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B\u00e0i vi\u1ebft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u0103ng t\u1ea3i tr\u00ean MXH Toutiao (Trung Qu\u1ed1c) \u0111\u00e3 thu h\u00fat s\u1ef1 quan t\u00e2m l\u1edbn c\u1ee7a C\u0110M \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng b\u1eadc l\u00e0m cha, l\u00e0m m\u1eb9.<\/i><\/p>\n

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Khi con trai c\u00f2n h\u1ecdc m\u1eabu gi\u00e1o, t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u d\u00e0y c\u00f4ng v\u1ea1ch ra con \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng th\u00e0nh t\u00e0i c\u1ee7a con.\u00a0L\u00fac \u0111\u00f3 trong \u0111\u1ea7u t\u00f4i ch\u1ec9 ngh\u0129 t\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m th\u1ebf n\u00e0o cho con m\u1ed9t m\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ecdc t\u1eadp t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t, t\u00f4i th\u1eadm ch\u00ed c\u00f2n vay m\u01b0\u1ee3n r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u ti\u1ec1n c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00e2n \u1edf qu\u00ea v\u00e0 l\u1ea5y ti\u1ec1n ti\u1ebft ki\u1ec7m c\u1ee7a hai v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng \u0111\u1ec3 mua m\u1ed9t ng\u00f4i nh\u00e0 g\u1ea7n tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ecdc t\u01b0 t\u1ea1i m\u1ed9t qu\u1eadn t\u1ea1i trung t\u00e2m th\u00e0nh ph\u1ed1 \u0111\u1eaft \u0111\u1ecf\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

D\u00f9 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c x\u00e2y t\u1eeb nh\u1eefng n\u0103m 1980, di\u1ec7n t\u00edch ch\u1ec9 kho\u1ea3ng 60m2, to\u00e0n b\u1ed9 d\u00e2y \u0111i\u1ec7n, \u1ed1ng n\u01b0\u1edbc l\u1ed9 thi\u00ean nh\u01b0ng l\u1ea1i g\u1ea7n m\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng ng\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng ti\u1ec3u h\u1ecdc t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t th\u00e0nh ph\u1ed1.<\/p>\n

Ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta b\u1ea3o b\u01b0\u1edbc ch\u00e2n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u00e0o ng\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng ti\u1ec3u h\u1ecdc n\u00e0y l\u00e0 con s\u1ebd c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t su\u1ea5t v\u00e0o ng\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng c\u1ea5p 2 tr\u1ecdng \u0111i\u1ec3m.<\/p>\n

Sau khi cho con \u0111i h\u1ecdc t\u1ea1i m\u1ed9t tr\u01b0\u1eddng ti\u1ec3u h\u1ecdc danh ti\u1ebfng, t\u00f4i th\u01b0\u1eddng n\u00f3i v\u1edbi con:\u00a0“Con ph\u1ea3i h\u1ecdc t\u1eadp ch\u0103m ch\u1ec9 nghe ch\u01b0a, t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec b\u1ed1 m\u1eb9 l\u00e0m \u0111\u1ec1u l\u00e0 v\u00ec t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai c\u1ee7a con. Ch\u1ec9 c\u1ea7n con c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai <\/span>x\u00e1n<\/span> l\u1ea1n, m\u1ecdi c\u00f4ng s\u1ee9c c\u1ee7a b\u1ed1 m\u1eb9 \u0111\u1ec1u s\u1ebd x\u1ee9ng \u0111\u00e1ng.”<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

T\u00f4i c\u1ee9 ng\u1ee1 v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi n\u00f3i ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh nh\u01b0 v\u1eady, con trai t\u00f4i l\u1edbn l\u00ean s\u1ebd tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh h\u1ecdc sinh gi\u1ecfi nh\u01b0 t\u00f4i mong \u0111\u1ee3i.\u00a0Tuy nhi\u00ean, th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf \u0111\u00e3 cho t\u00f4i m\u1ed9t c\u00e1i t\u00e1t \u0111au \u0111i\u1ebfng.\u00a0<\/span>Con trai t\u00f4i, m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb t\u1eebng r\u1ea5t th\u00edch c\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f9a v\u00e0 chia s\u1ebb m\u1ecdi chuy\u1ec7n v\u1edbi t\u00f4i, d\u1ea7n d\u1ea7n tr\u1edf n\u00ean im l\u1eb7ng h\u01a1n, con th\u1eadm ch\u00ed c\u00f2n t\u1eebng n\u00f3i v\u1edbi t\u00f4i r\u1eb1ng “Con th\u1ea5y kh\u00f4ng kh\u1ecfe, con kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n \u0111i h\u1ecdc”.<\/span><\/p>\n

L\u00fac \u0111\u1ea7u t\u00f4i ngh\u0129 con kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft \u0111i\u1ec1u, th\u1eadm ch\u00ed c\u00f2n m\u1eafng m\u1ecf, tr\u00e1ch con kh\u00f4ng hi\u1ec3u \u00fd t\u1ed1t c\u1ee7a b\u1ed1 m\u1eb9.\u00a0Nh\u01b0ng t\u00ecnh h\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng kh\u00e1 h\u01a1n, m\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i tr\u1edf n\u00ean t\u1ed3i t\u1ec7 h\u01a1n.<\/span><\/p>\n

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C\u00f4 gi\u00e1o ch\u1ee7 nhi\u1ec7m nhi\u1ec1u l\u1ea7n trao \u0111\u1ed5i v\u1edbi t\u00f4i r\u1eb1ng con trai kh\u00f4ng ch\u00fa \u00fd trong gi\u1edd h\u1ecdc, khi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u1ecfi, con lu\u00f4n tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi r\u1eb1ng kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft, th\u1eb1ng b\u00e9 c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng ch\u01a1i v\u1edbi c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n kh\u00e1c sau gi\u1edd h\u1ecdc, ch\u1ec9 n\u1eb1m b\u00f2 ra b\u00e0n bu\u1ed3n b\u00e3.<\/p>\n

Ngay c\u1ea3 gi\u00e1o vi\u00ean c\u1ee7a c\u00e1c l\u1edbp n\u0103ng khi\u1ebfu h\u1ed9i h\u1ecda, di\u1ec5n thuy\u1ebft, Taekwondo m\u00e0 t\u00f4i cho con theo h\u1ecdc c\u0169ng khuy\u00ean t\u00f4i n\u00ean ch\u00fa \u00fd \u0111\u1ebfn con trai m\u00ecnh h\u01a1n, t\u00f4i c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y th\u1ec3 tr\u1ea1ng c\u1ee7a con kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n t\u1ed1t nh\u01b0 tr\u01b0\u1edbc, con th\u01b0\u1eddng m\u1ea5t t\u1eadp trung trong gi\u1edd h\u1ecdc v\u00e0 k\u00eau \u0111au b\u1ee5ng.<\/p>\n

Sau c\u00f9ng, v\u00e0o m\u1ed9t bu\u1ed5i t\u1ed1i, t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng nh\u1ecbn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c n\u1eefa h\u1ecfi con c\u00f2n mu\u1ed1n gi\u1ea3 v\u1edd \u0111\u1ebfn bao gi\u1edd, r\u1eb1ng t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng t\u1ed1n nhi\u1ec1u ti\u1ec1n ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u1ec3 con l\u00e3ng ph\u00ed nh\u01b0 v\u1eady.<\/p>\n

Con trai b\u1ed7ng m\u1ea5t b\u00ecnh t\u0129nh, l\u1edbn ti\u1ebfng h\u00e9t l\u00ean:\u00a0“M\u1eb9 bi\u1ebft kh\u00f4ng, con gh\u00e9t m\u1eb9 v\u00ec \u0111\u00e3 mua c\u0103n h\u1ed9 n\u00e0y, \u00e9p con ph\u1ea3i h\u1ecdc \u1edf c\u00e1i tr\u01b0\u1eddng n\u00e0y, \u00e9p con ph\u1ea3i h\u1ecdc qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u l\u1edbp v\u00e0o cu\u1ed1i tu\u1ea7n. M\u1eb9 lu\u00f4n b\u1ea3o t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 l\u00e0 v\u00ec mu\u1ed1n t\u1ed1t cho con, r\u1eb1ng con c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i bi\u1ebft tr\u00e2n tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 bi\u1ebft \u01a1n. Th\u1ebf m\u1eb9 \u0111\u00e3 bao gi\u1edd h\u1ecfi xem con c\u00f3 mu\u1ed1n s\u1ed1ng v\u00e0 h\u1ecdc t\u1eadp \u1edf \u0111\u00e2y hay kh\u00f4ng? N\u00f3i cho m\u1eb9 bi\u1ebft, con kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n ch\u00fat n\u00e0o, n\u1ebfu c\u1ee9 ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c nh\u01b0 v\u1eady, con s\u1edbm mu\u1ed9n g\u00ec c\u0169ng ph\u00e1t \u0111i\u00ean l\u00ean th\u00f4i.”<\/i><\/span><\/p>\n

Kho\u1ea3nh kh\u1eafc \u0111\u00f3 t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f3c r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u, kh\u00f4ng ng\u1edd “\u00fd t\u1ed1t” c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh l\u1ea1i mang \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ed9t \u00e1p l\u1ef1c t\u00e2m l\u00fd l\u1edbn nh\u01b0 v\u1eady cho con trai.<\/p>\n

Su\u1ed1t th\u1eddi gian qua, t\u00f4i ch\u1ec9 nh\u00ecn v\u00e0o vi\u1ec7c con \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u1ecdc \u1edf m\u1ed9t ng\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng danh ti\u1ebfng ra sao m\u00e0 b\u1ecf qua vi\u1ec7c con c\u00f3 vui hay kh\u00f4ng.<\/p>\n

Ch\u1ed3ng t\u00f4i, ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ed1n lu\u00f4n im l\u1eb7ng, cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng c\u0169ng n\u00f3i:\u00a0“Th\u1eadt ra anh c\u0169ng ngh\u0129 m\u00ecnh \u0111ang th\u00fac \u00e9p con trai m\u00ecnh qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u.\u00a0<\/i><\/span>V\u00e0o h\u1ecdc \u1edf m\u1ed9t ng\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng danh ti\u1ebfng th\u00ec \u0111\u00e3 sao? N\u1ebfu s\u1edbm \u0111\u00e3 ph\u1ea3i ch\u1ecbu s\u1ef1 k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng cao nh\u01b0 v\u1eady c\u1ee7a cha m\u1eb9, con li\u1ec7u c\u00f3 vui v\u1ebb \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c kh\u00f4ng?\u00a0<\/span>Anh ngh\u0129 ch\u00fang ta n\u00ean h\u1ea1 th\u1ea5p k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh xu\u1ed1ng, v\u1eeba l\u00e0 gi\u1ea3m b\u1edbt \u00e1p l\u1ef1c cho hai v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng, v\u1eeba l\u00e0 gi\u00fap con vui v\u1ebb h\u01a1n\u2026”<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

\u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n, suy ngh\u0129 h\u01a1n m\u1ed9t th\u00e1ng tr\u1eddi, cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng, t\u00f4i quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh b\u00e1n nh\u00e0 v\u00e0 chuy\u1ec3n tr\u01b0\u1eddng cho con.<\/p>\n

Sau khi chuy\u1ec3n sang ng\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng kh\u00e1c, con trai c\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00f3i vui v\u1ebb nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n, ch\u1ed3ng t\u00f4i c\u0169ng th\u1edf ph\u00e0o nh\u1eb9 nh\u00f5m, c\u1ea3 nh\u00e0 vui v\u1ebb tr\u1edf l\u1ea1i.<\/p>\n

C\u00f3 l\u1ebd trong th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf c\u0169ng c\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng \u00edt \u00f4ng b\u1ed1 b\u00e0 m\u1eb9 c\u0169ng gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 t\u00f4i c\u1ee7a tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00f3.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ch\u00fang ta n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c \u0111\u1ec3 con \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u1ecdc nh\u1eefng ng\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng danh ti\u1ebfng, lu\u00f4n mi\u1ec7ng n\u00f3i v\u1edbi con “c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng h\u1ecdc cho ch\u0103m ch\u1ec9, m\u1eb9 tr\u00f4ng c\u1eady c\u1ea3 v\u00e0o con \u0111\u1ea5y”, ch\u00fang ta th\u00e0 hy sinh b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n c\u0169ng ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ec3 con \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ed1ng trong m\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t.\u00a0Nh\u01b0ng \u0111i\u1ec1u ch\u00fang ta thu l\u1ea1i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i th\u01b0\u1eddng l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 ch\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1ed1i c\u1ee7a tr\u1ebb.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Tuy\u1ebft, m\u1ed9t c\u00f4 b\u00e9 16 tu\u1ed5i t\u1eeb nh\u1ecf \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0 b\u00e1u v\u1eadt c\u1ee7a cha m\u1eb9.\u00a0V\u00ec sinh Tuy\u1ebft kh\u00e1 mu\u1ed9n n\u00ean cha m\u1eb9 lu\u00f4n mu\u1ed1n cho Tuy\u1ebft m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng v\u1edbi ch\u1ea5t l\u01b0\u1ee3ng t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t.<\/span><\/p>\n

V\u00ec ba m\u1eb9 l\u1edbn l\u00ean trong ho\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh kh\u00f4ng kh\u00e1 gi\u1ea3 nh\u01b0ng v\u1eabn c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ed1t nghi\u1ec7p \u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc n\u00ean h\u1ecd m\u1eb7c nhi\u00ean ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng con c\u00e1i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ba m\u1eb9 cho \u0103n sung m\u1eb7c s\u01b0\u1edbng, v\u1eady th\u00ec th\u00e0nh t\u00edch h\u1ecdc t\u1eadp ph\u1ea3i v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua ba m\u1eb9.<\/p>\n

V\u00ec \u0111\u1ea7u t\u01b0 r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u cho con n\u00ean ba m\u1eb9 lu\u00f4n y\u00eau c\u1ea7u Tuy\u1ebft ph\u1ea3i “\u0111\u1ee9ng h\u1ea1ng nh\u1ea5t trong c\u00e1c k\u1ef3 thi”.<\/p>\n

C\u00f3 l\u1ea7n, ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c 9 \u0111i\u1ec3m trong b\u00e0i ki\u1ec3m tra to\u00e1n s\u1ed1, Tuy\u1ebft b\u1ecb m\u1eb9 d\u00f9ng nh\u1eefng<\/span> l\u1eddi l\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng hay ho qu\u00e1t m\u1eafng.\u00a0Ng\u00e0y qua ng\u00e0y, b\u1ea1o l\u1ef1c b\u1eb1ng l\u1eddi n\u00f3i khi\u1ebfn Tuy\u1ebft ng\u00e0y c\u00e0ng tr\u1edf n\u00ean kh\u00e9p k\u00edn v\u00e0 thi tr\u01b0\u1ee3t k\u1ef3 thi tuy\u1ec3n sinh trung h\u1ecdc ph\u1ed5 th\u00f4ng.<\/span><\/p>\n

D\u00f9 Tuy\u1ebft ch\u1ec9 mu\u1ed1n v\u00e0o m\u1ed9t ng\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng trung h\u1ecdc c\u00f4ng l\u1eadp b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng d\u1ef1a tr\u00ean \u0111i\u1ec3m s\u1ed1 th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, b\u1ed1 m\u1eb9 v\u1eabn chi r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u ti\u1ec1n cho c\u00f4 b\u00e9 h\u1ecdc l\u1edbp ch\u1ecdn c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t ng\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng t\u01b0 c\u00f3 ti\u1ebfng c\u1ee7a th\u00e0nh ph\u1ed1.<\/p>\n

S\u1ed1ng gi\u1eefa c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n h\u1ecdc sinh top \u0111\u1ea7u, Tuy\u1ebft c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y ng\u1ed9t ng\u1ea1t, nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 khi nh\u00ecn th\u1ea5y nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c l\u1eadt s\u00e1ch v\u00e0 \u0111\u01b0a ra \u0111\u1ec1 thi cho nhau, Tuy\u1ebft c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 h\u00f2a nh\u1eadp v\u00e0o kh\u00f4ng kh\u00ed c\u1ee7a l\u1edbp.\u00a0B\u00e0i ki\u1ec3m tra \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean \u1edf tr\u01b0\u1eddng c\u1ee7a Tuy\u1ebft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111i\u1ec3m s\u1ed1 x\u1ebfp cu\u1ed1i l\u1edbp, v\u00e0 c\u00f4 b\u00e9 ngay l\u1eadp t\u1ee9c tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau nghi ng\u1edd v\u00e0 ch\u1ebf gi\u1ec5u c\u1ee7a m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi.<\/span><\/p>\n

M\u1eb9 Tuy\u1ebft v\u1eabn kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ecbu b\u1ecf cu\u1ed9c, nh\u1ea5t quy\u1ebft cho con g\u00e1i v\u00e0o m\u1ed9t l\u1edbp luy\u1ec7n thi v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t gi\u00e1o vi\u00ean n\u1ed5i ti\u1ebfng v\u1edbi h\u1ecdc ph\u00ed \u0111\u1eaft \u0111\u1ecf.\u00a0<\/p>\n

K\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 l\u00e0, \u0111i\u1ec3m s\u1ed1 c\u1ee7a Tuy\u1ebft kh\u00f4ng nh\u1eefng kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u1ea3i thi\u1ec7n, c\u00f4 b\u00e9 th\u1eadm ch\u00ed c\u00f2n ph\u1ea3i ngh\u1ec9 h\u1ecdc.<\/p>\n

\u0110\u00e3 h\u01a1n hai th\u00e1ng k\u1ec3 t\u1eeb ng\u00e0y khai gi\u1ea3ng, Tuy\u1ebft nh\u1ed1t m\u00ecnh \u1edf trong ph\u00f2ng kh\u00f4ng ra ngo\u00e0i, th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean d\u1ecda n\u00f3i: “N\u1ebfu ba m\u1eb9 b\u1eaft con \u0111i h\u1ecdc l\u1ea1i, con s\u1ebd nh\u1ea3y t\u1eeb t\u1ea7ng 28 xu\u1ed1ng”.<\/p>\n

\u0110\u00e2y c\u00f3 l\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p c\u00e1 bi\u1ec7t.<\/p>\n

M\u1ed9t nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc t\u1eebng chia s\u1ebb v\u1ec1 th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf \u0111\u00e1ng bu\u1ed3n c\u1ee7a x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i hi\u1ec7n t\u1ea1i trong b\u00e0i ph\u00e1t bi\u1ec3u c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh:\u00a0“C\u00e1c b\u1eadc ph\u1ee5 huynh c\u1ee9 c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng h\u1ebft s\u1ee9c cho con theo h\u1ecdc nh\u1eefng tr\u01b0\u1eddng luy\u1ec7n thi \u0111\u1eaft \u0111\u1ecf, nh\u01b0ng con tr\u1ebb l\u1ea1i b\u1ef1c b\u1ed9i, t\u1eeb ch\u1ed1i, th\u1eadm ch\u00ed c\u00f3 h\u00e0nh vi ch\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1ed1i l\u1ea1i cha m\u1eb9.<\/i><\/span><\/p>\n

Qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u b\u1eadc cha m\u1eb9 coi vi\u1ec7c g\u1eedi con \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng ng\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng danh ti\u1ebfng l\u00e0 m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau quan tr\u1ecdng nh\u1ea5t trong cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi, h\u1ecd c\u0169ng \u0111\u1eb7t k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng r\u1ea5t cao v\u00e0o s\u1ef1 th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng c\u1ee7a con m\u00ecnh.<\/i><\/p>\n

H\u1ecd lu\u00f4n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecdc v\u1ea5n v\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec3m s\u1ed1 c\u1ee7a c\u00e1c con ph\u1ea3i cao h\u01a1n cha m\u1eb9 v\u00e0 ch\u00fang c\u0169ng ph\u1ea3i ki\u1ebfm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nhi\u1ec1u ti\u1ec1n h\u01a1n cha m\u1eb9 trong t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai, m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng s\u1ef1 s\u1eafp x\u1ebfp n\u00e0y th\u1ef1c ch\u1ea5t l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t lo\u1ea1i ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t.”<\/i><\/p>\n

C\u00e1c b\u1eadc ph\u1ee5 huynh lu\u00f4n mi\u1ec7ng n\u00f3i “ba m\u1eb9 l\u00e0 v\u00ec mu\u1ed1n t\u1ed1t cho con”, nh\u01b0ng c\u00f3 th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 l\u00e0 “v\u00ec mu\u1ed1n t\u1ed1t cho con”?<\/p>\n

N\u1ebfu cha m\u1eb9 ch\u1ec9 s\u1ed1ng v\u00ec con c\u00e1i, d\u00e0nh h\u1ebft t\u00e2m huy\u1ebft cho con c\u00e1i v\u00e0 th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean tr\u0103n tr\u1edf, lo l\u1eafng, h\u1ecd s\u1ebd r\u1ea5t d\u1ec5 truy\u1ec1n nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c n\u00e0y l\u00ean con c\u00e1i c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n

Nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb l\u1ebd ra \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u1ef1 do kh\u00e1m ph\u00e1 cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng l\u1ea1i b\u1ecb cha m\u1eb9 ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t t\u1eeb s\u1edbm v\u00e0 bu\u1ed9c ph\u1ea3i b\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111i tr\u00ean c\u00e2y c\u1ea7u \u0111\u1ed9c m\u1ed9c.<\/p>\n

Nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc ng\u01b0\u1eddi M\u1ef9, Alison Gopnik n\u00f3i:\u00a0“L\u00e0 cha m\u1eb9, ph\u1ea7n th\u01b0\u1edfng quan tr\u1ecdng nh\u1ea5t kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec3m s\u1ed1 v\u00e0 danh hi\u1ec7u c\u1ee7a con, hay th\u1eadm ch\u00ed l\u00e0 l\u1ec5 t\u1ed1t nghi\u1ec7p v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e1m c\u01b0\u1edbi c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 ni\u1ec1m vui v\u1ec1 th\u1ec3 ch\u1ea5t v\u00e0 tinh th\u1ea7n m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y khi s\u1ed1ng c\u00f9ng con c\u00e1i v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng kho\u1ea3nh kh\u1eafc h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac m\u00e0 con d\u00e0nh cho b\u1ea1n.<\/i><\/span><\/p>\n

B\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a cha m\u1eb9 l\u00e0 y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng, b\u1ea1n ch\u1ec9 c\u1ea7n hi\u1ec3u con m\u00ecnh ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p v\u1edbi \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec, c\u1ea7n g\u00ec ch\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i cho \u0111i theo \u00fd mu\u1ed1n c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh.”<\/i><\/p>\n

M\u1ed9t ng\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng danh ti\u1ebfng v\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec3m s\u1ed1 cao \u0111\u00f4i khi kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 m\u00f3n qu\u00e0 t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 tr\u1ebb.\u00a0Ch\u1ec9 khi b\u1ea1n gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u00e0m v\u01b0\u1eddn, cho con m\u1ed9t m\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3 con ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n theo th\u1eddi k\u1ef3 n\u1edf hoa c\u1ee7a ri\u00eang m\u00ecnh, \u0111\u00f3 m\u1edbi l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 b\u1ea3o v\u1ec7 \u0111\u00edch th\u1ef1c m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n d\u00e0nh cho con.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Nh\u00ecn l\u1ea1i tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i “mua nh\u00e0, h\u1ecdc tr\u01b0\u1eddng danh ti\u1ebfng” n\u00e0y, t\u00f4i xin chia s\u1ebb v\u1edbi c\u00e1c b\u1eadc ph\u1ee5 huynh ba \u0111i\u1ec1u:<\/p>\n

1. Bu\u00f4ng b\u1ecf nh\u1eefng k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng cao \u1edf con c\u00e1i<\/b><\/p>\n

L\u00e0 cha m\u1eb9, b\u1ea1n r\u1ea5t d\u1ec5 nh\u1ea7m l\u1eabn nh\u1eefng k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh v\u1edbi k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a con c\u00e1i.\u00a0B\u1ea1n b\u1eaft ch\u00fang nh\u1eadn l\u1ea5y nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n cho l\u00e0 t\u1ed1t v\u1edbi con d\u01b0\u1edbi danh ngh\u0129a “t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 l\u00e0 v\u00ec mu\u1ed1n t\u1ed1t cho con”.<\/span><\/p>\n

V\u1eady cho n\u00ean, khi m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb b\u1ed9c l\u1ed9 nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c nh\u01b0 b\u1ea5t m\u00e3n v\u00e0 bu\u1ed3n b\u00e3, h\u00e3y d\u1eebng l\u1ea1i v\u00e0 nh\u00ecn nh\u1eadn m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng, \u0111\u00e2u l\u00e0 nguy\u1ec7n v\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n, v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e2u l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p v\u1edbi tr\u1ebb.<\/p>\n

Khi nh\u1eadn ra vi\u1ec7c v\u00e0o h\u1ecdc \u1edf m\u1ed9t ng\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng danh ti\u1ebfng ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 nguy\u1ec7n v\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n, t\u00f4i quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh b\u00e1n nh\u00e0 v\u00e0 chuy\u1ec3n \u0111i, ch\u1eb3ng bao l\u00e2u sau, con trai t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 tr\u1edf l\u1ea1i tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i vui v\u1ebb, ch\u0103m ch\u1ec9 h\u1ecdc t\u1eadp v\u00e0 ho\u00e0n th\u00e0nh b\u00e0i t\u1eadp v\u1ec1 nh\u00e0 m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u s\u1ef1 gi\u00e1m s\u00e1t c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i.<\/p>\n

\u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y khi\u1ebfn t\u00f4i hi\u1ec3u r\u1eb1ng khi m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 d\u1ea7n tr\u1edf n\u00ean c\u1ef1c \u0111oan, h\u00e3y quay \u0111\u1ea7u, b\u1edfi l\u1ebd s\u1ef1 tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh c\u1ee7a tr\u1ebb kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 ch\u1ec9 d\u1ef1a v\u00e0o b\u1ea3n k\u1ebf ho\u1ea1ch chi ti\u1ebft do cha m\u1eb9 thi\u1ebft k\u1ebf.<\/p>\n

Ch\u1ec9 b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch bu\u00f4ng b\u1ecf nh\u1eefng k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng qu\u00e1 m\u1ee9c, v\u1ee9t b\u1ecf nh\u1eefng k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng kh\u00f4ng th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf, s\u1ee9c s\u1ed1ng, n\u0103ng l\u01b0\u1ee3ng v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed9ng l\u1ef1c c\u1ee7a tr\u1ebb t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean s\u1ebd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c b\u1ed9c l\u1ed9 ra.<\/p>\n

2. T\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 hi\u1ec3u tr\u1ebb<\/b><\/p>\n

Tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00e2y, t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng h\u1ec1 l\u1eafng nghe \u00fd ki\u1ebfn c\u1ee7a con, t\u00f4i lu\u00f4n cho r\u1eb1ng m\u00ecnh \u0111\u00e3 cho \u0111i r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u nh\u01b0ng con trai l\u1ea1i kh\u00f4ng h\u1ec1 c\u1ea3m nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c.<\/p>\n

Nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc Edward Thorndike \u0111\u00e3 n\u00f3i:<\/p>\n

“Ch\u1ec9 khi nh\u00ecn v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 t\u1eeb g\u00f3c \u0111\u1ed9 c\u1ee7a con c\u00e1i, cha m\u1eb9 m\u1edbi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nhu c\u1ea7u t\u00e2m l\u00fd c\u1ee7a con, t\u1eeb \u0111\u00f3 tr\u00e1nh \u0111\u01b0a ra nh\u1eefng k\u1ebft lu\u1eadn t\u00f9y ti\u1ec7n, gi\u1ea3m b\u1edbt xung \u0111\u1ed9t v\u1edbi con v\u00e0 c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ef1 tin t\u01b0\u1edfng t\u1eeb con.”<\/p>\n

V\u00ec v\u1eady, t\u00f4i d\u1ea7n d\u1ea7n h\u1ecdc c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1m ph\u00e1 nhu c\u1ea7u t\u00e2m l\u00fd c\u1ee7a con trai m\u00ecnh \u1edf \u0111\u1ed9 tu\u1ed5i n\u00e0y v\u00e0 \u0111\u1eb7t c\u1ea3m x\u00fac c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 suy ngh\u0129 c\u1ee7a con l\u00ean h\u00e0ng \u0111\u1ea7u.<\/p>\n

V\u1edbi s\u1ef1 t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 th\u1ea5u hi\u1ec3u, t\u00f4i ng\u00e0y c\u00e0ng hi\u1ec3u t\u00e2m tr\u1ea1ng c\u1ee7a con h\u01a1n, con c\u0169ng c\u1edfi m\u1edf v\u00e0 tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n v\u1edbi t\u00f4i h\u01a1n.<\/p>\n

Ch\u00eca kh\u00f3a \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ebfn g\u1ea7n con c\u00e1i h\u01a1n ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng c\u1ea7u n\u1ed1i giao ti\u1ebfp theo c\u00e1ch con mu\u1ed1n.<\/p>\n

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3. T\u1ea1o kh\u00f4ng gian cho con l\u00e0m nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u ch\u00fang th\u00edch<\/b><\/p>\n

Tr\u1ebb em kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng c\u1ed7 m\u00e1y h\u1ecdc t\u1eadp, ch\u00fang c\u1ea7n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u01b0 gi\u00e3n, gi\u1ea3i tr\u00ed k\u1ecbp th\u1eddi v\u00e0 l\u00e0m nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u00ecnh th\u00edch.<\/p>\n

Bi\u1ebft con trai th\u00edch Lego, t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 d\u00e0nh th\u1eddi gian nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u v\u00e0 th\u1ec9nh tho\u1ea3ng mua m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 m\u00f4 h\u00ecnh kh\u00f3 v\u1ec1 l\u1eafp r\u00e1p c\u00f9ng con.<\/p>\n

M\u1ed7i l\u1ea7n ch\u01a1i, con \u0111\u1ec1u r\u1ea5t t\u1eadp trung, khi l\u1eafp th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng, con kh\u00f4ng gi\u1ea5u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u1ebb t\u1ef1 h\u00e0o v\u00e0 ph\u1ea5n kh\u00edch.<\/p>\n

\u0110i\u1ec1u b\u1ea5t ng\u1edd l\u00e0 sau khi l\u00e0m nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u th\u00fa v\u1ecb n\u00e0y, con v\u1eabn t\u1ef1 m\u00ecnh \u00f4n l\u1ea1i b\u00e0i v\u00e0 t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm nh\u1eefng th\u00f4ng tin li\u00ean quan tr\u00ean Internet, \u0111\u1ed9ng l\u1ef1c h\u1ecdc t\u1eadp c\u1ee7a con c\u0169ng d\u1ea7n t\u0103ng l\u00ean.<\/p>\n

Th\u1eadt v\u1eady, ch\u1ec9 khi \u0111\u1ec3 con c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t s\u1edf th\u00edch, con m\u1edbi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u00ecm th\u1ea5y s\u1ef1 h\u00e0i l\u00f2ng, h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac t\u1eeb ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ee7 n\u0103ng l\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u1ec3 s\u1ed1ng t\u00edch c\u1ef1c.<\/p>\n

T\u00f4i \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t th\u00edch m\u1ed9t c\u00e2u trong cu\u1ed1n s\u00e1ch c\u00f3 t\u00ean “The gardener and the carpenter” (t\u1ea1m d\u1ecbch: “Ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u00e0m v\u01b0\u1eddn v\u00e0 th\u1ee3 m\u1ed9c”) r\u1eb1ng:<\/p>\n

“Y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng con tr\u1ebb kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 cho ch\u00fang m\u1ed9t \u0111\u00edch \u0111\u1ebfn, m\u00e0 l\u00e0 cung c\u1ea5p cho ch\u00fang ngu\u1ed3n dinh d\u01b0\u1ee1ng c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft cho h\u00e0nh tr\u00ecnh c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh”.<\/p>\n

Ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 \u0111o\u00e1n tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai c\u1ee7a con m\u00ecnh, ch\u01b0a n\u00f3i \u0111\u1ebfn vi\u1ec7c ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang.<\/p>\n

M\u1ed9t ng\u00e0y n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3, con c\u00e1i s\u1ebd r\u1eddi xa cha m\u1eb9 v\u00e0 m\u1ed9t m\u00ecnh b\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111i tr\u00ean th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi n\u00e0y.<\/p>\n

Thay v\u00ec \u00e9p tr\u1ebb tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh “con nh\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta”, h\u00e3y t\u1ea1o ra m\u1ed9t m\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p cho s\u1ef1 tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh c\u1ee7a tr\u1ebb, r\u1ed3i \u1edf \u0111\u00f3, ch\u1edd hoa n\u1edf.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\n Ch\u00fang ta n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c \u0111\u1ec3 con \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u1ecdc nh\u1eefng ng\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng danh ti\u1ebfng, lu\u00f4n mi\u1ec7ng n\u00f3i v\u1edbi con \u201cc\u1ed1 g\u1eafng h\u1ecdc cho ch\u0103m ch\u1ec9, m\u1eb9 tr\u00f4ng c\u1eady c\u1ea3 v\u00e0o con \u0111\u1ea5y\u201d, ch\u00fang ta th\u00e0 hy sinh b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n c\u0169ng ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ec3 con \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ed1ng trong m\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t. Nh\u01b0ng \u0111i\u1ec1u ch\u00fang ta thu l\u1ea1i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i th\u01b0\u1eddng l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 ch\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1ed1i c\u1ee7a tr\u1ebb.<\/p>\n<\/h2>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[427],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/70004"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=70004"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/70004\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=70004"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=70004"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=70004"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}