{"id":70823,"date":"2024-03-14T12:48:13","date_gmt":"2024-03-14T05:48:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/trang-thai-limerence-khi-tinh-yeu-tro-thanh-noi-am-anh.html"},"modified":"2024-03-14T12:48:13","modified_gmt":"2024-03-14T05:48:13","slug":"trang-thai-limerence-khi-tinh-yeu-tro-thanh-noi-am-anh","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/trang-thai-limerence-khi-tinh-yeu-tro-thanh-noi-am-anh.html","title":{"rendered":"Tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i Limerence: Khi t\u00ecnh y\u00eau tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh n\u1ed7i \u00e1m \u1ea3nh"},"content":{"rendered":"
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C\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c ch\u00ecm \u0111\u1eafm trong t\u00ecnh y\u00eau c\u00f3 l\u1ebd l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u h\u1ea7u h\u1ebft ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ec1u s\u1ebd tr\u1ea3i qua. \u0110\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t, c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c n\u00e0y c\u00e0ng tr\u1edf n\u00ean m\u00e3nh li\u1ec7t h\u01a1n v\u00e0o l\u00fac t\u00ecnh y\u00eau m\u1edbi ch\u1edbm n\u1edf. Ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 kh\u00f4ng ng\u1eebng suy ngh\u0129 hay n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng, ho\u1eb7c kh\u00f3 l\u00f2ng ki\u1ec1m ch\u1ebf s\u1ef1 ph\u1ea5n kh\u00edch v\u00e0 mong mu\u1ed1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c b\u00ean c\u1ea1nh h\u1ecd. Nh\u01b0ng \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec s\u1ebd x\u1ea3y ra n\u1ebfu t\u00ecnh y\u00eau \u0111\u01a1n thu\u1ea7n ban \u0111\u1ea7u tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh s\u1ef1 m\u00ea \u0111\u1eafm v\u00e0 ni\u1ec1m khao kh\u00e1t m\u00e3nh li\u1ec7t \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ee9c ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c? Nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac \u1ea5y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 kh\u00f4ng thu\u1ed9c v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1, n\u00f3 l\u00e0 bi\u1ec3u hi\u1ec7n c\u1ee7a Limerence \u2013 m\u1ed9t tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i tinh th\u1ea7n m\u00e3nh li\u1ec7t khi y\u00eau, hay n\u1ed7i \u00e1m \u1ea3nh v\u00e0 ham mu\u1ed1n vi\u1ec3n v\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi.<\/span><\/p>\n

1. Tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i Limerence l\u00e0 g\u00ec?<\/b><\/h2>\n

Tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i Limerence x\u1ea3y ra khi b\u1ea1n v\u00f4 c\u00f9ng m\u00ea \u0111\u1eafm, cu\u1ed3ng si m\u1ed9t ai \u0111\u00f3 ngay c\u1ea3 khi h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u00e1p l\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t d\u1ea1ng t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m kh\u00f3 ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t, khi\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n m\u1eafc k\u1eb9t trong n\u1ed7i \u00e1m \u1ea3nh v\u1ec1 \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng. Thu\u1eadt ng\u1eef n\u00e0y l\u1ea7n \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc Dorothy Tenov \u0111\u1eb7t ra v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng n\u0103m 1970 \u2013 khi b\u00e0 th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed9c ph\u1ecfng v\u1ea5n v\u00e0 ph\u00e1t hi\u1ec7n r\u1eb1ng tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t m\u00e3nh li\u1ec7t h\u01a1n ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. Dorothy Tenov c\u00f2n nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c m\u00e3nh li\u1ec7t n\u00e0y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1ebfn b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 ai \u2013 kh\u00f4ng ph\u00e2n bi\u1ec7t gi\u1edbi t\u00ednh, tu\u1ed5i t\u00e1c, v\u0103n h\u00f3a, xu\u1ea5t th\u00e2n\u2026 \u0110\u1ed3ng th\u1eddi, v\u00ec Limerence c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng t\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9ng ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c \u0111\u1ebfn nhi\u1ec1u m\u1eb7t trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng, n\u00ean vi\u1ec7c nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u c\u00e1c bi\u1ec7n ph\u00e1p \u0111i\u1ec1u tr\u1ecb tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i t\u00e2m l\u00fd n\u00e0y \u0111ang l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan t\u00e2m ph\u1ed5 bi\u1ebfn trong gi\u1edbi nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u n\u00f3i chung v\u00e0 c\u00e1c nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc n\u00f3i ri\u00eang.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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\u1ea2nh: Pexels\/Mert Co\u015fkun<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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2. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau v\u00e0 tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i Limerence: \u0110\u00e2u l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t?<\/b><\/h2>\n

T\u00ecnh y\u00eau hi\u1ec7n di\u1ec7n tr\u00ean th\u1ebf gian n\u00e0y v\u1edbi mu\u00f4n m\u00e0u mu\u00f4n v\u1ebb, v\u00ec th\u1ebf r\u1ea5t kh\u00f3 \u0111\u1ec3 c\u1eaft ngh\u0129a t\u00ecnh y\u00eau. Y\u00eau bao g\u1ed3m c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c mu\u1ed1n g\u1eafn b\u00f3 v\u00e0 cam k\u1ebft v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi, l\u00e0 v\u1ecb tha v\u00e0 quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ebfn ni\u1ec1m h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac, c\u1ea3m x\u00fac c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3. Y\u00eau c\u00f2n l\u00e0 mong mu\u1ed1n \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac v\u00e0 t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac hay quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i, Limerence l\u00e0 tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i c\u1ea3m x\u00fac b\u1eaft ngu\u1ed3n t\u1eeb s\u1ef1 chi\u1ebfm h\u1eefu, n\u1ed7i \u00e1m \u1ea3nh, ghen tu\u00f4ng v\u00e0 \u1ea3o t\u01b0\u1edfng. Tho\u1ea1t nh\u00ecn, Limerence c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u00f4ng nh\u01b0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau. Tuy nhi\u00ean, tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i n\u00e0y th\u01b0\u1eddng ch\u1ec9 nh\u1eb1m \u0111\u00e1p \u1ee9ng nhu c\u1ea7u c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi thay v\u00ec mong mu\u1ed1n nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c.<\/span><\/p>\n

Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi r\u01a1i v\u00e0o tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i Limerence c\u00f2n s\u1edf h\u1eefu nh\u1eefng k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng m\u00e3nh li\u1ec7t r\u1eb1ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong m\u1ed9ng s\u1ebd \u0111\u00e1p l\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. H\u1ec7 qu\u1ea3 l\u00e0 h\u1ecd d\u1ec5 tr\u1edf n\u00ean ghen t\u1ecb v\u1edbi b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 n\u00e0o kh\u00e1c c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng. Th\u1eadm ch\u00ed, n\u1ebfu b\u1ecb t\u1eeb ch\u1ed1i, h\u1ecd c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng tr\u1edf n\u00ean t\u1ee9c gi\u1eadn v\u00e0 t\u00ecm c\u00e1ch tr\u1ea3 \u0111\u0169a, b\u1ea5t ch\u1ea5p suy ngh\u0129 hay c\u1ea3m x\u00fac c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia. V\u00ec l\u1ebd \u0111\u00f3, Limerence kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng t\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9ng ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c \u0111\u1ebfn ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i n\u00e0y, n\u00f3 c\u00f2n \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1ebfn c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi xung quanh h\u1ecd.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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\u1ea2nh: Unsplash\/Aimie Lee Bliem<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

3. D\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u c\u1ee7a tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i Limerence<\/b><\/h2>\n

C\u00e1c d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u c\u1ee7a tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i Limerence th\u01b0\u1eddng d\u1ec5 b\u1ecb nh\u1ea7m l\u1eabn th\u00e0nh nh\u1eefng bi\u1ec3u hi\u1ec7n c\u1ee7a t\u00ecnh y\u00eau th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1. Tuy nhi\u00ean, kh\u00e1c v\u1edbi t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi r\u01a1i v\u00e0o tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i Limerence th\u01b0\u1eddng t\u1ed1n kh\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u th\u1eddi gian, s\u1ee9c l\u1ef1c cho nh\u1eefng suy ngh\u0129 v\u00e0 kh\u00e1t khao kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u1ec1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong m\u1ed9ng.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u ph\u1ed5 bi\u1ebfn kh\u00e1c c\u1ee7a t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng m\u00ea \u0111\u1eafm kh\u00f4ng ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t l\u00e0 li\u00ean t\u1ee5c l\u1ea1c trong \u201cm\u00ea cung\u201d suy ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng, ho\u1eb7c c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng l\u00fd t\u01b0\u1edfng h\u00f3a ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ea5y v\u00e0 cho r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd th\u1eadt ho\u00e0n h\u1ea3o. M\u1eb7t kh\u00e1c, Limerence c\u00f2n khi\u1ebfn m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi lu\u00f4n mang trong m\u00ecnh n\u1ed7i s\u1ee3 h\u00e3i b\u1ecb t\u1eeb ch\u1ed1i v\u00e0 t\u00e2m tr\u1ea1ng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd d\u1ec5 b\u1ecb dao \u0111\u1ed9ng, ph\u1ee5 thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng. H\u1ecd c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng tr\u1edf n\u00ean l\u00fang t\u00fang, nh\u00fat nh\u00e1t v\u00e0 v\u1ee5ng v\u1ec1 khi \u1edf b\u00ean ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ea5y; ho\u1eb7c d\u00e0nh qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u th\u1eddi gian \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u1ea3i chu\u1ed1t v\u00e0 l\u00e0m \u0111\u1eb9p ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u1ec3 thu h\u00fat \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u00e1nh nh\u00ecn c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong m\u1ed9ng.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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4. C\u00e1c giai \u0111o\u1ea1n c\u1ee7a tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i Limerence<\/b><\/h2>\n

Theo Dorothy Tenov, tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i Limerence th\u01b0\u1eddng c\u00f3 5 giai \u0111o\u1ea1n, bao g\u1ed3m: Pre-Limerence (ti\u1ec1n Limerence), Pre-Reciprocity (t\u1ea1m d\u1ecbch: ti\u1ec1n t\u01b0\u01a1ng h\u1ed7), Reciprocity (t\u01b0\u01a1ng h\u1ed7), Gradual Dissolution (phai nh\u1ea1t c\u1ea3m x\u00fac) v\u00e0 Post-Limerence (h\u1eadu Limerence).\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u1ede giai \u0111o\u1ea1n th\u1ee9 nh\u1ea5t, b\u1ea1n lu\u00f4n khao kh\u00e1t y\u00eau v\u00e0 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c y\u00eau. Khi \u0111\u00f3, n\u1ebfu m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n v\u00e0 khi\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n rung \u0111\u1ed9ng, h\u1ecd s\u1ebd tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed1i t\u01b0\u1ee3ng Limerence (Limerence object) c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. Giai \u0111o\u1ea1n ti\u1ebfp theo \u2013 giai \u0111o\u1ea1n ti\u1ec1n t\u01b0\u01a1ng h\u1ed7, b\u1ea1n b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm nh\u1eefng d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u cho th\u1ea5y h\u1ecd c\u00f3 c\u00f9ng c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c rung \u0111\u1ed9ng v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n, \u0111\u1ed3ng th\u1eddi l\u1ea1i li\u00ean t\u1ee5c lo s\u1ee3 b\u1ecb t\u1eeb ch\u1ed1i.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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\u1ea2nh: Unsplash\/Ali Karimiboroujeni<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

Trong tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ea5y t\u1eeb ch\u1ed1i t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m, tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i Limerence c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd k\u1ebft th\u00fac tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi b\u01b0\u1edbc v\u00e0o giai \u0111o\u1ea1n t\u01b0\u01a1ng h\u1ed7. Ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i, c\u1ea3 hai s\u1ebd ti\u1ebfn v\u00e0o m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 y\u00eau \u0111\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p n\u1ebfu h\u1ecd \u201cb\u1eadt \u0111\u00e8n xanh\u201d. Khi chuy\u1ec7n t\u00ecnh y\u00eau d\u1ea7n \u0111i v\u00e0o qu\u1ef9 \u0111\u1ea1o, c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c Limerence s\u1ebd d\u1ea7n gi\u1ea3m \u0111i m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean. Dorothy Tenov g\u1ecdi \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 giai \u0111o\u1ea1n phai nh\u1ea1t c\u1ea3m x\u00fac.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Khi r\u01a1i v\u00e0o giai \u0111o\u1ea1n phai nh\u1ea1t c\u1ea3m x\u00fac c\u1ea3 hai \u0111\u00f4i khi s\u1ebd t\u1ef1 h\u1ecfi r\u1eb1ng t\u1ea1i sao c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c say \u0111\u1eafm, m\u00e3nh li\u1ec7t ban \u0111\u1ea7u l\u1ea1i bi\u1ebfn m\u1ea5t. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng trong t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, v\u1eady n\u00ean khi b\u1ea1n v\u00e0 n\u1eeda kia th\u1ef1c h\u00e0nh giao ti\u1ebfp c\u1edfi m\u1edf v\u1edbi nhau, c\u1ea3 hai s\u1ebd ti\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ebfn giai \u0111o\u1ea1n cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng \u2013 giai \u0111o\u1ea1n h\u1eadu Limerence, n\u01a1i m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 tr\u1edf n\u00ean b\u1ec1n ch\u1eb7t v\u00e0 l\u00e0nh m\u1ea1nh h\u01a1n.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

M\u1eb7t kh\u00e1c, v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 c\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i, s\u1ef1 phai nh\u1ea1t trong c\u1ea3m x\u00fac c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn tranh c\u00e3i, \u0111\u1ed5 l\u1ed7i, ho\u1eb7c th\u1eadm ch\u00ed l\u00e0 nguy c\u01a1 tan v\u1ee1. Trong nhi\u1ec1u tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p, ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m Limerence tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00f3 s\u1ebd m\u1ed9t l\u1ea7n n\u1eefa quay l\u1ea1i v\u00f2ng l\u1eb7p Limerence ban \u0111\u1ea7u.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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\u2022\u00a016 d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u cho th\u1ea5y \u201cph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng h\u00f3a h\u1ecdc\u201d ho\u00e0n h\u1ea3o gi\u1eefa b\u1ea1n v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ea5y<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a010 d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u ch\u1ee9ng minh chuy\u1ec7n t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n \u0111ang ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n theo chi\u1ec1u h\u01b0\u1edbng t\u00edch c\u1ef1c<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a010 b\u00ed quy\u1ebft gi\u00fap n\u1eeda kia c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng<\/p>\n

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5. L\u00e0m th\u1ebf n\u00e0o \u0111\u1ec3 v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i Limerence?<\/b><\/h2>\n

C\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c Limerence c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 dao \u0111\u1ed9ng t\u1eeb nh\u1eb9 \u0111\u1ebfn n\u1eb7ng. V\u00ec v\u1eady, m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng c\u1ee7a n\u00f3 \u0111\u1ebfn cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ebd kh\u00e1c nhau, \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi nh\u1eefng gi\u1ea3i ph\u00e1p \u0111a d\u1ea1ng. Sau \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 l\u1eddi khuy\u00ean h\u1eefu \u00edch gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i Limerence.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Th\u1ef1c h\u00e0nh t\u1ef1 nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c\u00a0<\/b><\/h3>\n

T\u1ef1 nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c suy ngh\u0129 v\u00e0 h\u00e0nh vi c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng b\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean h\u01b0\u1edbng b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ef1 thay \u0111\u1ed5i t\u00edch c\u1ef1c. L\u00fd do l\u00e0 khi b\u1ea1n th\u1ea5u su\u1ed1t \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111ang x\u1ea3y ra b\u00ean trong m\u00ecnh, b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u00ecm hi\u1ec3u nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n g\u00e2y ra ch\u00fang v\u00e0 can thi\u1ec7p k\u1ecbp th\u1eddi, hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"c\u00f4<\/p>\n

\u1ea2nh: Pexels\/Zayceva Tatiana<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

Khi b\u1ea1n ph\u00e1t hi\u1ec7n b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng suy ngh\u0129 \u00e1m \u1ea3nh v\u1ec1 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi, h\u00e3y c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng t\u1eadp quan s\u00e1t, nh\u00ecn nh\u1eadn ch\u00fang nh\u01b0 th\u1ec3 b\u1ea1n l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi ngo\u00e0i cu\u1ed9c. \u0110\u1eebng v\u1ed9i ph\u00e1n x\u00e9t b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n n\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u00ecnh \u0111ang r\u01a1i v\u00e0o tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i n\u00e0y, t\u00ecm c\u00e1ch th\u1ea5u hi\u1ec3u v\u00e0 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n quan tr\u1ecdng \u0111\u1ec3 b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua c\u00e1c \u201cc\u01a1n b\u00e3o\u201d c\u1ea3m x\u00fac \u0111ang t\u1ea5n c\u00f4ng d\u1ed3n d\u1eadp. B\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch n\u00e0y, b\u1ea1n \u0111ang t\u1eebng b\u01b0\u1edbc lo\u1ea1i b\u1ecf nh\u1eefng suy ngh\u0129 hay h\u00e0nh vi \u00e1m \u1ea3nh, cu\u1ed3ng si v\u1ec1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong m\u1ed9ng v\u00e0 thay th\u1ebf ch\u00fang b\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u00edch c\u1ef1c h\u01a1n.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

T\u00ecm hi\u1ec3u ki\u1ec3u g\u1eafn b\u00f3 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n<\/b><\/h3>\n

Theo t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc, t\u1eeb giai \u0111o\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ea7u \u0111\u1eddi cho \u0111\u1ebfn khi tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh, m\u1ed7i ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ec1u s\u1ebd h\u00ecnh th\u00e0nh nh\u1eefng ki\u1ec3u g\u1eafn b\u00f3 (attachment style) kh\u00e1c nhau. C\u00e1c nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc cho r\u1eb1ng c\u00f3 b\u1ed1n ki\u1ec3u g\u1eafn b\u00f3 c\u01a1 b\u1ea3n, g\u1ed3m: An to\u00e0n (Secure), lo \u00e2u (Anxious \u2013 Preoccupied), n\u00e9 tr\u00e1nh (Dismissive \u2013 Avoidant), v\u00e0 lo \u00e2u \u2013 n\u00e9 tr\u00e1nh (Anxious \u2013 Avoidant).<\/span><\/p>\n

Tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i Limerence v\u00e0 ki\u1ec3u g\u1eafn b\u00f3 lo \u00e2u \u2013 n\u00e9 tr\u00e1nh c\u00f3 li\u00ean quan m\u1eadt thi\u1ebft v\u1edbi nhau. Tr\u00ean th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf, Limerence c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 c\u1ee7a phong c\u00e1ch g\u1eafn b\u00f3 lo \u00e2u \u2013 n\u00e9 tr\u00e1nh. Theo quan \u0111i\u1ec3m n\u00e0y, tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i Limerence kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i do ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c g\u00e2y ra, \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 c\u1ee7a vi\u1ec7c m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 nhu c\u1ea7u kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u00e1p \u1ee9ng t\u1eeb th\u1eddi th\u01a1 \u1ea5u. V\u00ec v\u1eady, \u0111\u1ec3 v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c Limerence, b\u1ea1n n\u00ean x\u00e1c \u0111\u1ecbnh ki\u1ec3u g\u1eafn b\u00f3 c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng c\u1ee7a n\u00f3 \u0111\u1ebfn b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n v\u00e0 c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7. Sau \u0111\u00f3, b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm nh\u1eefng ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p kh\u1eafc ph\u1ee5c n\u1ed7i s\u1ee3 h\u00e3i, lo \u00e2u v\u00f4 th\u1ee9c \u0111\u00e3 t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i trong ti\u1ec1m th\u1ee9c v\u00e0 ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n ki\u1ec3u g\u1eafn b\u00f3 an to\u00e0n, t\u00edch c\u1ef1c h\u01a1n.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\"c\u00f4<\/p>\n

\u1ea2nh: Pexels\/Nataliya Vaitkevich<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

T\u00e1i c\u1ea5u tr\u00fac nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c\u00a0<\/b><\/h3>\n

T\u00e1i c\u1ea5u tr\u00fac nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c (Cognitive restructuring) l\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c chuy\u1ec3n \u0111\u1ed5i nh\u1eefng suy ngh\u0129 v\u00e0 ni\u1ec1m tin ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c sang nh\u1eefng g\u00ec l\u00e0nh m\u1ea1nh, mang t\u00ednh x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng h\u01a1n. Vi\u1ec7c th\u1ef1c h\u00e0nh t\u00e1i c\u1ea5u tr\u00fac nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t trong s\u1ed1 c\u00e1c gi\u1ea3i ph\u00e1p hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3 gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i Limerence. B\u1edfi l\u1ebd, tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i n\u00e0y xu\u1ea5t ph\u00e1t t\u1eeb nh\u1eefng ni\u1ec1m tin kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 c\u01a1 s\u1edf hay nh\u1eefng v\u1ecdng t\u01b0\u1edfng, r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n c\u1ea7n m\u1ed9t ai \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u1ec3 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac v\u00e0 tr\u1ecdn v\u1eb9n.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u0110\u00f4i khi, nh\u1eefng ni\u1ec1m tin n\u00e0y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 n\u1eb1m s\u00e2u trong ti\u1ec1m th\u1ee9c, khi\u1ebfn c\u00f4ng cu\u1ed9c kh\u00e1m ph\u00e1 g\u1eb7p \u0111\u00f4i ch\u00fat kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n. Nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u1eebng v\u1ed9i n\u1ea3n l\u00f2ng v\u00ec vi\u1ec7c x\u00e1c \u0111\u1ecbnh \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u00fang s\u1ebd gi\u00fap qu\u00e1 tr\u00ecnh t\u00e1i c\u1ea5u tr\u00fac nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n di\u1ec5n ra thu\u1eadn l\u1ee3i h\u01a1n. B\u1ea1n n\u00ean t\u00ecm \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng chuy\u00ean gia uy t\u00edn trong l\u0129nh v\u1ef1c \u0111\u1ec3 th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n li\u1ec7u ph\u00e1p n\u00e0y. \u0110\u1ed3ng th\u1eddi, b\u1ea1n n\u00ean t\u1ef1 th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 th\u00f3i quen t\u00edch c\u1ef1c \u0111\u1ec3 thay \u0111\u1ed5i nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c, nh\u01b0 vi\u1ebft nh\u1eadt k\u00fd ho\u1eb7c nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi kh\u1eb3ng \u0111\u1ecbnh t\u00edch c\u1ef1c. Ngo\u00e0i ra, h\u00e3y cho b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u1ed9t c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u b\u1ea1n lu\u00f4n s\u1ee3 h\u00e3i. Vi\u1ec7c n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua nh\u1eefng n\u1ed7i s\u1ee3, n\u00f3 c\u00f2n g\u00f3p ph\u1ea7n x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng, c\u1ee7ng c\u1ed1 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng ph\u1ee5c h\u1ed3i v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 t\u1ef1 tin c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

N\u00e2ng cao gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n<\/b><\/h3>\n

Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi r\u01a1i v\u00e0o tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i Limerence c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng \u0111\u1eb7t gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n v\u00e0o t\u00ecnh y\u00eau v\u00e0 quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. N\u00f3i c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c, h\u1ecd d\u1ec5 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y kh\u00f4ng tr\u1ecdn v\u1eb9n ho\u1eb7c tr\u1ed1ng r\u1ed7ng v\u00ec kh\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1ee9 t\u01b0\u01a1ng x\u1ee9ng v\u1edbi mong ch\u1edd c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n. \u0110\u1ed3ng th\u1eddi, h\u1ecd th\u01b0\u1eddng c\u00f3 suy ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng n\u1ed7i c\u00f4 \u0111\u01a1n hay bu\u1ed3n ch\u00e1n s\u1ebd bi\u1ebfn m\u1ea5t n\u1ebfu h\u1ecd t\u00ecm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau m\u00ecnh tr\u1ecdn v\u1eb9n v\u00e0 \u0111\u1eafm say.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"c\u00f4<\/p>\n

\u1ea2nh: Pexels\/Avery Arwood<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

Song, vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n d\u1ef1a tr\u00ean nh\u1eefng y\u1ebfu b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i l\u1ea1i kh\u00e1 mong manh v\u00e0 b\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ecbnh. Thay v\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3, vi\u1ec7c h\u1ecdc c\u00e1ch thay \u0111\u1ed5i suy ngh\u0129 tr\u00ean v\u00e0 tin r\u1eb1ng gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng n\u1eb1m \u1edf t\u00ecnh y\u00eau xu\u1ea5t ph\u00e1t t\u1eeb ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, s\u1ef1 ch\u00fa \u00fd t\u1eeb b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i\u2026 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n l\u00e0m ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u1eadn m\u1ec7nh c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n ph\u1ee5 thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 ai \u0111\u1ec3 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac. \u0110\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y, b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 vi\u1ebft, l\u1eafng nghe ho\u1eb7c \u0111\u1ecdc to nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi kh\u1eb3ng \u0111\u1ecbnh t\u00edch c\u1ef1c, l\u1eadp danh s\u00e1ch nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec3m m\u1ea1nh hay nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u b\u1ea1n t\u1ef1 h\u00e0o v\u1ec1 b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n. \u0110\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t, \u0111\u1eebng qu\u00ean tr\u00e2n tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed1i x\u1eed nh\u1eb9 nh\u00e0ng v\u1edbi ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh, b\u1ea1n nh\u00e9!<\/span><\/p>\n

T\u1eadp trung ch\u0103m s\u00f3c v\u00e0 y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh\u00a0<\/b><\/h3>\n

Vi\u1ec7c d\u00e0nh to\u00e0n b\u1ed9 th\u1eddi gian v\u00e0 s\u1ee9c l\u1ef1c \u0111\u1ec3 ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 xu\u1ea5t ph\u00e1t t\u1eeb nhu c\u1ea7u mu\u1ed1n n\u00e9 tr\u00e1nh nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 hay n\u1ed7i s\u1ee3 t\u1eeb th\u1eb3m s\u00e2u trong t\u00e2m h\u1ed3n b\u1ea1n. Song, thay v\u00ec t\u1eadp trung suy ngh\u0129 v\u00e0o ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, t\u1ea1i sao b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng th\u1eed xem b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ed1i t\u01b0\u1ee3ng Limerence c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh? B\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch n\u00e0y, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd d\u1ea7n h\u1ecdc \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00e1ch \u01b0u ti\u00ean b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n, t\u1eeb \u0111\u00f3 ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ed9ng d\u00e0nh nhi\u1ec1u t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, th\u1eddi gian, n\u0103ng l\u01b0\u1ee3ng h\u01a1n cho s\u1ef1 an l\u1ea1c v\u00e0 ni\u1ec1m vui trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

T\u00ecnh y\u00eau l\u00e0 m\u00f3n qu\u00e0 qu\u00fd gi\u00e1 t\u1ea1o h\u00f3a \u0111\u00e3 ban t\u1eb7ng cho con ng\u01b0\u1eddi, khi\u1ebfn ch\u00fang ta tr\u1edf n\u00ean \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t gi\u1eefa th\u1ebf gian n\u00e0y. Nh\u01b0ng s\u1ebd th\u1ebf n\u00e0o n\u1ebfu t\u00ecnh y\u00eau kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n l\u00e0 \u201cli\u1ec1u thu\u1ed1c\u201d xoa d\u1ecbu v\u00e0 g\u1eafn k\u1ebft nh\u1eefng t\u00e2m h\u1ed3n c\u00f4 \u0111\u01a1n m\u00e0 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh n\u1ed7i \u00e1m \u1ea3nh hay ni\u1ec1m v\u1ecdng t\u01b0\u1edfng d\u00e0nh cho m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi? <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[427],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/70823"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=70823"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/70823\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=70823"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=70823"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/masterskills.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=70823"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}