{"id":40151,"date":"2023-12-10T01:54:37","date_gmt":"2023-12-10T01:54:37","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/4-giai-doan-cua-cuoc-doi-ban-dang-chiu-kho-o-giai-doan-nao.html"},"modified":"2023-12-13T07:42:50","modified_gmt":"2023-12-13T07:42:50","slug":"4-giai-doan-cua-cuoc-doi-ban-dang-chiu-kho-o-giai-doan-nao","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/4-giai-doan-cua-cuoc-doi-ban-dang-chiu-kho-o-giai-doan-nao.html","title":{"rendered":"4 giai \u0111o\u1ea1n c\u1ee7a cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi, b\u1ea1n \u0111ang \u201cch\u1ecbu kh\u1ed5\u201d \u1edf giai \u0111o\u1ea1n n\u00e0o?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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\u0110\u1eddi th\u1eadt l\u00e0 kh\u1ed5. B\u1ea1n ch\u1ecbu h\u1ebft kh\u1ed5 r\u1ed3i th\u00ec b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd ch\u1ebft. Theo t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3 Mark Manson<\/strong>, “c\u00e1i kh\u1ed5” \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c chia l\u00e0m 4 giai \u0111o\u1ea1n v\u00e0 sau khi \u0111\u1ecdc b\u00e0i vi\u1ebft n\u00e0y, m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00ean d\u1ef1a v\u00e0o c\u00e1c ph\u00e2n t\u00edch \u0111\u1ec3 xem th\u1eed m\u00ecnh \u0111ang “ch\u1ecbu kh\u1ed5” \u1edf giai \u0111o\u1ea1n n\u00e0o, \u0111\u1ed3ng th\u1eddi, h\u00e3y suy ng\u1eabm v\u00e0 l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn c\u00e1ch s\u1ed1ng th\u1eadt \u0111\u00fang \u0111\u1eafn. Cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi v\u1ed1n “kh\u1ed5” r\u1ed3i nh\u01b0ng b\u1ea1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c quy\u1ec1n ch\u1ecdn “kh\u1ed5” theo c\u00e1ch c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n.<\/p>\n

Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n M\u1ed9t: B\u1eaft ch\u01b0\u1edbc ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c (Mimicry)<\/h2>\n

Khi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c sinh ra, ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng t\u1ef1 lo \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c cho b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n v\u00e0 ph\u1ee5 thu\u1ed9c ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n v\u00e0o ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. Ta kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 \u0111i, kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 n\u00f3i, kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 t\u1ef1 ki\u1ebfm \u0103n v\u00e0 ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafc l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 t\u1ef1 tr\u1ea3 thu\u1ebf.<\/p>\n

Khi c\u00f2n nh\u1ecf, c\u00e1ch h\u1ecdc t\u1eadp t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta l\u00e0 quan s\u00e1t v\u00e0 b\u1eaft ch\u01b0\u1edbc ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. \u0110\u1ea7u ti\u00ean, ta h\u1ecdc c\u00e1c k\u0129 n\u0103ng thu\u1ed9c v\u1ec1 th\u1ec3 ch\u1ea5t (physical skills)<\/strong> nh\u01b0 \u0111i l\u1ea1i v\u00e0 n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n. Sau \u0111\u00f3, ch\u00fang ta ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n c\u00e1c k\u0129 n\u0103ng x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i (social skills)<\/strong> b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch nh\u00ecn v\u00e0 l\u00e0m theo nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi xung quanh m\u00ecnh. V\u00e0, trong nh\u1eefng n\u0103m th\u00e1ng cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng c\u1ee7a th\u1eddi th\u01a1 \u1ea5u, ch\u00fang ta h\u1ecdc c\u00e1ch th\u00edch nghi v\u1edbi v\u0103n h\u00f3a x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch quan s\u00e1t c\u00e1c quy t\u1eafc v\u00e0 phong t\u1ee5c xung quanh m\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng c\u01b0 x\u1eed theo c\u00e1ch m\u00e0 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn ph\u1ed5 bi\u1ebfn.<\/p>\n

\"Cu\u1ed9c<\/p>\n

M\u1ee5c ti\u00eau c\u1ee7a Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n M\u1ed9t l\u00e0 d\u1ea1y cho ch\u00fang ta c\u00e1ch t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i trong x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i n\u00e0y \u0111\u1ec3 ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh t\u1ef1 ch\u1ee7 v\u00e0 t\u1ef1 l\u1eadp.<\/strong> Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1edbn kh\u00e1c trong c\u1ed9ng \u0111\u1ed3ng s\u1ebd gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 ta \u0111\u1ea1t t\u1edbi d\u1ea5u m\u1ed1c \u0111\u00f3 th\u00f4ng qua s\u1ef1 h\u1ed7 tr\u1ee3 \u0111\u1ec3 ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ef1 ra quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh v\u00e0 h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng.<\/p>\n

Tuy nhi\u00ean, s\u1ebd lu\u00f4n c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1edbn v\u00e0 c\u00e1c th\u00e0nh vi\u00ean trong c\u1ed9ng \u0111\u1ed3ng kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y. H\u1ecd tr\u1eebng ph\u1ea1t ch\u00fang ta v\u00ec ta \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1ed9c l\u1eadp. H\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng \u1ee7ng h\u1ed9 c\u00e1c quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh c\u1ee7a ta. V\u00ec v\u1eady, ta kh\u00f4ng ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ef1 t\u1ef1 ch\u1ee7. Ch\u00fang ta b\u1ecb k\u1eb9t trong Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n M\u1ed9t, m\u00e3i m\u00e3i b\u1eaft ch\u01b0\u1edbc nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi xung quanh, m\u00e3i m\u00e3i c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng l\u00e0m h\u00e0i l\u00f2ng t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng b\u1ecb ph\u00e1n x\u00e9t.<\/p>\n

Trong m\u1ed7i c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n l\u00e0nh m\u1ea1nh “b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng”, Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n M\u1ed9t s\u1ebd k\u00e9o d\u00e0i \u0111\u1ebfn cu\u1ed1i tu\u1ed5i v\u1ecb th\u00e0nh ni\u00ean v\u00e0 giai \u0111o\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ea7u c\u1ee7a tu\u1ed5i tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh. \u0110\u1ed1i v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi, n\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 k\u00e9o d\u00e0i sang c\u1ea3 giai \u0111o\u1ea1n tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1edbn. C\u00f3 v\u00e0i ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1eebng th\u1ee9c d\u1eady m\u1ed9t ng\u00e0y \u1edf tu\u1ed5i 45 m\u1edbi b\u1ea5t gi\u00e1c nh\u1eadn ra r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd ch\u01b0a bao gi\u1edd th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 s\u1ed1ng cho ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 t\u1ef1 tr\u00e1ch m\u00f3c m\u00ecnh \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m g\u00ec v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng n\u0103m th\u00e1ng \u0111\u00e3 tr\u00f4i qua tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00f3.<\/p>\n

\u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n M\u1ed9t. Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n b\u1eaft ch\u01b0\u1edbc. Ch\u00fang ta lu\u00f4n lu\u00f4n t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm s\u1ef1 ch\u1ea5p thu\u1eadn v\u00e0 ph\u00ea chu\u1ea9n, trong khi l\u1ea1i thi\u1ebfu v\u1eafng t\u01b0 duy \u0111\u1ed9c l\u1eadp v\u00e0 c\u00e1c gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n.<\/p>\n

Ch\u00fang ta ph\u1ea3i lu\u00f4n \u00fd th\u1ee9c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng ti\u00eau chu\u1ea9n v\u00e0 k\u00ec v\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi xung quanh nh\u01b0ng c\u0169ng ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ee7 m\u1ea1nh m\u1ebd \u0111\u1ec3 h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng b\u1ea5t ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eefng ti\u00eau chu\u1ea9n v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 mong \u0111\u1ee3i c\u1ee7a kh\u00e1c khi b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft. Ch\u00fang ta c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng do m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 v\u00ec m\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n

Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n Hai: T\u1ef1 kh\u00e1m ph\u00e1 b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n (Self-difcovery)<\/h2>\n

Trong Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n M\u1ed9t, ch\u00fang ta h\u1ecdc c\u00e1ch h\u00f2a nh\u1eadp v\u1edbi m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00e0 v\u0103n h\u00f3a xung quanh. Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n Hai s\u1ebd l\u00e0 l\u00fac h\u1ecdc h\u1ecfi \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec l\u00e0m ch\u00fang ta kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t v\u1edbi t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng s\u1ef1 v\u1eadt \u0111\u00f3. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi ch\u00fang ta b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u t\u1ef1 ra quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh cho m\u00ecnh, t\u1ef1 th\u1eed th\u00e1ch m\u00ecnh, t\u1ef1 hi\u1ec3u m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 kh\u00e1m ph\u00e1 ra \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec khi\u1ebfn m\u00ecnh tr\u1edf n\u00ean \u0111\u1ed9c \u0111\u00e1o.<\/p>\n

Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n Hai s\u1ebd bao g\u1ed3m r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u ph\u00e9p th\u1eed sai v\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta s\u1ebd ph\u1ea3i th\u1eed nghi\u1ec7m: s\u1ed1ng \u1edf nh\u1eefng n\u01a1i m\u1edbi l\u1ea1, giao l\u01b0u v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u1edbi, u\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1ed3 m\u1edbi v\u00e0 th\u1eed “quan h\u1ec7” v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1ea1.<\/p>\n

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Trong Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n Hai c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i, t\u00f4i r\u1eddi qu\u00ea h\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u00e0 th\u0103m th\u00fa kho\u1ea3ng 50 qu\u1ed1c gia g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3. Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n Hai c\u1ee7a anh trai t\u00f4i l\u00e0 d\u1ea5n th\u00e2n v\u00e0o h\u1ec7 th\u1ed1ng ch\u00ednh tr\u1ecb \u1edf th\u1ee7 \u0111\u00f4 Washington. Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n Hai c\u1ee7a m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ebd kh\u00e1c nhau \u0111\u00f4i ch\u00fat b\u1edfi v\u00ec m\u1ed7i ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 \u0111\u00f4i ch\u00fat kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t.<\/p>\n

Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n Hai l\u00e0 qu\u00e1 tr\u00ecnh t\u1ef1 kh\u00e1m ph\u00e1 b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n. Ch\u00fang ta th\u1eed nhi\u1ec1u th\u1ee9. M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng, m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i. M\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch \u1edf \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3 b\u1ea1n ch\u1ecdn l\u1ea5y c\u00e1i n\u00e0o \u0111\u00fang \u0111\u1eafn v\u00e0 ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng.<\/p>\n

Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n Hai k\u00e9o d\u00e0i cho t\u1edbi khi ch\u00fang ta b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u \u0111\u1ed1i m\u1eb7t v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f3 ch\u1ecbu. V\u00e0 m\u1eb7c d\u00f9 c\u00f3 l\u1ebd b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 bi\u1ebft qua Oprah Winfrey<\/strong> (nh\u00e0 t\u1eeb thi\u1ec7n, ng\u01b0\u1eddi d\u1eabn ch\u01b0\u01a1ng tr\u00ecnh Talk show r\u1ea5t n\u1ed5i ti\u1ebfng, nh\u00e0 xu\u1ea5t b\u1ea3n t\u1ea1p ch\u00ed…) v\u00e0 Deepak Chopra<\/strong> (t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3 c\u1ee7a nhi\u1ec1u cu\u1ed1n s\u00e1ch n\u1ed5i ti\u1ebfng nh\u01b0 Kh\u00f4ng tu\u1ed5i t\u00e1c, kh\u00f4ng th\u1eddi gian, S\u1ef1 S\u1ed1ng – C\u00e1i ch\u1ebft, B\u1ea3y quy lu\u1eadt tinh th\u1ea7n c\u1ee7a th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng<\/strong>…) nh\u01b0ng t\u00f4i v\u1eabn mu\u1ed1n nh\u1ea5n m\u1ea1nh r\u1eb1ng vi\u1ec7c kh\u00e1m ph\u00e1 ra \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec1u ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n t\u1ed1t v\u00e0 l\u00e0nh m\u1ea1nh.<\/p>\n

B\u1ea1n ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafc s\u1ebd k\u00e9m \u1edf kho\u1ea3n n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3, b\u1ea5t k\u1ec3 b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ee9c n\u00e0o. V\u00e0 b\u1ea1n c\u1ea7n bi\u1ebft ch\u00fang l\u00e0 g\u00ec. T\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c tr\u1eddi ph\u00fa cho t\u00e0i n\u0103ng xu\u1ea5t s\u1eafc \u1edf b\u1ea5t k\u00ec m\u00f4n th\u1ec3 thao n\u00e0o c\u1ea3. Th\u1eadt \u0111\u00e1ng bu\u1ed3n khi bi\u1ebft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c n\u00f3 nh\u01b0ng \u0111i\u1ec1u quan tr\u1ecdng l\u00e0 t\u00f4i hi\u1ec3u th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf l\u00e0 nh\u01b0 v\u1eady. T\u00f4i c\u0169ng ch\u1ec9 gi\u1ecfi t\u1ef1 n\u1ea5u \u0103n cho m\u00ecnh ngang v\u1edbi em b\u00e9 l\u00e0m v\u0103ng m\u00f3n n\u01b0\u1edbc s\u1ed1t t\u00e1o kh\u1eafp s\u00e0n nh\u00e0. Ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ec1u c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i h\u1ecdc \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c r\u1eb1ng m\u00ecnh d\u1ed1t th\u1ee9 g\u00ec. V\u00e0 bi\u1ebft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y c\u00e0ng s\u1edbm trong cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi c\u00e0ng t\u1ed1t.<\/p>\n

\"Cu\u1ed9c<\/p>\n

V\u1eady n\u00ean, ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng gi\u1ecfi \u1edf m\u1ed9t v\u00e0i th\u1ee9. V\u00e0 cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng, b\u1ea1n c\u0169ng s\u1ebd h\u1ecdc \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c r\u1eb1ng c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 r\u1ea5t tuy\u1ec7t v\u1eddi trong ng\u1eafn h\u1ea1n, nh\u01b0ng r\u1ed3i s\u1ebd ch\u00e1n d\u1ea7n sau m\u1ed9t v\u00e0i n\u0103m. Du l\u1ecbch th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t v\u00ed d\u1ee5. T\u00e1n t\u1ec9nh c\u01a1 s\u1ed1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c l\u00e0 1 v\u00ed d\u1ee5 th\u1ee9 hai. U\u1ed1ng r\u01b0\u1ee3u v\u00e0o t\u1ed1i th\u1ee9 3 l\u00e0 v\u00ed d\u1ee5 th\u1ee9 ba. C\u00f2n r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u n\u1eefa. Tin t\u00f4i \u0111i.<\/p>\n

Bi\u1ebft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n r\u1ea5t quan tr\u1ecdng b\u1edfi v\u00ec cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i nh\u1eadn ra ch\u00e2n l\u00fd r\u1eb1ng th\u1eddi gian c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n tr\u00ean Tr\u00e1i \u0110\u1ea5t n\u00e0y c\u0169ng gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n v\u00e0 v\u00ec v\u1eady b\u1ea1n n\u00ean \u0111\u1ea7u t\u01b0 n\u00f3 v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 c\u00f3 \u00fd ngh\u0129a nh\u1ea5t. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 ch\u1ec9 b\u1edfi v\u00ec b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m n\u00f3 th\u00ec kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n n\u00ean l\u00e0m n\u00f3, b\u1edfi v\u00ec b\u1ea1n th\u00edch ki\u1ec3u ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n n\u00ean \u1edf m\u00e3i v\u1edbi h\u1ecd. M\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 chi ph\u00ed c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i v\u00e0 b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 c\u00f3 t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3.<\/p>\n

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T\u00f4i bi\u1ebft m\u1ed9t v\u00e0i ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd cho ph\u00e9p m\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n – ho\u1eb7c l\u00e0 b\u1edfi v\u00ec h\u1ecd t\u1eeb ch\u1ed1i th\u1eeba nh\u1eadn sai l\u1ea7m ho\u1eb7c b\u1edfi v\u00ec h\u1ecd t\u1ef1 huy\u1ec5n ho\u1eb7c r\u1eb1ng m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y s\u1ebd b\u1ecb k\u1eb9t l\u1ea1i trong Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n Hai.<\/p>\n

C\u00f3 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi “c\u1ee9 m\u00e3i kh\u1edfi nghi\u1ec7p” khi \u0111\u00e3 38 tu\u1ed5i, v\u1eabn s\u1ed1ng v\u1edbi m\u1eb9 v\u00e0 v\u1eabn kh\u00f4ng ki\u1ebfm ra \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1ed3ng n\u00e0o sau 15 n\u0103m c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng. C\u00f3 nh\u1eefng “di\u1ec5n vi\u00ean \u0111\u1ea7y tham v\u1ecdng” v\u1eabn \u0111ang l\u00e0m b\u1ed3i b\u00e0n v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng th\u1eed vai di\u1ec5n n\u00e0o trong 2 n\u0103m. C\u00f3 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 l\u00e2u d\u00e0i b\u1edfi v\u00ec h\u1ecd lu\u00f4n lu\u00f4n c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c r\u1eb1ng s\u1ebd lu\u00f4n c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t ai \u0111\u00f3 t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n. H\u1ecd l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u1ed1 xua \u0111u\u1ed5i c\u00e1c sai l\u1ea7m b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch “gi\u1ea3i ph\u00f3ng” s\u1ef1 ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c v\u00e0o v\u0169 tr\u1ee5 ho\u1eb7c “kh\u1eed b\u1ecf” t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng sai l\u1ea7m \u0111\u00f3 ra kh\u1ecfi cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi m\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n

\u0110\u1ebfn m\u1ed9t l\u00fac n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3, t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ec1u ph\u1ea3i th\u1eeba nh\u1eadn ch\u00e2n l\u00fd: cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi n\u00e0y r\u1ea5t ng\u1eafn ng\u1ee7i, m\u1ecdi \u01b0\u1edbc m\u01a1 c\u1ee7a ta \u0111\u1ec1u kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 th\u00e0nh hi\u1ec7n th\u1ef1c; v\u00ec v\u1eady, ch\u00fang ta n\u00ean c\u1ea9n th\u1eadn l\u1ef1a v\u00e0 ch\u1ecdn th\u1ee9 g\u00ec ch\u00fang ta l\u00e0m t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t v\u00e0 to\u00e0n t\u00e2m to\u00e0n \u00fd v\u1edbi n\u00f3.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tuy nhi\u00ean, nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u1eafc k\u1eb9t trong Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n Hai d\u00e0nh ph\u1ea7n l\u1edbn th\u1eddi gian \u0111\u1ec3 t\u1ef1 thuy\u1ebft ph\u1ee5c m\u00ecnh \u0111i\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i. R\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd c\u00f3 gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n. R\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3. R\u1eb1ng cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi h\u1ecd l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n v\u00e0 \u0111i l\u00ean kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd ng\u1eebng, trong khi ai c\u0169ng th\u1ec3 nh\u00ecn th\u1ea5y r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng h\u1ecd ch\u1ec9 \u0111ang d\u1eabm ch\u00e2n t\u1ea1i ch\u1ed7.<\/p>\n

V\u1edbi nh\u1eefng c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n l\u00e0nh m\u1ea1nh, Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n Hai b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u t\u1eeb gi\u1eefa – cu\u1ed1i tu\u1ed5i v\u1ecb th\u00e0nh ni\u00ean v\u00e0 k\u00e9o d\u00e0i cho \u0111\u1ebfn gi\u1eefa \u0111\u1ed9 tu\u1ed5i 20 \u2013 30 ho\u1eb7c gi\u1eefa 30 – 40 tu\u1ed5i. Nh\u1eefng ai v\u1eabn m\u00e3i k\u1eb9t trong Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n Hai th\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi g\u1ecdi l\u00e0 m\u1eafc “H\u1ed9i ch\u1ee9ng Peter Pan” –<\/em> nh\u1eefng k\u1ebb l\u00f4ng b\u00f4ng c\u1ea3 \u0111\u1eddi, lu\u00f4n lu\u00f4n \u0111i t\u00ecm b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh, nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng t\u00ecm th\u1ea5y g\u00ec c\u1ea3.<\/p>\n

Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n Ba: To\u00e0n t\u00e2m to\u00e0n \u00fd (Commitment)<\/h2>\n

M\u1ed9t khi b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1ea9y m\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n v\u00e0\/ho\u1eb7c l\u00e0 bi\u1ebft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng g\u00ec m\u00ecnh k\u00e9m (v\u00ed d\u1ee5: th\u1ec3 thao, ngh\u1ec7 thu\u1eadt n\u1ea5u \u0103n) ho\u1eb7c l\u00e0 hi\u1ec3u r\u1eb1ng c\u00e1c cu\u1ed9c vui s\u1ebd \u0111\u1ebfn l\u00fac t\u00e0n (v\u00ed d\u1ee5: h\u1ed9i h\u00e8, ch\u01a1i \u0111i\u1ec7n t\u1eed, th\u1ee7 d\u00e2m…) th\u00ec b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd c\u00f2n l\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 a) th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 quan tr\u1ecdng v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n, v\u00e0 b) b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ebfn n\u1ed7i qu\u00e1 t\u1ed3i. B\u00e2y gi\u1edd l\u00e0 l\u00fac b\u1ea1n c\u1ea7n ghi d\u1ea5u l\u00ean th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi n\u00e0y.<\/p>\n

Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n Ba l\u00e0 giai \u0111o\u1ea1n t\u1ea1o n\u1ec1n m\u00f3ng v\u1eefng ch\u1eafc cho cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi. B\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 chia tay nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi k\u00ecm h\u00e3m m\u00ecnh. B\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 t\u1ea1m bi\u1ec7t nh\u1eefng tr\u00f2 ch\u01a1i v\u00f4 b\u1ed5, l\u00e3ng ph\u00ed th\u1eddi gian. B\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 gi\u00e3 t\u1eeb nh\u1eefng gi\u1ea5c m\u01a1 ng\u00e0y x\u01b0a m\u00e0 ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafc kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 s\u1edbm th\u00e0nh hi\u1ec7n th\u1ef1c.<\/p>\n

V\u1eady n\u00ean b\u1ea1n c\u1ea7n t\u1eadp trung h\u1ebft s\u1ee9c v\u00e0o th\u1ee9 b\u1ea1n gi\u1ecfi nh\u1ea5t v\u00e0 t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t cho b\u1ea1n. B\u1ea1n c\u1ea7n t\u1eadp trung v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 quan tr\u1ecdng nh\u1ea5t trong \u0111\u1eddi. B\u1ea1n c\u1ea7n t\u1eadp trung v\u00e0o s\u1ee9 m\u1ec7nh duy nh\u1ea5t trong \u0111\u1eddi b\u1ea1n, d\u00f9 l\u00e0 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft cu\u1ed9c kh\u1ee7ng ho\u1ea3ng n\u0103ng l\u01b0\u1ee3ng tr\u00ean th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi hay tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t ngh\u1ec7 s\u0129 v\u1ebd k\u1ef9 thu\u1eadt s\u1ed1 ho\u1eb7c tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t chuy\u00ean gia v\u1ec1 n\u00e3o b\u1ed9, hay c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ee9a con \u0111\u00e1ng y\u00eau ch\u1ea3y \u0111\u1ea7y n\u01b0\u1edbc m\u0169i. D\u00f9 n\u00f3 l\u00e0 g\u00ec \u0111i ch\u0103ng n\u1eefa, Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n Ba l\u00e0 l\u00fac b\u1ea1n ho\u00e0n th\u00e0nh m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 m\u00ecnh ao \u01b0\u1edbc.<\/p>\n

Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n Ba l\u00e0 l\u00fac b\u1ea1n t\u1ed1i \u0111a h\u00f3a kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh trong cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi n\u00e0y. T\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng gia t\u00e0i c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. B\u1ea1n s\u1ebd \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1ea1i g\u00ec cho cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi khi b\u1ea1n ra \u0111i? M\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ebd nh\u1edb v\u1ec1 b\u1ea1n b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch n\u00e0o? D\u00f9 \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u \u0111\u1ed9t ph\u00e1, m\u1ed9t ph\u00e1t ki\u1ebfn m\u1edbi tuy\u1ec7t v\u1eddi hay m\u1ed9t gia \u0111\u00ecnh \u0111\u00e1ng y\u00eau, Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n Ba l\u00e0 l\u00fac b\u1ea1n thay \u0111\u1ed5i th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi n\u00e0y kh\u00e1c \u0111i m\u1ed9t ch\u00fat so v\u1edbi l\u00fac m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c n\u00f3.<\/p>\n

\"Cu\u1ed9c<\/p>\n

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Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n Ba s\u1ebd k\u1ebft th\u00fac khi c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 h\u1ee3p nh\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a hai th\u1ee9: 1) B\u1ea1n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n g\u00ec c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ph\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ea5u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c n\u1eefa, 2) b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 gi\u00e0, m\u1ec7t v\u00e0 th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng m\u00ecnh n\u00ean u\u1ed1ng martini v\u00e0 ch\u01a1i tr\u00f2 gi\u1ea3i \u00f4 ch\u1eef c\u1ea3 cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi c\u00f2n l\u1ea1i.<\/p>\n

\u0110\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi “b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng, Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n Ba th\u01b0\u1eddng k\u00e9o d\u00e0i t\u1eeb kho\u1ea3ng 30 tu\u1ed5i t\u1edbi tu\u1ed5i ngh\u1ec9 h\u01b0u.<\/p>\n

Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ecb m\u1eaft k\u1eb9t \u1edf Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n Ba th\u01b0\u1eddng l\u00e0 do kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft bu\u00f4ng b\u1ecf \u0111am m\u00ea c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 lu\u00f4n ham mu\u1ed1n nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n. Ch\u00ednh v\u00ec v\u1eady h\u1ecd s\u1ebd lu\u00f4n khao kh\u00e1t ph\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ea5u \u0111\u1ebfn t\u1eadn 70 hay 80 tu\u1ed5i.<\/p>\n

Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n B\u1ed1n: Di s\u1ea3n (Legacy)<\/h2>\n

Khi \u0111\u1ebfn giai \u0111o\u1ea1n n\u00e0y, m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 d\u00e0nh kho\u1ea3ng 50 n\u0103m \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea7u t\u01b0 v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 h\u1ecd tin r\u1eb1ng l\u00e0 c\u00f3 \u00fd ngh\u0129a v\u00e0 quan tr\u1ecdng. H\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u tuy\u1ec7t v\u1eddi, l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c ch\u0103m ch\u1ec9, \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 m\u00ecnh c\u00f3, c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t gia \u0111\u00ecnh hay m\u1ed9t qu\u1ef9 t\u1eeb thi\u1ec7n hay t\u1ea1o ra 1 s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ed5i thay to l\u1edbn trong ch\u00ednh tr\u1ecb hay v\u0103n h\u00f3a v\u00e0 gi\u1edd h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 to\u1ea1i nguy\u1ec7n. H\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ed9 tu\u1ed5i m\u00e0 n\u0103ng l\u01b0\u1ee3ng v\u00e0 ho\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng cho ph\u00e9p h\u1ecd theo \u0111u\u1ed5i \u0111am m\u00ea c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh xa h\u01a1n n\u1eefa.<\/p>\n

M\u1ee5c ti\u00eau c\u1ee7a giai \u0111o\u1ea1n n\u00e0y tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 t\u1ea1o ra m\u1ed9t di s\u1ea3n m\u00e0 l\u00e0m sao \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea3m b\u1ea3o n\u00f3 v\u1eabn t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i k\u1ec3 c\u1ea3 khi b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 ra \u0111i.<\/p>\n

Vi\u1ec7c n\u00e0y \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n nh\u01b0 vi\u1ec7c b\u1ea1n h\u1ed7 tr\u1ee3 v\u00e0 r\u0103n d\u1ea1y con ch\u00e1u c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 ng\u1eafm nh\u00ecn ch\u00fang t\u1eadn h\u01b0\u1edfng cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng. B\u1ea1n c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 giao ph\u00f3 l\u1ea1i c\u00e1c d\u1ef1 \u00e1n hay c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh cho c\u00e1c h\u1ecdc tr\u00f2 ho\u1eb7c th\u1ef1c t\u1eadp sinh. B\u1ea1n c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 tham gia v\u00e0o ho\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ed9ng ch\u00ednh tr\u1ecb nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n \u0111\u1ec3 kh\u1eb3ng \u0111\u1ecbnh c\u00e1c gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh trong m\u1ed9t x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i \u0111\u00e3 \u0111i qua qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u x\u00e1o tr\u1ed9n.<\/p>\n

Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n B\u1ed1n r\u1ea5t quan tr\u1ecdng v\u1ec1 m\u1eb7t t\u00e2m l\u00fd b\u1edfi v\u00ec n\u00f3 khi\u1ebfn ch\u00fang ta d\u1ec5 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt r\u1eb1ng ta r\u1ed3i s\u1ebd ph\u1ea3i ch\u1ebft. B\u1edfi v\u00ec l\u00e0 con ng\u01b0\u1eddi, ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t nhu c\u1ea7u s\u00e2u th\u1eb3m mu\u1ed1n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t \u00fd ngh\u0129a g\u00ec \u0111\u1ea5y. Th\u1ee9 \u00fd ngh\u0129a ch\u00fang ta lu\u00f4n lu\u00f4n t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm v\u1ec1 b\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5t ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 c\u01a1 ch\u1ebf t\u00e2m l\u00fd ph\u00f2ng v\u1ec7 ch\u1ed1ng l\u1ea1i s\u1ef1 kh\u00f3 hi\u1ec3u c\u1ee7a cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng n\u00e0y v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 tr\u00e1nh kh\u1ecfi c\u1ee7a c\u00e1i ch\u1ebft. \u0110\u00e1nh m\u1ea5t \u00fd ngh\u0129a \u0111\u00f3 ho\u1eb7c nh\u00ecn n\u00f3 tu\u1ed9t kh\u1ecfi t\u1ea7m tay, ho\u1eb7c t\u1eeb t\u1eeb c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y nh\u01b0 th\u1ec3 th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi n\u00e0y \u0111\u00e3 r\u1eddi b\u1ecf b\u1ea1n l\u1ea1i ph\u00eda sau, kh\u00f4ng kh\u00e1c n\u00e0o ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ed1i di\u1ec7n tr\u1ef1c di\u1ec7n v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 l\u00e3ng qu\u00ean v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3 n\u00f3 nu\u1ed1t ch\u1eedng b\u1ea1n.<\/p>\n

B\u00e0i h\u1ecdc c\u1ea7n r\u00fat ra l\u00e0 g\u00ec?<\/h2>\n

\u0110i qua m\u1ed7i giai \u0111o\u1ea1n cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi gi\u00fap ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 th\u1ecbnh v\u01b0\u1ee3ng c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n.<\/p>\n

Trong m\u1ed7i giai \u0111o\u1ea1n, h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac tr\u1edf n\u00ean ph\u1ee5 thu\u1ed9c nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n v\u00e0o c\u00e1c gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb n\u1ed9i t\u1ea1i, c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t v\u00e0 b\u1edbt d\u1ef1a v\u00e0o c\u00e1c y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i c\u1ee7a th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi kh\u00f4ng ng\u1eebng thay \u0111\u1ed5i.<\/p>\n

\"Cu\u1ed9c<\/p>\n

Xung \u0111\u1ed9t gi\u1eefa c\u00e1c giai \u0111o\u1ea1n<\/h2>\n

C\u00e1c giai \u0111o\u1ea1n sau kh\u00f4ng thay th\u1ebf c\u00e1c giai \u0111o\u1ea1n tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00f3. Ch\u00fang v\u01b0\u1ee3t l\u00ean tr\u00ean n\u00f3. Trong Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n Hai m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1eabn quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ebfn vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c ch\u1ea5p thu\u1eadn. H\u1ecd ch\u1ec9 quan t\u00e2m nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n \u0111\u1ebfn th\u1ee9 g\u00ec kh\u00e1c. Trong Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n Ba, m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1eabn quan t\u00e2m t\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c th\u00fac \u0111\u1ea9y nh\u1eefng gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh. Ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 h\u1ecd quan t\u00e2m nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng cam k\u1ebft m\u00e0 m\u00ecnh \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1eb7t ra.<\/p>\n

M\u1ed7i giai \u0111o\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ea1i di\u1ec7n cho s\u1ef1 x\u00e1o tr\u1ed9n c\u00e1c \u01b0u ti\u00ean trong cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi. Ch\u00ednh v\u00ec l\u00fd do n\u00e0y, m\u00e0 khi chuy\u1ec3n d\u1ecbch t\u1eeb m\u1ed9t giai \u0111o\u1ea1n n\u00e0y sang giai \u0111o\u1ea1n kh\u00e1c, m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u01b0\u1eddng s\u1ebd tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m s\u1ef1 m\u1ea5t m\u00e1t c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n \u0111ang \u1edf Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n Hai v\u00e0 t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n v\u1eabn \u0111ang \u1edf \u0111\u00f3, r\u1ed3i \u0111\u1ed9t nhi\u00ean b\u1ea1n h\u1ea1 quy\u1ebft t\u00e2m, lao v\u00e0o Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n Ba \u0111\u1ec3 x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng s\u1ef1 nghi\u1ec7p, nh\u01b0ng nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh v\u1eabn c\u00f2n \u0111ang \u0111i t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n th\u00ec s\u1ebd x\u1ea3y ra s\u1ef1 m\u1ea5t k\u1ebft n\u1ed1i c\u0103n b\u1ea3n gi\u1eefa c\u00e1c gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n v\u00e0 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd.<\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/div>\n

Th\u1eadt kh\u00f3 \u0111\u1ec3 v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y.<\/p>\n

N\u00f3i chung, m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ebd ph\u00f3ng chi\u1ebfu giai \u0111o\u1ea1n c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd l\u00ean m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi xung quanh m\u00ecnh. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1edf Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n M\u1ed9t s\u1ebd ph\u00e1n x\u00e9t nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c qua kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng h\u1ecd c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn hay kh\u00f4ng. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1edf Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n Hai s\u1ebd ph\u00e1n x\u00e9t nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c b\u1eb1ng kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua c\u00e1c gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 th\u1eed nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 m\u1edbi. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1edf Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n Ba s\u1ebd ph\u00e1n x\u00e9t nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c d\u1ef1a tr\u00ean nh\u1eefng cam k\u1ebft cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng th\u00e0nh t\u1ef1u h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1edf Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n B\u1ed1n s\u1ebd ph\u00e1n x\u00e9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c d\u1ef1a v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb m\u00e0 h\u1ecd b\u1ea3o v\u1ec7 v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 ch\u1ecdn s\u1ed1ng v\u00ec n\u00f3.<\/p>\n

Gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb c\u1ee7a ch\u1ea5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u00e2m l\u00fd (Trauma)<\/h2>\n

Ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n th\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u00f4 t\u1ea3 nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 ti\u1ebfn b\u1ed9 tr\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ea7y hoa l\u1ec7, \u0111i t\u1eeb 1 k\u1ebb ngu ng\u1ed1c \u0111\u1ebfn ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c khai s\u00e1ng – c\u00f3 r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u hoan l\u1ea1c, b\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111i t\u1ef1 h\u00e0o tr\u00ean th\u1ea3m hoa v\u00e0 \u0111\u1eadp tay v\u1edbi 2000 ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1ea1i m\u1ed9t bu\u1ed5i h\u1ed9i th\u1ea3o m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i tr\u1ea3 r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u ti\u1ec1n \u0111\u1ec3 tham d\u1ef1.<\/p>\n

Nh\u01b0ng s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng chuy\u1ec3n giao trong c\u00e1c giai \u0111o\u1ea1n c\u1ee7a cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi th\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c k\u00edch ho\u1ea1t b\u1edfi nh\u1eefng d\u01b0 ch\u1ea5n hay nh\u1eefng s\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n c\u1ef1c k\u00ec ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c. M\u1ed9t l\u1ea7n su\u00fdt ch\u1ebft. M\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c li h\u00f4n. M\u1ed9t t\u00ecnh b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ed5 v\u1ee1 hay s\u1ef1 ra \u0111i c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00e2n y\u00eau.<\/p>\n

V\u1ebft th\u01b0\u01a1ng l\u00e0m ch\u00fang ta l\u00f9i l\u1ea1i v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 l\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ed9ng l\u1ef1c s\u00e2u th\u1eb3m nh\u1ea5t v\u00e0 c\u00e1c quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh m\u00e0 m\u00ecnh \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0a ra. N\u00f3 cho ph\u00e9p ch\u00fang ta suy t\u01b0 v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c li\u1ec7u nh\u1eefng chi\u1ebfn l\u01b0\u1ee3c theo \u0111u\u1ed5i h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng hay kh\u00f4ng.<\/p>\n

\u0110i\u1ec1u g\u00ec l\u00e0m ch\u00fang ta m\u1eafc k\u1eb9t<\/h2>\n

C\u00f3 m\u1ed9t th\u1ee9 l\u00e0m ch\u00fang ta m\u1eaft k\u1eb9t \u1edf m\u1ed7i giai \u0111o\u1ea1n: c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c ch\u01b0a bao gi\u1edd l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ee7.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Gi\u1ea3i ph\u00e1p cho m\u1ed7i giai \u0111o\u1ea1n n\u00e0y l\u00e0 h\u00e3y nh\u00ecn l\u1ea1i.<\/p>\n

V\u00e0 cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi v\u1eabn s\u1ebd ti\u1ebfp di\u1ec5n.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u0110\u1eddi th\u1eadt l\u00e0 kh\u1ed5. B\u1ea1n ch\u1ecbu h\u1ebft kh\u1ed5 r\u1ed3i th\u00ec b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd ch\u1ebft. Theo t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3 Mark Manson<\/strong>, “c\u00e1i kh\u1ed5” \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c chia l\u00e0m 4 giai \u0111o\u1ea1n v\u00e0 sau khi \u0111\u1ecdc b\u00e0i vi\u1ebft n\u00e0y, m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00ean d\u1ef1a v\u00e0o c\u00e1c ph\u00e2n t\u00edch \u0111\u1ec3 xem th\u1eed m\u00ecnh \u0111ang “ch\u1ecbu kh\u1ed5” \u1edf giai \u0111o\u1ea1n n\u00e0o, \u0111\u1ed3ng th\u1eddi, h\u00e3y suy ng\u1eabm v\u00e0 l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn c\u00e1ch s\u1ed1ng th\u1eadt \u0111\u00fang \u0111\u1eafn. Cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi v\u1ed1n “kh\u1ed5” r\u1ed3i nh\u01b0ng b\u1ea1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c quy\u1ec1n ch\u1ecdn “kh\u1ed5” theo c\u00e1ch c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[452],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/40151"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=40151"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/40151\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=40151"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=40151"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=40151"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}