\u00e0 c\u1ee9 s\u1ed1ng v\u1eady th\u00f4i.<\/p>\n

Cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng khi nhi\u1ec1u n\u0103m tr\u00f4i qua v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed9t nhi\u00ean, b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 80 tu\u1ed5i. L\u00fac n\u00e0y, b\u1ea1n ng\u1ed3i tr\u00ean gh\u1ebf, nh\u00ecn ra ngo\u00e0i c\u1eeda s\u1ed5 v\u00e0 t\u1ef1 h\u1ecfi r\u1eb1ng:<\/p>\n

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“Chuy\u1ec7n g\u00ec \u0111\u00e3 x\u1ea3y ra v\u1edbi cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi m\u00ecnh v\u1eady? T\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 th\u1eddi gian trong cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi m\u00ecnh gi\u1edd bi\u1ebfn \u0111\u00e2u m\u1ea5t r\u1ed3i?”<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

R\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi hi\u1ec7n \u0111ang \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 th\u1ea5p gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb c\u1ee7a cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng. T\u00f4i c\u0169ng \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eebng nh\u01b0 v\u1eady trong nhi\u1ec1u n\u0103m li\u1ec1n. Khi nh\u00ecn l\u1ea1i qu\u00e3ng th\u1eddi gian h\u1ecdc \u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc, t\u00f4i th\u1ea5y sao m\u00e0 \u0111\u1eb9p v\u1eady? Th\u1ebf nh\u01b0ng, t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n nh\u1edb \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nhi\u1ec1u n\u1eefa, c\u1ea3m t\u01b0\u1edfng nh\u01b0 \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n v\u00f4 c\u00f9ng l\u1edbn.<\/p>\n

T\u00f4i ch\u1ec9 nh\u1edb r\u1eb1ng h\u1ed3i \u0111\u00f3 m\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111i ra ngo\u00e0i, u\u1ed1ng bia, vui v\u1ebb v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 v\u00e0 lu\u00f4n lu\u00f4n nh\u01b0 v\u1eady.<\/p>\n

Sau khi t\u1ed1t nghi\u1ec7p, t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u, \u0111i du l\u1ecbch r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u v\u00e0 m\u1ed9t l\u1ea7n n\u1eefa, khi nh\u00ecn l\u1ea1i, t\u00f4i th\u1ea5y th\u1eddi gian tr\u00f4i nhanh qu\u00e1.<\/p>\n

T\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 ngh\u0129 r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u v\u1ec1 l\u00fd do t\u1ea1i sao l\u1ea1i nh\u01b0 v\u1eady v\u00e0 t\u00f4i li\u00ean t\u01b0\u1edfng t\u1edbi m\u1ed9t c\u00e2u n\u00f3i c\u1ee7a Seneca \u2013 nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc theo ch\u1ee7 ngh\u0129a Kh\u1eafc k\u1ef7 (Stoic) s\u1ed1ng c\u00e1ch \u0111\u00e2y 2.000 n\u0103m r\u1eb1ng:<\/p>\n

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“H\u00e3y b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u s\u1ed1ng ngay l\u1eadp t\u1ee9c v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ebfm t\u1eebng ng\u00e0y gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 t\u1eebng cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi ri\u00eang r\u1ebd v\u1eady”.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

V\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 \u1edf \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng coi m\u1ed7i ng\u00e0y tr\u00f4i qua nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t “cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi nh\u1ecf”. Ch\u00fang ta th\u1ee9c d\u1eady, u\u1ed1ng tr\u00e0\/caf\u00e9, ch\u0103m s\u00f3c gia \u0111\u00ecnh, \u0111i l\u00e0m, ki\u1ebfm ti\u1ec1n, mua s\u1eafm, xem phim v\u00e0 \u0111i ng\u1ee7. Ho\u1eb7c th\u1ee9 g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u1ea1i lo\u1ea1i th\u1ebf.<\/p>\n

Ng\u00e0y ti\u1ebfp theo b\u1ea1n th\u1ee9c d\u1eady, b\u1ea1n l\u1eb7p l\u1ea1i CH\u00cdNH X\u00c1C nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m trong ng\u00e0y h\u00f4m tr\u01b0\u1edbc.<\/strong><\/p>\n

B\u1ea1n bi\u1ebft c\u00e2u t\u1ee5c ng\u1eef n\u00e0y ch\u1ee9: Thay \u0111\u1ed5i l\u00e0 gia v\u1ecb c\u1ee7a cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng (Variety is the spice of life).<\/strong> T\u00f4i ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n bi\u1ebft. Nh\u01b0ng t\u1ea1i sao b\u1ea1n l\u1ea1i kh\u00f4ng th\u00eam “gia v\u1ecb” cho cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh v\u1eady?<\/p>\n

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\"Cu\u1ed9c<\/p>\n

Kh\u00f4ng m\u1ed9t ai c\u1ea3 \u0111\u1eddi ch\u1ec9 th\u00edch \u0103n m\u1ed9t m\u00f3n. Ai c\u0169ng th\u00edch thay \u0111\u1ed5i.<\/p>\n

V\u1eady t\u1ea1i sao b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng thay \u0111\u1ed5i “h\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u1ecb” cho cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh?<\/p>\n

N\u1ebfu kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y h\u00e0o h\u1ee9ng. H\u00e3y t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm v\u00e0 l\u00e0m cho b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y h\u00e0o h\u1ee9ng.<\/p>\n

M\u1ed7i ng\u00e0y, h\u00e3y l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn m\u1ed9t th\u1ee9 g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 b\u1ea1n mu\u1ed1n t\u1eadn h\u01b0\u1edfng, ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ea1n nh\u01b0 \u0111i d\u01b0\u1edbi tr\u1eddi m\u01b0a hay ng\u1eafm ho\u00e0ng h\u00f4n xu\u1ed1ng.<\/p>\n

B\u1ea1n ngh\u0129 g\u00ec v\u1ec1 b\u1eefa s\u00e1ng ng\u00e0y mai? B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 mu\u1ed1n thay \u0111\u1ed5i m\u1ed9t ch\u00fat? Ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ea1n thay v\u00ec \u0103n b\u00e1nh m\u00ec, b\u1ea1n ch\u1ecdn d\u1eady s\u1edbm v\u00e0 t\u1ef1 n\u1ea5u cho m\u00ecnh m\u1ed9t b\u1eefa th\u1eadt th\u1ecbnh so\u1ea1n?<\/p>\n

Thay \u0111\u1ed5i kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 ph\u1ea3i l\u1edbn lao. B\u1ea1n ch\u1ec9 c\u1ea7n thay \u0111\u1ed5i t\u1eeb nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u nh\u1ecf nh\u1eb7t nh\u1ea5t.<\/p>\n

H\u00e3y h\u00e0o h\u1ee9ng v\u1edbi cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. H\u1ecdc k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng m\u1edbi. H\u1ecdc ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef m\u1edbi. T\u00ecm hi\u1ec3u n\u1ec1n v\u0103n h\u00f3a m\u1edbi. R\u00e8n luy\u1ec7n c\u01a1 th\u1ec3…. T\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng nh\u1ecf n\u00e0y s\u1ebd khi\u1ebfn m\u1ed7i ng\u00e0y c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n tr\u1edf n\u00ean tuy\u1ec7t v\u1eddi v\u00e0 cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd th\u00fa v\u1ecb h\u01a1n bao gi\u1edd h\u1ebft.<\/p>\n

H\u00e3y coi m\u1ed7i ng\u00e0y c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi v\u00e0 h\u00e3y bi\u1ebfn m\u1ed7i “cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi nh\u1ecf” \u0111\u00f3 tr\u1edf n\u00ean th\u1eadt \u00fd ngh\u0129a.<\/p>\n

\"Cu\u1ed9c<\/p>\n

Tuy nhi\u00ean, t\u00f4i c\u0169ng nh\u1ea5n m\u1ea1nh r\u1eb1ng thay \u0111\u1ed5i l\u00e0 t\u1ed1t nh\u01b0ng b\u1ea1n c\u0169ng c\u1ea7n th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf. Kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i b\u1ea1n ch\u00e1n, b\u1ea1n th\u1ea5y m\u1ec7t m\u1ecfi l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 mua v\u00e9 m\u00e1y bay \u0111i du l\u1ecbch n\u01b0\u1edbc ngo\u00e0i hay ti\u00eau x\u00e0i b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 th\u1ee9 g\u00ec b\u1ea1n th\u00edch.<\/p>\n

M\u1ed9t ch\u00fat m\u1ea1nh m\u1ebd, m\u1ed9t ch\u00fat t\u00f2 m\u00f2, m\u1ed9t ch\u00fat n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c v\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ch\u00fat kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t so v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng g\u00ec m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eebng c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y v\u00f4 v\u1ecb d\u1ea7n s\u1ebd t\u1ea1o n\u00ean nh\u1eefng th\u00e0nh qu\u1ea3 l\u1edbn lao.<\/p>\n

N\u1ebfu mu\u1ed1n t\u1eadn h\u01b0\u1edfng cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi th\u1eadt tr\u1ecdn v\u1eb9n, b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m cho n\u00f3 x\u1ea3y ra. N\u1ebfu kh\u00f4ng, ch\u1eb3ng ai mang n\u00f3 \u0111\u1ebfn cho b\u1ea1n c\u1ea3.<\/p>\n

Tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi \u0111i ng\u1ee7, h\u00e3y t\u1ef1 h\u1ecfi b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n: “M\u00ecnh c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y ph\u1ea5n kh\u00edch khi th\u1ee9c d\u1eady v\u00e0o s\u00e1ng mai kh\u00f4ng?”<\/em><\/p>\n

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N\u1ebfu c\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng th\u00ec \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1ebfn l\u00fac b\u1ea1n c\u1ea7n thay \u0111\u1ed5i.<\/p>\n

N\u1ebfu c\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi l\u00e0 c\u00f3, h\u00e3y ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c h\u1ecfi nh\u01b0 v\u1eady trong bu\u1ed5i t\u1ed1i ti\u1ebfp theo v\u00e0 \u0111i ng\u1ee7 v\u1edbi n\u1ee5 c\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u00ean m\u00f4i, b\u1edfi v\u00ec, s\u00e1ng mai th\u1ee9c d\u1eady, m\u1ed9t “cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi nh\u1ecf” r\u1ea5t tuy\u1ec7t v\u1eddi \u0111ang ch\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3n b\u1ea1n.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

V\u1ec1 t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3<\/span>: B\u00e0i vi\u1ebft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u1ecbch t\u1eeb chia s\u1ebb c\u1ee7a t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3 Darius Foroux \u0111\u0103ng tr\u00ean trang Medium.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[452],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/40136"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=40136"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/40136\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=40136"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=40136"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=40136"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}