{"id":40155,"date":"2023-12-10T01:54:44","date_gmt":"2023-12-10T01:54:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/14-bai-hoc-nguoc-doi-ve-cuoc-song.html"},"modified":"2023-12-25T08:55:46","modified_gmt":"2023-12-25T01:55:46","slug":"14-bai-hoc-nguoc-doi-ve-cuoc-song","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/14-bai-hoc-nguoc-doi-ve-cuoc-song.html","title":{"rendered":"14 b\u00e0i h\u1ecdc “ng\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1eddi” v\u1ec1 cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng"},"content":{"rendered":"
Tr\u00ean trang Quora, m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi d\u00f9ng \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1eb7t c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi l\u00e0 “What life lessons are counter-intuitive or go against common sense or wisdom?”<\/em> (Nh\u1eefng b\u00e0i h\u1ecdc cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng n\u00e0o m\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed1i l\u1eadp v\u1edbi t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean ho\u1eb7c \u0111i ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i v\u1edbi tr\u00ed kh\u00f4n hay l\u1ebd th\u01b0\u1eddng c\u1ee7a x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i)? C\u00e2u h\u1ecfi n\u00e0y \u0111\u00e3 nhanh ch\u00f3ng nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c b\u00ecnh lu\u1eadn c\u1ee7a r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u \u0111\u1ed9c gi\u1ea3 v\u00e0 d\u01b0\u1edbi \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 14 \u0111\u00e1p \u00e1n ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p nh\u1ea5t m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ecdc c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tham kh\u1ea3o. 1. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n c\u1ef1c k\u00ec gh\u00e9t m\u1ed9t n\u00e9t t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch c\u1ee7a ai \u0111\u00f3 ho\u1eb7c th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean ch\u1ec9 tr\u00edch m\u1ed9t h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3, r\u1ea5t c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u1ea1n c\u0169ng c\u00f3 ch\u00ednh n\u00e9t t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch n\u00e0y ho\u1eb7c t\u1eebng l\u00e0m h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng n\u00e0y.<\/strong> Cha \u0111\u1ebb c\u1ee7a ng\u00e0nh t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc Freud g\u1ecdi \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 “projection” \u2013 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 hi\u1ec7n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng “g\u00e1n l\u00ean ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c nh\u1eefng khuynh h\u01b0\u1edbng trong h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng hay t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch m\u00e0 b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh s\u1edf h\u1eefu nh\u01b0ng l\u1ea1i mu\u1ed1n ch\u1ed1i b\u1ecf”. V\u00ed d\u1ee5, nh\u1eefng ai lo l\u1eafng \u0111\u1ebfn v\u1ebb ngo\u00e0i c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng g\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c l\u00e0 x\u1ea5u x\u00ed, nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1eb7t n\u1eb7ng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 l\u01b0\u01a1ng b\u1ed5ng hay v\u1ecb th\u1ebf th\u01b0\u1eddng ch\u00ea bai ch\u1ec9 tr\u00edch c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c c\u1ee7a k\u1ebb kh\u00e1c \u2013 Khuy\u1ebft danh. 2. H\u00e0nh vi c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n b\u1ecb \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng b\u1edfi m\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng b\u1ea1n \u0111ang s\u1ed1ng ch\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i do \u00fd ch\u00ed c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n.<\/strong> Con ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u1edf n\u00ean \u0111\u00e1ng k\u00ednh hay \u0111\u00e1ng gh\u00e9t, t\u1eadp trung hay ph\u00e2n t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ec1u tu\u1ef3 thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o c\u00e1c t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng v\u00e0 ho\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh. N\u00f3i c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c, t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 n\u00ean b\u00e1n tivi hay ng\u1eebng \u0111\u0103ng k\u00fd d\u1ecbch v\u1ee5 Netflix n\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 t\u1eeb b\u1ecf th\u00f3i quen tr\u00ec ho\u00e3n \u2013 Alan Rutledge.<\/p>\n

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3. Khi b\u1ea1n “ng\u1ed3i l\u1ea1i” v\u1edbi c\u1ea3m x\u00fac c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua n\u00f3.<\/strong> N\u1ebfu tr\u1ed1n tr\u00e1nh vi\u1ec7c ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u00f3n nh\u1eadn m\u1ed9t th\u1ee9 c\u1ea3m x\u00fac kh\u00f3 ch\u1ecbu \u2013 ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ea1n nh\u01b0 b\u1ea1n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ee7 n\u0103ng l\u1ef1c \u0111\u1ec3 h\u1ecdc m\u1ed9t k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng m\u1edbi \u2013 b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd b\u1ecb ch\u00ednh c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c kh\u00f3 ch\u1ecbu n\u00e0y ch\u1ebf ng\u1ef1. Khi b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c r\u00e0o c\u1ea3n t\u00e2m l\u00fd b\u1ea5t l\u1ef1c n\u00e0y, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd ch\u1eb3ng bao gi\u1edd h\u1ecdc \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00e1i g\u00ec m\u1edbi c\u1ea3 \u2013 Alexis Bright. 4. \u0110\u1ec3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00fa v\u1ecb, tr\u01b0\u1edbc ti\u00ean b\u1ea1n h\u00e3y t\u1ef1 h\u1ecfi m\u00ecnh c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi xung quanh th\u00fa v\u1ecb kh\u00f4ng?<\/strong> M\u00ecnh c\u00f3 h\u1ee9ng th\u00fa v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng vi\u1ec7c g\u00ec? B\u1ea3n th\u00e2n nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn, l\u00f4i cu\u1ed1n trong m\u1eaft ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c lu\u00f4n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y b\u1ecb h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn b\u1edfi con ng\u01b0\u1eddi, l\u1ecbch s\u1eed, v\u1ea1n v\u1eadt xung quanh h\u1ecd v\u00e0 v\u00ec th\u1ebf lu\u00f4n kh\u00f4ng ng\u1eebng t\u00ecm t\u00f2i h\u1ecdc h\u1ecfi c\u1eadp nh\u1eadt ki\u1ebfn th\u1ee9c \u2013 Jamie Beckland. 5. Ti\u1ec1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 mua \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac.<\/strong> N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n bi\u1ebft ti\u00eau ti\u1ec1n v\u00e0o m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch \u0111\u00fang \u0111\u1eafn: mua m\u1ed9t chi\u1ebfc gi\u01b0\u1eddng t\u1ed1t gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 gi\u1ea5c ng\u1ee7 ngon v\u00e0 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y tr\u00e0n tr\u1ec1 n\u0103ng l\u01b0\u1ee3ng v\u00e0o s\u00e1ng h\u00f4m sau; thu\u00ea hay mua m\u1ed9t c\u0103n h\u1ed9 g\u1ea7n v\u1edbi ch\u1ed7 l\u00e0m \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3m th\u1eddi gian \u0111i l\u1ea1i. Nh\u1eefng vi\u1ec7c n\u00e0y \u0111\u1ec1u gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y vui v\u1ebb v\u00e0 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac h\u01a1n. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u1ee9ng minh b\u1edfi nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u th\u1ef1c ti\u1ec5n \u2013 Yishan Wong. 6. M\u00e2u thu\u1eabn c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 v\u00f4 h\u1ea1i.<\/strong> C\u00f3 nh\u1eefng lo\u1ea1i xung \u0111\u1ed9t th\u1eadt ra l\u00e0 c\u00f3 \u00edch l\u1ee3i. Vi\u1ec7c tranh lu\u1eadn \u00fd t\u01b0\u1edfng theo c\u00e1ch t\u00edch c\u1ef1c trong nh\u00f3m c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 gi\u00fap l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c nh\u00f3m hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3 h\u01a1n \u2013 Benjy Feen. 7. H\u00e3y ph\u00f4 tr\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111i\u1ec3m y\u1ebfu c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh.<\/strong> N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng gi\u1ea5u gi\u1ebfm nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec3m y\u1ebfu c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, nh\u1eefng k\u1ebb \u0111\u1ed9c \u00e1c s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 l\u1ee3i d\u1ee5ng s\u1ef1 t\u1ef1 ti \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u00eau ch\u1ecdc b\u1ea1n. B\u00ean c\u1ea1nh \u0111\u00f3, b\u1ea1n c\u0169ng s\u1ebd t\u1ecf ra ch\u00e2n th\u1eadt v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e1ng tin c\u1eady h\u01a1n trong m\u1eaft ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c \u2013 Dean L Longmore. 8. L\u01b0\u1eddi bi\u1ebfng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t n\u00e9t c\u00e1 t\u00ednh tuy\u1ec7t v\u1eddi c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u00e0m l\u00e3nh \u0111\u1ea1o.<\/strong> Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u1ef1c k\u1ef3 si\u00eang n\u0103ng kh\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 u\u1ef7 th\u00e1c c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, trong khi nh\u1eefng anh ch\u00e0ng bi\u1ebft l\u01b0\u1eddi “\u0111\u00fang l\u00fac” s\u1ebd r\u1ea5t vui v\u1ebb u\u1ef7 th\u00e1c nhi\u1ec7m v\u1ee5 cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong nh\u00f3m, l\u00e0m cho c\u1ea5p d\u01b0\u1edbi c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c coi tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 v\u00ec th\u1ebf vui v\u1ebb h\u01a1n \u2013 Jeremy Liew.<\/p>\n

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9. Tr\u00ed th\u00f4ng minh kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3.<\/strong> Ngo\u00e0i tr\u00ed kh\u00f4n ra, ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng c\u00f2n c\u00f3 l\u00f2ng ki\u00ean \u0111\u1ecbnh v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 t\u1eadn t\u00e2m \u2013 Will Mitchell. 10. Ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 c\u00e1i ch\u1ebft s\u1ebd c\u00f3 \u00edch cho b\u1ea1n.<\/strong> Chi\u00eam nghi\u1ec7m v\u1ec1 sinh t\u1eed s\u1ebd th\u00fac \u0111\u1ea9y b\u1ea1n suy ngh\u0129 to\u00e0n di\u1ec7n h\u01a1n v\u1ec1 cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec b\u1ea1n mu\u1ed1n \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1ea1i cho \u0111\u1eddi. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y s\u1ebd gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 \u00fd ni\u1ec7m r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng h\u01a1n v\u1ec1 \u00fd ngh\u0129a v\u00e0 ni\u1ec1m vui trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh \u2013 Alice Rebekah Fraser. 11. Con ng\u01b0\u1eddi r\u1ea5t k\u00e9m trong vi\u1ec7c d\u1ef1 \u0111o\u00e1n c\u00e1i g\u00ec s\u1ebd t\u1ea1o ra ni\u1ec1m vui cho h\u1ecd.<\/strong> Ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ea1n, b\u1ed7ng nhi\u00ean \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u0103ng l\u01b0\u01a1ng cao m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch kh\u00f3 hi\u1ec3u s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0m b\u1ea1n vui qu\u00e1 l\u00e2u trong c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c, v\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed9ng l\u1ef1c ph\u1ee5 \u2013 Steve Upstill. 12. D\u1ec5 b\u1ecb t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u1ed1t.<\/strong> Nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i cho th\u1ea5y vi\u1ec7c b\u1ea1n l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi mong manh, “d\u1ec5 v\u1ee1” kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a b\u1ea1n y\u1ebfu \u0111u\u1ed1i. N\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 c\u1ea7u n\u1ed1i cho s\u1ef1 s\u00e1ng t\u1ea1o v\u00e0 th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng trong c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 \u2013 Aimee Whitcroft. 13. M\u1ed9t v\u00e0i c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ebfn t\u1eeb nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1ea1.<\/strong> Nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u cho th\u1ea5y c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p hay b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ebfn t\u1eeb b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 \u0111\u00e2u trong m\u1ea1ng l\u01b0\u1edbi quan h\u1ec7 x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n \u2013 Heidi M. Petersen. 14. “Th\u1ecfa” c\u01a1n gi\u1eadn ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0m b\u1ea1n gi\u1eadn d\u1eef h\u01a1n.<\/strong> Thay v\u00ec t\u00ecm c\u00e1ch “h\u1ea1 ho\u1ea3” th\u00ec vi\u1ec7c th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n s\u1ef1 gi\u1eadn d\u1eef ra b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i hay tr\u00fat gi\u1eadn ch\u1ec9 c\u00e0ng l\u00e0m b\u1ea1n “n\u1ed5i \u0111\u00f3a” \u2013 Brock Atkinson.<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Tr\u00ean trang Quora, m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi d\u00f9ng \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1eb7t c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi l\u00e0 “What life lessons are counter-intuitive or go against common sense or wisdom?”<\/em> (Nh\u1eefng b\u00e0i h\u1ecdc cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng n\u00e0o m\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed1i l\u1eadp v\u1edbi t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean ho\u1eb7c \u0111i ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i v\u1edbi tr\u00ed kh\u00f4n hay l\u1ebd th\u01b0\u1eddng c\u1ee7a x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i)? C\u00e2u h\u1ecfi n\u00e0y \u0111\u00e3 nhanh ch\u00f3ng nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c b\u00ecnh lu\u1eadn c\u1ee7a r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u \u0111\u1ed9c gi\u1ea3 v\u00e0 d\u01b0\u1edbi \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 14 \u0111\u00e1p \u00e1n ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p nh\u1ea5t m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ecdc c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tham kh\u1ea3o.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[452],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/40155"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=40155"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/40155\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":69651,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/40155\/revisions\/69651"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=40155"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=40155"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=40155"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}